A little insight...

[Jaun_Don]

I have been seeing this fantastic girl lately and she told me that I rock her world, warm her heart and that she loves the way I look at her as it makes her feel sexy and that she has got that feeling back that she hasnt had for a while...:cheer:

But she also said to me that she wasn't used to 'nice' and she is blown away by me...and all I have done is tell her that she is beautiful and what turns me on about her, be honest, openly communicate, play with her hair (they love this),kiss her neck and ears and be on each others level, it's been a crazy past few years and even though it's only been 5 or so days with this girl we have already discussed that we are going into this long term...man the chemistry with this girl is insane, we can't get enough of each other and all because I was nice...hmmmmmmm...

Yes the kissing,sex is incredible but so is out of the bedroom as well, I have been through some bull**** and I feel like this one is my reward, you have to get through all of the crap to get to the good people and incredible girls.

I also noticed that while that ***** K (ex room mate, long long gone) was living here there was no way in hell that I would be getting any...why?...because she intimidated them when they met her and now that I live with 2 guys it's just seems like it wasn't any real effort and you have nothing to fear but fear itself.

...or something

and remember if people say to you it will happen, have faith because it does...just be you...

peace

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

5 days?

you've been with her 5 days and you're already talking longterm!!!???? It's already over, if you're thinking like that

sure, you can be nice for 5 days and still get the girl... she'll grow tired of it quickly, I guarantee you that, once the novelty of it wears off... the fact that she evn brought up how nice you were should be a little red flag that you should tone the sweetness down.

If she didn't find it odd, she would have never said anything at all.

 

[GirlCrazy]

Where's the insight in all of that?

 

[LeviathanIYG]

Nice isn't bad..............but what type of nice are you?

If you constantly call her beautiful and she actually is better than average looking and sane, it’ll be over quickly.

Then what?

Back to square one man!

-You will come here b*thcing about how it never works for you

-Spend a few months reading posts half of which are writen by KBJ with no real idea

Then what…………

-Suicide maybe

- Orrrr start the same vicious cycle again, over and over again. Flash forward 25 years your 40, you wake up in your old, dilapidated bed sweating and screaming, beside some fat, ugly, controlling b*tch hoping, wishing with every ounce of your being that your whole life from that moment 25 year ago had been one big terrible nightmare.

KNOCK KNOCK anybody home, Does any of this scare you man?

WAKE UP TO YOURSELF........ Half the guys here are here because they are too nice and they fail.

Nice guys finish last. DONT BE TO NICE

What kind of future can you possibly see in this relationship in which you are being so super nice?

The future i foresee is bleak.......... Use your brain and make it bright

Leviathan

 

[tmpgstx]

.. and stay away from girls that give it up too quickly (like within 5 days)! She'll cheat on you later, rest assured.

 

[insidious]

Oh Jaun :woo:

I followed your previous disaster with the sign-girl, and when you mentioned this brand new chick I actually held out some hope...

Of course, that was before I read this post.

Dude are you seeking the Sosuave Punching Bag Championship title? Don't even tell me you guys are talking about that kinda shyt with just less than a week under your belts. If she's not a female AFC, then she is just a cunning user and you better be careful mister!

Some things just cannot be rushed man.

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by insidious
Oh Jaun :woo:

I followed your previous disaster with the sign-girl, and when you mentioned this brand new chick I actually held out some hope...

Of course, that was before I read this post.

Dude are you seeking the Sosuave Punching Bag Championship title? Don't even tell me you guys are talking about that kinda shyt with just less than a week under your belts. If she's not a female AFC, then she is just a cunning user and you better be careful mister!

Some things just cannot be rushed man.

There is no rushing here dude, I mean we just talked about it you know...it is just one of those things, you meet someone and everything clicks...I told her that I didn't want too sleep with her straight away but we wanted each other really badly and it happened...what I mean is it's casual at the moment but we talked about what could happen and we both said I'd like be with you...simple

No AFC here, just a guy that saw a girl he liked and went after her and got her ...

I don't call her beautiful all the time just when she looks really good (which is always)...I am not overly nice either I mean, you make them feel special right but you DON'T pile it on too thick...just at the right times...

I have had so many other relationships in the past and I know exactly what my problem was I went after the chicks that were either too young or just not right for me.

