A Life's Rant

[Where Is My Mind]

For starters, this is a new name for private reasons. If someone reads this and sees its my first post and says read the bible, well your missing what I'm saying. Then for secondary, listen and keep an open mind. Nothing in life is concrete.

My confused friends, I'm here to tell you that life is much more confusing than you imagine it to be. It's tough and when your at rockbottom you will be kicked again, you could just roll over before you get hit. Your friends will leave you at the times you need them most. Your girlfriend will abandon you as soon as she feels any sign that you could have problems besides her. When you have one bad happening, there are many more. And there's no one to help you. Possessions, people and relationships you take for granted are merely ideas, they're not structures you can rebuild.


But life is a rollercoaster, you climb to the top and it seems slow but you move along melodically. But man you hit that peak, you look down and boom your on the bottom. You fall so fast and can't see your surroundings. And you can never tell if you can still go farther down.


The only way I see it is you try to regain ground like in tug of war. You pull back on your life and gain control. It's hard, painful and you sometimes you can't get it back. You just push right through I guess. I'm not saying I'm even close to decent at dealing with adversity, but if you learn something that helps you I'm glad. What I'm saying is your life's structure is something you take for granted and it crumbles easily. You just have to be ready to deal with it and/or avoid it. I doubt you can avoid bad things, but avoid it being grouped. When bad happenings come one after another, it's the hardest.


If you can, just prevent and deal with problems one at a time. And be a self-reliant person, depending on others doesn't work becausue if the others arn't there then what? You need to be able to take care of yourself and stand up for what you want. If there's something in your life you want or need, just step up and go for it. Life is meant to be about you, not anyone else. You don't hope for anything, hope is for the weak. You have wants and needs. Actions you can take and make yourself the person you want to be. Hope is for people that don't take action, if you hope you're kicking yourself back into the hole. "Losing all hope is freedom." You need think about what direction your life is going, are you happy?


"With your feet in the air and your head on the ground
Try this trick and spin it, yeah
Your head will collapse
But there's nothing in it
And you'll ask yourself

Where is My Mind?"

 

[Precursor]

Yes. Be a Self Reliant person.

My Observation: When you spend your time and efforts on yourself, it will make you more appealing to others. Rather than spending your efforts trying to please others, spend it pleasing yourself and others will naturally be attracted to you. Does it sound selfish? It's how it is though.

 

[Where Is My Mind]

Yes. Be a Self Reliant person.

My Observation: When you spend your time and efforts on yourself, it will make you more appealing to others. Rather than spending your efforts trying to please others, spend it pleasing yourself and others will naturally be attracted to you. Does it sound selfish? It's how it is though.

there we go. but im not just talking about self-improvement. self-improvement is seen as someone trying to make up for character they don't have by people, it's obvious in a lot of cases. have you ever seen a weak kid that's maybe not the most popular kid, going to the gym and trying to hangout with the athletes?

It's not about fitting in or doing what others want. Do what you want to do, everyone can't be the same person. Be original. Be the person you want to be.

That may sound cliche, but really try to take that to heart. Because you can easily spot somoeone trying to be a person their not, or really don't want to be. You may all think you want to be the captain of the football team, but what you really want is girls. Just because the media, society and everything else tells you to act a certain way or else your below others in the food chain, does not make this true.
"Sticking feathers up your ass does NOT make you a chicken."

Conviction in life is most important. You need to know what you want and try to get it. Everyone else around you underestimates you, but you have the power and knowledge to beat them. I'm NOT saying to be yourself, I'm saying be the person you want to be. Your wants and desires are totally different than society's. Self-improvement is useless without an intended goal, or knowledge of why your doing it. Figure out what you really want.

 

[Where Is My Mind]

I find it futile to respond to anyone's threads because no one is truely wishing to listen. Just look at the threads on the first page you have : going bowling need advice, dooshbag toldgirl i like her, is this what C&f is?, how do i get this girl?, etc etc. Those are real thread titles and it bothers me. You guys really arn't just trying to live your own life. I mean this is nothing new on sosuave, and I understand because I went through the same phase but guys wake up. Look at the big picture and don't worry about minute details. If your going out bowling just have fun and see if the two of your are actually compatabile. Yes not if shes like you, but if you two have matching personalities. This goes for any date...

Now to address a more major problem...yes this isn't a small one. This is something I learned the hard way like anything else you really take to heart in life.

You need to NOT worry about whether a girl likes you.

