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Don Juan
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Firstly guys I want you to know a few things, I do not intend to outreach myself in this post and give advice in areas that I am not properly qualified so simply put I wont. However what I will share is some of my experiences and the attitudes to becoming a Don Juan, be warned this is long but it is not keyboard jockeying so get a pillow, parch yourself on it and mill over the contents below.
Background
A few years back when I was about 16, girls seemed a daunting place full of apparent mysteries that no boy of my age really had any clue about. So what did I do, yes you got it I decided to invest my time, which is the most precious thing of all, to figuring out why I was clueless when it came to women.
Now when I say that I had no clue with women I do not mean that I was in anyway unpopular with girls, I would actually get asked out but when it came to the girls that I wanted, normally the really good looking ones, I was left somewhat wanting. My object back then was the picking up of girls, to be popular and in essence to get dates. This was my criteria for starting out on this path.
The desire to change
One thing about me from a very young age and something that my teachers commented on was that I was my own man, if I didn’t want to do something I wouldn’t, no amount of peer pressure could sway me into doing anything that I did not want to do a good quality. This came with having a strong set or morals but I felt a guilt or at the very least bad for sometimes going against the crowd. I also had a bit of a temper which sometimes meant that I would get violent, it must have been a funny sight, me a small boy at 5ft and about 8 stone having a 6ft, 14stone monster in the corner by the scruff of the neck, no wander I had the nickname of the ‘silent psycho.’ Anyway I was never were I wanted to be with regards to girls, I resented the fact that girls would idiotically date bullish pricks that played sports and almost seemed to snear at guys who where not loud and didn’t fit the same model. This resentment was in fact the seeds that began a change in me, I was not content to feel like I was second fiddle anyone, I was super competitive with a high dosage of testosterone, smart and I knew that with enough time I would out shine those twits.
The Studying Begins
So where did I start, well Brad Pitt of coarse. I had heard all about Brad, his name was synonymous with sex appeal and I made it my mission to understand why he had such an allure over girls. I rented and watched many of his films and to begin with I thought, ‘well if I looked like Brad Pitt then surely I would have all the girls as well.’ It took me a while however to see that this was not the full story, why because for a start he in many ways looked similar to myself but more importantly a lot of the ‘popular guys’ were butt ugly, they didn’t look like brad yet those boys got the good looking girls for whatever reason?!?
Dabbling
At this stage of my life imitation was the name of the game, in my spare time I would watch and practice exactly how Tyler Durden walked and spoke in fight club. This was over the coarse of the summer and when school began next term I had drilled myself and was ready to implement it with the girls that I came in contact with. Guess what, my overall success had started to improve. Eye contact I held for long periods of time normally till they broke it, my walk was different, my demeanor and my attitude. I even began to get looks from the really good looking girls, I knew they fancied me and they knew I knew, imitation in this instance was working very well. Out of the group of girls that I hung about with 6 out of the 7 actually fancied me. How did I know this you ask, well this was because the 7th was in fact my best friends girlfriend, I got the low down from him on how the girls at lunch time would talk about me constantly. There was no doubt that things where working but something was a miss, I just wasn’t at ease with the world or something.
Self Destruction:cuss:
Now in fight club Tyler Durden always spoke about self destruction as the answer, that in order to build something new you had to tear everything previous down. In truth I had enough with the previous years imitation and all the associated attention, sure I had lots of girls liking me but I felt like a fraud, a hollow shell, all physical changes in how I acted but really nothing of substance to back it up except the skills I had learnt and confidence gained which obviously I wanted to keep.
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Background
A few years back when I was about 16, girls seemed a daunting place full of apparent mysteries that no boy of my age really had any clue about. So what did I do, yes you got it I decided to invest my time, which is the most precious thing of all, to figuring out why I was clueless when it came to women.
Now when I say that I had no clue with women I do not mean that I was in anyway unpopular with girls, I would actually get asked out but when it came to the girls that I wanted, normally the really good looking ones, I was left somewhat wanting. My object back then was the picking up of girls, to be popular and in essence to get dates. This was my criteria for starting out on this path.
The desire to change
One thing about me from a very young age and something that my teachers commented on was that I was my own man, if I didn’t want to do something I wouldn’t, no amount of peer pressure could sway me into doing anything that I did not want to do a good quality. This came with having a strong set or morals but I felt a guilt or at the very least bad for sometimes going against the crowd. I also had a bit of a temper which sometimes meant that I would get violent, it must have been a funny sight, me a small boy at 5ft and about 8 stone having a 6ft, 14stone monster in the corner by the scruff of the neck, no wander I had the nickname of the ‘silent psycho.’ Anyway I was never were I wanted to be with regards to girls, I resented the fact that girls would idiotically date bullish pricks that played sports and almost seemed to snear at guys who where not loud and didn’t fit the same model. This resentment was in fact the seeds that began a change in me, I was not content to feel like I was second fiddle anyone, I was super competitive with a high dosage of testosterone, smart and I knew that with enough time I would out shine those twits.
The Studying Begins
So where did I start, well Brad Pitt of coarse. I had heard all about Brad, his name was synonymous with sex appeal and I made it my mission to understand why he had such an allure over girls. I rented and watched many of his films and to begin with I thought, ‘well if I looked like Brad Pitt then surely I would have all the girls as well.’ It took me a while however to see that this was not the full story, why because for a start he in many ways looked similar to myself but more importantly a lot of the ‘popular guys’ were butt ugly, they didn’t look like brad yet those boys got the good looking girls for whatever reason?!?
Dabbling
At this stage of my life imitation was the name of the game, in my spare time I would watch and practice exactly how Tyler Durden walked and spoke in fight club. This was over the coarse of the summer and when school began next term I had drilled myself and was ready to implement it with the girls that I came in contact with. Guess what, my overall success had started to improve. Eye contact I held for long periods of time normally till they broke it, my walk was different, my demeanor and my attitude. I even began to get looks from the really good looking girls, I knew they fancied me and they knew I knew, imitation in this instance was working very well. Out of the group of girls that I hung about with 6 out of the 7 actually fancied me. How did I know this you ask, well this was because the 7th was in fact my best friends girlfriend, I got the low down from him on how the girls at lunch time would talk about me constantly. There was no doubt that things where working but something was a miss, I just wasn’t at ease with the world or something.
Self Destruction:cuss:
Now in fight club Tyler Durden always spoke about self destruction as the answer, that in order to build something new you had to tear everything previous down. In truth I had enough with the previous years imitation and all the associated attention, sure I had lots of girls liking me but I felt like a fraud, a hollow shell, all physical changes in how I acted but really nothing of substance to back it up except the skills I had learnt and confidence gained which obviously I wanted to keep.
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