I have know this girl for about 2 years. We met when she was hooking up with a guy I had recently met. Her and this guy continued to hook up, but they were never in a relationship. As time went on, I saw less of her, until we didn't see each other at all, until last spring. We went for coffee one day, as friends, and got along great, but I was in a relationsip with another girl. This fall, we hung out a bit at the beginning of the semester, and one night we went out partying. Back at her friends place, I went outside for a smoke, and she came out one minute later. We talked, and we left together. I invited her to my apartment, which she accepted, and I dunno what happened, but she suddenly got up and left pretty quickly. A week later, she called me to come over and watch a movie (she was sick), but I told her I was hanging out with friends (which I was). From that time on, I've seen her around campus and we've talked a bunch, but every time she tells me she's gonna call me to hang out, she never does. I finally saw her today, and she said she wanted to hang out with me, cause all she's been doing is work and hasn't seen people in a while. She said she'd call tonight, which she did not do. Her vibe seems to tell me she's in to me, but I am not quite sure. How can I find out. How should I 'play the game' from here on in. Thanks.
A) is she interested, B) what do I do?
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StrivetoThrive
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dude bro,
with the information you hath presented this fourm with, it would appear as though this girl is an acquaintance and nothing more. You guys have "known" each other for 2 years....if you wanted to get your mack on, you should have done it 2 years ago not more than 3 seconds after the time you laid eyes on her.
Look at her actions, and do not focus on her words. This may be chauvinist, whatever, but a lot of things that women say are complete and utter garbage. She says she wants to hang out. But you say when she says shes gonna call to hang out she NEVER DOES. Also, she was in your hizzy- and she bounced for no reason. Actions speak louder than words. Now try using your gut instinct. I think you will find that you can see her and be friendly and whatnot, but as far as spending your time trying to get with her goes, forget about it. But alas, not all the news is bad. If you play your cards right, and are friendly and stuff, maybe you can meet one of her friends/ and or use her as social proof at a party if you happen to run into her.
dude bro,
with the information you hath presented this fourm with, it would appear as though this girl is an acquaintance and nothing more. You guys have "known" each other for 2 years....if you wanted to get your mack on, you should have done it 2 years ago not more than 3 seconds after the time you laid eyes on her.
Look at her actions, and do not focus on her words. This may be chauvinist, whatever, but a lot of things that women say are complete and utter garbage. She says she wants to hang out. But you say when she says shes gonna call to hang out she NEVER DOES. Also, she was in your hizzy- and she bounced for no reason. Actions speak louder than words. Now try using your gut instinct. I think you will find that you can see her and be friendly and whatnot, but as far as spending your time trying to get with her goes, forget about it. But alas, not all the news is bad. If you play your cards right, and are friendly and stuff, maybe you can meet one of her friends/ and or use her as social proof at a party if you happen to run into her.
drixsa
Master Don Juan
we, men, get the numbers cause girls arent that good at it
the thing is that she called you to watch a movie while she was sick and usually that isnt a good sign
it usually means your in the "LJBF" zone
lets-just-be-friends
so call if you want but dont exspect big results
if it goes well then make a move (if you two make it that far)
the thing is that she called you to watch a movie while she was sick and usually that isnt a good sign
it usually means your in the "LJBF" zone
lets-just-be-friends
so call if you want but dont exspect big results
if it goes well then make a move (if you two make it that far)
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
Bro this girl is what I liked to call a "cordial attention *****." Let me explain. She's the type of girl that try's to please everyone when she knows that there's not enough of her to go around. She's a huge social butterfly, has tons of friends and always tells these people "we should hangout" or "I haven't seen you in so long." When in actuality if she really missed these people or wanted to see them, she knows they're only a phone call away. Sorry but it get's worse. This is only from a friendship standpoint.
As far as getting your groove on with this broad?? FUG-GET-A-BOUT IT!! She's disprespected you about a hundred times by telling you she'd call when she doesn't. If you stick around you'll look like a huge chump in her eyes and she'll know that she's got you wrapped around her finger.
My suggestion is to be friendly with her when you see her around campus but that's it!! DO NOT go out of your way to call her, talk to her or try and hang out with her. Think about this scenario for a second. If you met a HB and got her #, you would definitely call her if you were interested. If you were only slightly interested or not interested at all, you'd probably not call.
Bottom Line: She's not interested!!
Not trying to sound harsh, but sometimes being blunt is the best "slap in the face" I can give you over the internet so you resume your DJ career.
PIMP
As far as getting your groove on with this broad?? FUG-GET-A-BOUT IT!! She's disprespected you about a hundred times by telling you she'd call when she doesn't. If you stick around you'll look like a huge chump in her eyes and she'll know that she's got you wrapped around her finger.
