Hey everyone I am pretty new to this i am 22 and this last weekend i finally went out to the bars for the first time. I mean I have gone out to the bars before with friends and stuff, but I decided to finally do this for first time with the intention of going out there and dancing with chicks, and I am pleased to report that I found it very easy and fun. I found it really easy to approach chicks and just start dancing next to them. Sure a fair amount would move away and obviously didn't show interest but between two nights I danced with 4-5 chicks who were HB 7-9. It is much easier than I had built it up into my mind being here are some observations I made...
1. I found it much easier to hang on the edge of the dance floor sipping a drink to "wade" into the dance floor. I don't mean don't just sit there like a tool with your arms crossed looking like your unhappy, but hang out along the edge bobbing your head to the music and start easing into actually dancing. I found this tactic useful as it was kinda awkward to me to just start dancing, I needed to warm up. By doing this before I knew I was in the middle of the dance floor.
2. I found it pretty easy to approach a girl from behind and just gently touch her on the shoulder to let her know your there. It's very easy and if the girl is interested she will lean back or wont move away and from there you can just move closer and start dancing and grinding. This how I approached most of the girls, though I am assuming that frontal approach with eye contact is probably a stronger way to build attraction.
3. I got there early and notice that right as the dance floor opens up it is mostly girls dancing together in groups. Most guys aren't out on the floor yet, and getting out onto the floor early is probably a good strategy for getting girls attention as you will be one of the few guys out there and it will display confidence. I think I will try this strategy next weekend.
Now some problems...
1. I'm really going to have to work on actually having conversations in this setting while I danced with some girls I really didn't have extensive conversations with any of them as its so damn loud in there it is difficult to do it. I think I will work on my actual approaches and what not in the daytime at the library and around campus so I will have more confidence with this at the club.
2. Need to work on my dance skills... I have the basics of stepping to the beat but I feel like it would help if I developed some better moves to draw girls in more completely and keep them interested.
3. Not sure how aggressive I should be when dancing. A lot of girls totally let me put my hand on their hips, and let me move my hands around on them. Another one totally pushed my hands away, but continued dancing with me... Guess it just depends on the girl?
Any thoughts or suggestions would be appreciated!
1. I found it much easier to hang on the edge of the dance floor sipping a drink to "wade" into the dance floor. I don't mean don't just sit there like a tool with your arms crossed looking like your unhappy, but hang out along the edge bobbing your head to the music and start easing into actually dancing. I found this tactic useful as it was kinda awkward to me to just start dancing, I needed to warm up. By doing this before I knew I was in the middle of the dance floor.
2. I found it pretty easy to approach a girl from behind and just gently touch her on the shoulder to let her know your there. It's very easy and if the girl is interested she will lean back or wont move away and from there you can just move closer and start dancing and grinding. This how I approached most of the girls, though I am assuming that frontal approach with eye contact is probably a stronger way to build attraction.
3. I got there early and notice that right as the dance floor opens up it is mostly girls dancing together in groups. Most guys aren't out on the floor yet, and getting out onto the floor early is probably a good strategy for getting girls attention as you will be one of the few guys out there and it will display confidence. I think I will try this strategy next weekend.
Now some problems...
1. I'm really going to have to work on actually having conversations in this setting while I danced with some girls I really didn't have extensive conversations with any of them as its so damn loud in there it is difficult to do it. I think I will work on my actual approaches and what not in the daytime at the library and around campus so I will have more confidence with this at the club.
2. Need to work on my dance skills... I have the basics of stepping to the beat but I feel like it would help if I developed some better moves to draw girls in more completely and keep them interested.
3. Not sure how aggressive I should be when dancing. A lot of girls totally let me put my hand on their hips, and let me move my hands around on them. Another one totally pushed my hands away, but continued dancing with me... Guess it just depends on the girl?
Any thoughts or suggestions would be appreciated!