I Repeat: "YOU NEED TO NOT WORRY ABOUT WHETHER A GIRL HAS INTEREST IN YOU OR NOT. IT IS VISIBLE AND THIS INSECURITY IS NOW THE GIRL'S TOO."

Especially when you ask a girl this. Some girls really are just NOT affectionate, or harder to open up. But why would a girl want a guy with insecurities? Now she has nothing strong to latch onto. Like anything in life you try to find strong structures you can rely upon. When a structure becomes weak, well you find a new one. The hearts of women are a mystery. I wish to say means things about women right now but I'm not going to write anything subjective.

My point is though just live your own life and worry about yourself. It may sound selfish but you cannot rely on anyone else for support because people do fail you. And most people only worry about themselves, and for good reason. You should have priorities.

So Do NOT worry about whether a woman likes you or not. She will then start to believe she doesn't like you. Just assume she does, and well you'll get a lot more warmer response from her. If you act like she likes you, flirt with her, be caring, and strong; you should be fine. If not, you move on and life takes it's toll.

I'm guessing this will be my rant thread. I don't expect anything I say to be right for people, just my experiences. I just want feedback of what you guys are thinking.

 

[Where Is My Mind]

A Scary Day For The Scareless

A Scary Day That Makes You Feel Nothing

note: if you want to read a post relating to girls go somewhere else, im reviving philosophy

One wonders "What defines 'alive' and 'dead'?"

If one no longer feels anymore, is he really "alive"?

Could you just continue in your everyday "life," if you want to call it, and still be considered living without feeling anything or having any purpose?

I woke up today and thought I was in hell, if there is such a place, I couldn't feel my heart beating.

I've hit rockbottom ladies and gentlemen. And I don't feel a damn thing.

As I sit here now writing this I'm still being traumatized by new events, you see the bad occurrences never end.

Someone almost died two times in the last month or so, one of the times being today. Someone's afraid of going to sleep.

Someone I know likes to do vicodin and did too many.

It's just sometimes one doesn't feel like they have any purpose or people to hold onto for when they're being repeatedly pulled down.

So they're continously dragged further, and further into this bottomless pit.

You think that life's a rollercoaster with inclines and declines.

But you could just be drowning.

And to get out you have to swim with all the pressure pushing you down.

The rollercoaster analogy is said by people who are happy and don't experience many problems, or maybe are just stronger people.

But in my experience life is a giant sea and your stranded with weights attached to your body.

Your going to be need to be able to tread water tremendously well.

As your in this sea approaching things in the horizon look friendly, and could be their to possibly be there to help you.

You see an object that looks like a giant boat coming to help.

Instead it's a rip tide turning into a wave and it knocks you down.

You realize that your very, very alone in the sea.

That's how I've felt this month...

People that usually sort of make you feel semi-happier when you talk to them, or feel like you at least have some sort of connection with them are just inanimate objects.

You can't have a conversation with someone that interests you at all because no one else can relate to how you feel.

And then you feel once again, alone.

With so many people in the world, your isolated, confused and wonder why everything is so foreign to you.

It feels like there's no where you would belong. You have people who try and talk to you but it doesn't matter.

Friends leave as well as relatives,family and girls.

All abandon ship.

Just wonder, where are you going for tommorow?

 

[lifesfun]

Good post, I do not post much because I keep much to myself which is kind of a problem but o well.

I can actually relate to your post a lot. 2 months ago all my last friends left me behind. i was left in a hole with my beliefs and introspection as my only crouch. These in themselves were failing me. in a hole of almost complete failer I sat. and I thought What happened? Everything seemed so bland. No one understood that deeper side to me, I actually made it invisible for their sakes. I tested friends, relative, everyone to see if they could understand. They all failed. So I decided to look back on what I did when I was so inspired. When I had four hot girls ready to make out with me. I looked back to when I was happy and at my peak of my ride. That actually was the answer. That I know the people who can understand my values and etc. will come when I am ready. People will come to bring me up when I am ready not when I think I am ready. And till then I well make the best of my time.

Its ironic, great things come when you are not hoping, or trying to make them happen for them but rather when you let things in your life flow and know that what ever you truly want will come. When bad things happen I know that I am going to get consumed by the illusion of a monster of doubt of my purpose. But that when you look at yourself and realize its not real till you believe its real, and this is the time to say bring it on and face it one on one, and that no fear will keep you back from your purpose or what you have set out to do in your life.

Post anything if you want!