BadBoyCoolMan
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want to add some "meat" to my earlier post regarding why being friends with a girl is not necessarily bad. A cool & nice lookin girl can enhance one's social status. This, in turn, translates into getting more girls. It also helps in times of birthdays, club nights, etc when one wants to go out with a girl and not some guys. And having a girl as a friend helps with last minute gift ideas for another friend or family member. lol
Unlike many in this forum, I do not believe that being friends with a girl translates into not being able to have sex with that particular girl. Certainly the risk is there but imagine the following scenario. Boy meets girl and the two become friends. They have lots of fun together. They go to parties, clubs, movies, etc. But G has a boyfriend and B does not get any positive "sexual signals" from G so he decides to stop being friends with her. He no longer talks to her. He wants to act all tough, etc. What is wrong with this picture?
It may be the case that G will never have sex with B. She may have sex with 100 other guys but B. However, by ending the relationship not only does B lose a cool friend and all the other sidekicks that come with that (see above), but jus as important, he eliminates his chances to have sex with G completely. One can argue that maybe now that G and B are no longer friends, G will all of a sudden start seein him as attractive and fxxxable. I disagree.
I believe that if the girl is of high quality (i.e. not a hoe or a complete dumbass), then it is more likely that she will sleep with the guy if she is friends with him and the guy allows the relationship to develop naturally rather than if the guy stops talking to her completely. Of course, this means that they guy should not call her all the time. He should act as if her having a bf does not affect him at all. He should not engage in conversations relating to her problems with her bf. And he should not make his desire to want to fxxx to her obvious. But he should throw some hints. He should be ambiguous. But never act in a overt manner.
I will offer my own case as an example.
There is a girl who I recently met and became friends with. I would say that she is an 8. She is a college sophmore, 20 years old, and believe it or not, a virgin. Yup, you read that right. She is still a V. And yes, she does have a boyfriend. Last week, one of my other friends (my best friend actually) had her birthday party. Because I had had a pg scare with the girl I had been fxxxxing (but that is another story), I completely forgot about the bday until that day when my best friend called me and asked if I was going to her party. I did not have a date so I called the 8 chick. She gladly cancelled her plans & went out with me. She took me to victoria's secret and she helped me pick a gift for my homegirl. She rarely mentioned her bf and the time that she did she did not speak highly of him. In fact, she told me that she was having second doubts about him. I quickly changed the subject because I did not want to engage in a "girlfriend-girlfriend" conversation. She thanked me for inviting her to the party and now wants me to go to the club with her.
I may never have sex with this girl. But that does not mean that I'm a loser because I'm friends with her. I would be a loser if I called her everyday and sshi like that. I havent called her since that day actually. Now, I dont expect her to drop her bf, call me, and tell me that she wants to lose her virginity to me even though she barely knows me. Hell, she is being going out with her bf for 3 months and he still hasnt got the prize.
I know that girls are sexual creatures and want to be xxxxed. Trust me, I have been with plenty of women (17 to be precise). But the women that I have been with (to be completely honest) have not been "high quality." While they are not prostitutes or nothing like that, none of them have been virgins. And I know that the sleep around jus like I do.
I am only 24 years old and I love sex like everyone does. Difference is that I'm actually good at it. lol All jokes aside, sex is cool and all that but having relationships is also important. Life is not all about sex. I may never **** the 8 girl mentioned above but I'm no less of a man because I decide to be friends with her even though she has a bf. It is only when I engage in psycho behavior (calling her, blowing up her phone, buying flowers, asking her out every weekend) that I eliminate my chances of having sex with her.
SEX is awesome but dont live your life with sex as the only goal. Have other goals in life. Make friends. You may not get laid as much but the quality of women will be better.
I know some of you will disagree and that is fine. I will agree to disagree but think about what I said. I hope this helps someone. I have read good tips on this site but I'm afraid that many of the guys here (while they may try to give good tips) tend to focus on immediate (or instant) gratification wayyy too much. Life is sometimes best enjoyed slowly.
Unlike many in this forum, I do not believe that being friends with a girl translates into not being able to have sex with that particular girl. Certainly the risk is there but imagine the following scenario. Boy meets girl and the two become friends. They have lots of fun together. They go to parties, clubs, movies, etc. But G has a boyfriend and B does not get any positive "sexual signals" from G so he decides to stop being friends with her. He no longer talks to her. He wants to act all tough, etc. What is wrong with this picture?
It may be the case that G will never have sex with B. She may have sex with 100 other guys but B. However, by ending the relationship not only does B lose a cool friend and all the other sidekicks that come with that (see above), but jus as important, he eliminates his chances to have sex with G completely. One can argue that maybe now that G and B are no longer friends, G will all of a sudden start seein him as attractive and fxxxable. I disagree.
I believe that if the girl is of high quality (i.e. not a hoe or a complete dumbass), then it is more likely that she will sleep with the guy if she is friends with him and the guy allows the relationship to develop naturally rather than if the guy stops talking to her completely. Of course, this means that they guy should not call her all the time. He should act as if her having a bf does not affect him at all. He should not engage in conversations relating to her problems with her bf. And he should not make his desire to want to fxxx to her obvious. But he should throw some hints. He should be ambiguous. But never act in a overt manner.
I will offer my own case as an example.
There is a girl who I recently met and became friends with. I would say that she is an 8. She is a college sophmore, 20 years old, and believe it or not, a virgin. Yup, you read that right. She is still a V. And yes, she does have a boyfriend. Last week, one of my other friends (my best friend actually) had her birthday party. Because I had had a pg scare with the girl I had been fxxxxing (but that is another story), I completely forgot about the bday until that day when my best friend called me and asked if I was going to her party. I did not have a date so I called the 8 chick. She gladly cancelled her plans & went out with me. She took me to victoria's secret and she helped me pick a gift for my homegirl. She rarely mentioned her bf and the time that she did she did not speak highly of him. In fact, she told me that she was having second doubts about him. I quickly changed the subject because I did not want to engage in a "girlfriend-girlfriend" conversation. She thanked me for inviting her to the party and now wants me to go to the club with her.
I may never have sex with this girl. But that does not mean that I'm a loser because I'm friends with her. I would be a loser if I called her everyday and sshi like that. I havent called her since that day actually. Now, I dont expect her to drop her bf, call me, and tell me that she wants to lose her virginity to me even though she barely knows me. Hell, she is being going out with her bf for 3 months and he still hasnt got the prize.
I know that girls are sexual creatures and want to be xxxxed. Trust me, I have been with plenty of women (17 to be precise). But the women that I have been with (to be completely honest) have not been "high quality." While they are not prostitutes or nothing like that, none of them have been virgins. And I know that the sleep around jus like I do.
I am only 24 years old and I love sex like everyone does. Difference is that I'm actually good at it. lol All jokes aside, sex is cool and all that but having relationships is also important. Life is not all about sex. I may never **** the 8 girl mentioned above but I'm no less of a man because I decide to be friends with her even though she has a bf. It is only when I engage in psycho behavior (calling her, blowing up her phone, buying flowers, asking her out every weekend) that I eliminate my chances of having sex with her.
SEX is awesome but dont live your life with sex as the only goal. Have other goals in life. Make friends. You may not get laid as much but the quality of women will be better.
I know some of you will disagree and that is fine. I will agree to disagree but think about what I said. I hope this helps someone. I have read good tips on this site but I'm afraid that many of the guys here (while they may try to give good tips) tend to focus on immediate (or instant) gratification wayyy too much. Life is sometimes best enjoyed slowly.