Hellboy
Senior Don Juan
Hey I posted this on the Relationship Forum, ,but it's pretty quiet over there. Hope I can get some feedback on here.
It's very true what has been said on here about sosuave detatching you from your emotions. It's one thing being able to pick up a girl, but it's a different world altogether trying to sustain a mutually satisfying relationship. This is something that I have been struggling with since I started to notice girls. I've never been single for long, and have spent most of the last 10 years jumping from one relationship to another. And making the same mistakes.
The last 3 relationships I have had have been failures for different reasons, but mostly because I didn't really appreciate what I had. This led to mistrust and jealousy, and inevitable breakups. I guess it stemmed from being too young and having an urge to play the field. And I guess the DJ teachings didn't help an awful lot. I lacked emotional maturity. If I am honest, I wrecked all 3 right at the start because the trust just wasn't there. A shame because these were gorgeous, caring, smart, creative women.
Since the last breakup I have had a bit of an awakening. I decided to stay single and not jump straight into anything. I would play the field without hurting anyone, and hold off for a girl who is so amazing, so perfect that she just rocks my world. Someone who I enjoy being with so much that I don't even WANT to look anywhere else.
So what brings me here? I have met someone that has left me totally smitten. After spending quality time with this girl the 'game' just doesn't seem appealing any more. I see girls in the street and I think 'no contest'. Things have been perfect with this girl in every way so far. I've known her for a few months but we only got together 2 and a half weeks ago. It's been a whirlwind romance, and we've been acting like we've been together for years and are totally in love.
Our first weekend together was controversial, as her ex was attempting a reunion (I met her through this social circle). But we were mesmerised by each other. and spent a long time talking and sexing. The second weekend we met on saturday night, went out together and then stayed in my room for 18 hours talking, dancing, sexing, cuddling all without even going to sleep. This weekend just passed I whisked her away on an adventure. Friday night we had a luxury cottage next to a castle, and the whole weekend was a plethora of exciting adventures.
I am in total rapture with this girl, and all the signs suggest she feels the same way. She is a carbon copy of how I would describe my perfect woman. Dark, exotic, petite, mysterious, gothy, stylish. Intelligent, spiritual, funny, confident, interesting, creative, considerate, honest, sexy and understanding. We connect. We have total trust. We feel comfortable telling each other anything and don't really hold back. We act like little kids sometimes and think it's hilarious (we're mid-late twenties). We run about on the sand and playfight. We are very affectionate and attentive towards each other. We are totally intune with each other in bed. She is teaching me Greek (her native language). We totally love similar music and clothing styles, beauty, art, nature, adventure.
I'm totally gobsmacked at the relationship we have built up so far. And we're still not 'officially' a couple. We're both a little wary of the discussion as we are both commitmentphobes. But we act like newlyweds.
I know I'm being Mr Negative but I can't help thinking it's too good to be true and it's all going to fall apart. Deep down I know that attitude is what destroyed my previous relationships, but I can't really help it. I am a very paranoid and analytical person and sometimes I feel like I'm looking for signs of a problem a little too closely. Then I get anxious and my conversation skills suffer.
It's all very exciting. And terrifying. But I feel like I have a chance to lay the groundwork for a beautiful and lasting relationship. And at last learn from my past mistakes.
It's very true what has been said on here about sosuave detatching you from your emotions. It's one thing being able to pick up a girl, but it's a different world altogether trying to sustain a mutually satisfying relationship. This is something that I have been struggling with since I started to notice girls. I've never been single for long, and have spent most of the last 10 years jumping from one relationship to another. And making the same mistakes.
The last 3 relationships I have had have been failures for different reasons, but mostly because I didn't really appreciate what I had. This led to mistrust and jealousy, and inevitable breakups. I guess it stemmed from being too young and having an urge to play the field. And I guess the DJ teachings didn't help an awful lot. I lacked emotional maturity. If I am honest, I wrecked all 3 right at the start because the trust just wasn't there. A shame because these were gorgeous, caring, smart, creative women.
Since the last breakup I have had a bit of an awakening. I decided to stay single and not jump straight into anything. I would play the field without hurting anyone, and hold off for a girl who is so amazing, so perfect that she just rocks my world. Someone who I enjoy being with so much that I don't even WANT to look anywhere else.
So what brings me here? I have met someone that has left me totally smitten. After spending quality time with this girl the 'game' just doesn't seem appealing any more. I see girls in the street and I think 'no contest'. Things have been perfect with this girl in every way so far. I've known her for a few months but we only got together 2 and a half weeks ago. It's been a whirlwind romance, and we've been acting like we've been together for years and are totally in love.
Our first weekend together was controversial, as her ex was attempting a reunion (I met her through this social circle). But we were mesmerised by each other. and spent a long time talking and sexing. The second weekend we met on saturday night, went out together and then stayed in my room for 18 hours talking, dancing, sexing, cuddling all without even going to sleep. This weekend just passed I whisked her away on an adventure. Friday night we had a luxury cottage next to a castle, and the whole weekend was a plethora of exciting adventures.
I am in total rapture with this girl, and all the signs suggest she feels the same way. She is a carbon copy of how I would describe my perfect woman. Dark, exotic, petite, mysterious, gothy, stylish. Intelligent, spiritual, funny, confident, interesting, creative, considerate, honest, sexy and understanding. We connect. We have total trust. We feel comfortable telling each other anything and don't really hold back. We act like little kids sometimes and think it's hilarious (we're mid-late twenties). We run about on the sand and playfight. We are very affectionate and attentive towards each other. We are totally intune with each other in bed. She is teaching me Greek (her native language). We totally love similar music and clothing styles, beauty, art, nature, adventure.
I'm totally gobsmacked at the relationship we have built up so far. And we're still not 'officially' a couple. We're both a little wary of the discussion as we are both commitmentphobes. But we act like newlyweds.
I know I'm being Mr Negative but I can't help thinking it's too good to be true and it's all going to fall apart. Deep down I know that attitude is what destroyed my previous relationships, but I can't really help it. I am a very paranoid and analytical person and sometimes I feel like I'm looking for signs of a problem a little too closely. Then I get anxious and my conversation skills suffer.
It's all very exciting. And terrifying. But I feel like I have a chance to lay the groundwork for a beautiful and lasting relationship. And at last learn from my past mistakes.