It's that simple...I will put it this way...she is very into me and doesn't want anyone else to have me

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by The Bad Ass Canadian
5 days?

you've been with her 5 days and you're already talking longterm!!!???? It's already over, if you're thinking like that

sure, you can be nice for 5 days and still get the girl... she'll grow tired of it quickly, I guarantee you that, once the novelty of it wears off... the fact that she evn brought up how nice you were should be a little red flag that you should tone the sweetness down.

If she didn't find it odd, she would have never said anything at all.

eh?...you are missing the point here...she told me she isn't used to nice because she usually guys out with guys that treat her like ****...you guys seem to twist my words sometimes.

 

[Jaun_Don]

I don't even know why the **** I bother with this ****?, all of you are ****ing negative and for what?.

I know what the **** I'm doing, when it feels right it all comes naturally...and all you can do is be negative about it...I give up on this board.



lock thread please


why do i ****ing bother...

 

[tmpgstx]

Going out with guys that treat her like crap should tell you that she doesn't have a lot of security and self-esteem within and about herself when it comes to dating and relationships.

Does she have alot of guy friends? How did you meet her - at a bar?

Did you have sex sober or drunk?

What are her parents like?

Has she had alot of guys? Alot of short-term relationships with losers?

 

[LeviathanIYG]

Maybe you should try word your sentences right. It's not us that are twisting your words it is you that’s giving off the wrong impression by your use of words.

"all I have done is tell her that she is beautiful"

Use punctuation and sentences and you won’t have that problem.

 

[Jaun_Don]

you guys have your opinion and I have mine and come on fellas I'm a Man...I have other options on the scene...you must always to avoid dissapointment.

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

I'm not twisting your words. I'm telling you what is probably going to happen. She's used to, and probably very attracted to guys who are a bit rough around the edges. She's gonna start to wonder why you're so nice and probably get uncomfortable with the whole thing, after the initial fire settles down.

I've been in THAT boat many times. I'd love to know how many women just "clicked" and sparks flew. It is the exact same thing, and of course they'd always mention how "nice" I was.... after awhile things changed, but I didn't.... I got more and more needy and pathetic and ended up in the LJBF zone. It never failed... at least up until 4 years ago when I found this place.

So don't tell me that I don't know what I'm talking about, cause I've been EXACTLY where you are countless times. Your feeling the euphoric high where nothing you say can be wrong.. You got the love-blinders up and if you're not careful, you'll blow it.

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by The Bad Ass Canadian
I'm not twisting your words. I'm telling you what is probably going to happen. She's used to, and probably very attracted to guys who are a bit rough around the edges. She's gonna start to wonder why you're so nice and probably get uncomfortable with the whole thing, after the initial fire settles down.

I've been in THAT boat many times. I'd love to know how many women just "clicked" and sparks flew. It is the exact same thing, and of course they'd always mention how "nice" I was.... after awhile things changed, but I didn't.... I got more and more needy and pathetic and ended up in the LJBF zone. It never failed... at least up until 4 years ago when I found this place.

So don't tell me that I don't know what I'm talking about, cause I've been EXACTLY where you are countless times. Your feeling the euphoric high where nothing you say can be wrong.. You got the love-blinders up and if you're not careful, you'll blow it.

I agree but i'm not overly nice...just nice enough, you know i treat her with respect and admiration and make her feel very special...but what from i have learnt i am also very aware of how the female mind works...when she told she wasn't used to nice, I asked what are you used too?and she told me difficult and I said in no uncertain terms oh baby I can be mad difficcult if you want and she said no but I don't want that.

Yeah I guess I am in that high but I don't want to come down and like I said I'm not a silly man I have other 'options' in the wings my friends

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by tmpgstx

Going out with guys that treat her like crap should tell you that she doesn't have a lot of security and self-esteem within and about herself when it comes to dating and relationships.

Does she have alot of guy friends? How did you meet her - at a bar?

Nope off a message board, she has known about me for years...

Did you have sex sober or drunk? we were both high after a night of wine and pizza and a movie, why do you ask this?

What are her parents like?

I haven't met them yet

Has she had alot of guys? Alot of short-term relationships with losers?

Not that many and she hadn't any interest in her for a while...