My suggestion is to be friendly with her when you see her around campus but that's it!! DO NOT go out of your way to call her, talk to her or try and hang out with her. Think about this scenario for a second. If you met a HB and got her #, you would definitely call her if you were interested. If you were only slightly interested or not interested at all, you'd probably not call.
Bottom Line: She's not interested!!
Not trying to sound harsh, but sometimes being blunt is the best "slap in the face" I can give you over the internet so you resume your DJ career.
PIMP
Heres an update!!! So last night her and I were drinking 40s together at her place. We're getting drunk, laughing, all this stuff, so she says she's tired. Now I drove there, and she was sobering up, so we hop in my car for her to drive me home. In my parking lot to my apt., we're about to get out of the car, and I say, "you know I'm not letting you go without a kiss." So she says she sort of knew that was coming, she can't do it cause we're friends, and that she is off and on with her boyfriend, and she hasn't hooked up with anyone this semester. Also she would be uncomfortable, and I put her in an awkward situation. So I tell her she's awsome, and that I won't meet anyone else at school like her, and I'd be dumb for letting her go. She complains that things will now be awkward, and we awkwardly get out of the car and walk towards my place. She says goodbye, and gives me a hug saying she doesn't want it to be wierd...so I tell her we still need to talk about it, and we go up to my room. Once there it's the same thing...it'll be wierd, and she is in a wierd place with her BF (who doesn't seem like a BF to me). But her resistance is sort of waring down, and she says, "I feel the same way, but..." So I kiss her and we start making out for a few minutes. Then we stop and she keeps up the same line, "awkard, can't do this, feel uncomfortable...AND THEN, she says, "you want me to leave, don't you?" I said, "yeah, I think that's best. I wish things went different, but what can I do?" Thing is, she wasn't going anywhere, she just kept looking at me. SOOOO, I started ever so gently rubbing her hands. The first swipe I see her eyes close. I stop for a sec, and rub again; this time the eyes close and the head goes back...I kiss again, and you can use your imagination for the rest!
This was the first time I tried Kino, and it worked so good!!! So good. Can't underestimate it. OK, so the question. She went home after this, didn't stay over. It's clear now that the friends thing is gone, but I don't want things to be awkward. I want her to want me. I want to see where this coudl go. How can I proceed from here DJ style? Thanks!!!
This was the first time I tried Kino, and it worked so good!!! So good. Can't underestimate it. OK, so the question. She went home after this, didn't stay over. It's clear now that the friends thing is gone, but I don't want things to be awkward. I want her to want me. I want to see where this coudl go. How can I proceed from here DJ style? Thanks!!!
NewMan
Master Don Juan
Yeah start thinking about other girls....
But don't ditch this one quite yet.
I would just give her a call - be relaxed no pressure or stress - just see how she's doing and don't mention her BF.
Then casually tell her you'd like to hook up again - perhaps on WHATEVERDAY - to DO-SOMETHING-FUN.
The thing here is to be casual - not to put pressure on her or ask her BS questions about her BF and what's going on.
Your the fun guy she's going to hang with - and if she agree's to meet you again, she'll probably bang you again.
Just remember - you want to try and make it look like it's her making the decision - and not you forcing the issue. So lay the groundwork - be causual ****y and funny and use kino.
But don't ditch this one quite yet.
I would just give her a call - be relaxed no pressure or stress - just see how she's doing and don't mention her BF.
Then casually tell her you'd like to hook up again - perhaps on WHATEVERDAY - to DO-SOMETHING-FUN.
The thing here is to be casual - not to put pressure on her or ask her BS questions about her BF and what's going on.
Your the fun guy she's going to hang with - and if she agree's to meet you again, she'll probably bang you again.
Just remember - you want to try and make it look like it's her making the decision - and not you forcing the issue. So lay the groundwork - be causual ****y and funny and use kino.
Walden
Master Don Juan
Does she have a powerful upper body?
Id her house full of marble slabs?
Does she own a lot of diamond tipped chisels?
No?
In that case she is unlikely to be preparing an engraved invitation , so you should just harden the ƒuck up and ask her out.
Id her house full of marble slabs?
Does she own a lot of diamond tipped chisels?
No?
In that case she is unlikely to be preparing an engraved invitation , so you should just harden the ƒuck up and ask her out.
drixsa
Master Don Juan
i think u have got a very very good shot
the girl is definatley feelin you but isnt sure if she wants to settle for you.
why do i use such a harsh word?
b/c if her b/c doesnt come around youll be a nice 2nd place
think about it
the girl is definatley feelin you but isnt sure if she wants to settle for you.
why do i use such a harsh word?
b/c if her b/c doesnt come around youll be a nice 2nd place
think about it
