A Relationship Situation

[InExtremis]

Hey Guys hows it going ...

There has been something on my mind for the past few months now (possibly longer) that I would like to get some opinions on. I have been reading the forums for over 2 years now, but stopped revisiting so often after 'aquiring' a girlfriend. We've nearly been together for 2 years and its causing me to ask a few questions. While im quite happy with our relationship and having quite a bit of fun, she is only my 2nd girlfriend. Im 19 years old now and worried that I'll live my younger years away having only one proper relationship. At this stage in my life, I feel that I should be going out and experiementing and having a hell of a lot of fun with different girls so I don't regret this when im 40. Im not saying that I'll be with this girl when im 40, I just don't want to be underexperienced as a young guy and not have very many fun memories when I reach 90 and its all ive got. My mates constantly date a variety of girls over a relatively short time period. I makes me kinda wish I ment this girl when I was a bit older and was more prepared to settle/slow down.

I know its probably more the type of question that only I can answer, but I guess i was hoping that some of you might have been in the same situation, or some of you older DJ's can tell me of experiences or advice if they have every had regrets relating to the same issue.

 

[InExtremis]

Thanks for your opinion, it means a lot to hear someone else's perspective. The other problem is that ive become very close to her family to the point where they refer to me as 'family'. This also makes it hard to break attatchments because i don't wont to lose the closeness I have with them or give them the impression that i don't appreciate the relationship with them, let alone my girl.

 

[InLawsHateMe]

Do what you think will make you most content. It's better to have tried, then regret not trying later.

 

[princelydeeds]

You only live once. Keep banging her but bang and date otehr chicks too. Whats the point of being faithful at 19? I mean life is so short if you do end up marrying this chick I can virtaually guarantee it wont work out long term. At 19, there are so many things and women you have yet to experience why settle when you don't really even know what your options are. It sounds to me like your gettting a little bored/tired of being with one chick. Be nice always be a gentleman but cut teh baggage and keep her around as a close friend/FB.

I had a GF from 16-20 and I cant begin to tell you what a waste of time. cut your losses now and move on tehre are soo sooo many other women out there. Taste all the different flavors before settling on one.

 

[InExtremis]

princelydeeds,

I don't know about banging other chicks but I fully accept you point on how short life is. It seems like a week ago I was 18, before I know it I'll be 20. Youve basically highlighted my problem, as well as giving me your much appreciated opinion. I do feel the need to experience different "flavours", my problem is that im caught in the middle. The other thing that is constantly reminding me of this is being checked out by other chicks (on the train,bus, campus ect.) and thinking ot myself "right now i have the balls to approach that chick, but im attatched".

Then again I don't want to break it off, miss what we had, and stuggle to get another chick. I feel like a bit of a bast4rd writing this but im not going to deny it to myself.

 

[tiburon]

EXCACTLY WHY I SAY ......

""Hey Guys hows it going ...

There has been something on my mind for the past few months now (possibly longer) that I would like to get some opinions on. I have been reading the forums for over 2 years now, but stopped revisiting so often after 'aquiring' a girlfriend. We've nearly been together for 2 years and its causing me to ask a few questions. While im quite happy with our relationship and having quite a bit of fun, she is only my 2nd girlfriend. Im 19 years old now and worried that I'll live my younger years away having only one proper relationship. At this stage in my life, I feel that I should be going out and experiementing and having a hell of a lot of fun with different girls so I don't regret this when im 40. Im not saying that I'll be with this girl when im 40, I just don't want to be underexperienced as a young guy and not have very many fun memories when I reach 90 and its all ive got. My mates constantly date a variety of girls over a relatively short time period. I makes me kinda wish I ment this girl when I was a bit older and was more prepared to settle/slow down.""


This is excactly why i say ...men must mature before comiiting..it is clear you werent very ready for such a commitment and that the love you felt for your girl is gradually declining ..because if you loved her truly ..this wouldnt be a worry. I have been in the same situation and trust me i loved her but my testosterone level was hard to control and when out of control when her attention also started to decline. My best advice would be to worry one day at a time and have fun with your girl if you can and if she isnt treating you good ..end the relationship and move on, if you cheat thats a question that only you can answer for yourself if to saty committed or not , if to be honest to her or not , etc...But listen to EINSTEIN : "dont think of the future it comes soon enough"..so just live each day and dont worry about what may happen; if it does then you will deal with it ...and dont envy your friends because they probably already envy you. A SELF ACTUALIZED MAN IS ONLY WORRY ABOUT IF HE IS HAPPY AND NOT IF THE OTHERS AROUND HIM ARE HAPPIER THAN HIM...READ THE SHUMA GORA BOOK IN THE BIBLE


Tiburon