At times, trying to control a frame results in actually being an Attention *****. Someone who needs to be the center of attention every moment, without bringing value or fun to the moment, ends up just looking like a needy ass. Instead, the better path is to integrate INTO the moment, the frames, and retain empowering thoughts ABOUT yourself.
Recall times when you were at your best and bring them to NOW. If you have to, wear those clothes, use those lines, bring 1 of those people along, drink that drink, listen to that tune (very powerful), or anything about the past.
Songs are empowering for many people, because a song linked to a video, say a hardrock song, might pump you up at the gym. Additionally, if its the first time you end up with a girl and you play a song you think she'd like, but that's unique to you 2, you can continuously use that song so long as you don't wear her out or link it negatively to turn her on.
Hence "our song" becomes a common phrase. Songs activate state and frame quite well. During college, any handfull of songs could get the party going and the girls stripping, whereas the wrong song can simmer a party down or kill your chances at more.
Mehow has a strong frame because he has a strong state and he has a strong state because he has done alot of work personally to change that and he understand psychology better than most of his eventual competitors. Like MLM though, eventually enough guys can drown each other out, so guys just have to EMPOWER themselves in the moments they need it MOST, which occurs by constantly filling yourself with strong representations.
For instance, if I'm to go into a large sale, I'll often remember back to prior sales where I did well, spoke well, and effectively understood the client well enough to service their problems. I do plenty of research so I'm not caught off guard and may even wear the suit I wore then. I will also make sure I eat well, drink plenty of water, and think positively all day.
When I'm in that moment, I'll remember why I'm there and recall prior states of success, using those mental resources in the present.
To some degree, you can't be without humanity or self-deprecation, because few people like an AW or a super-****y *******. Most of those such people are only appreciated by other messed up individuals, where like attracts like, as it reinforces their own insanity and gives them further justification for their insane behavior.
There's state/frame that benefits all, and then there's state/frame where you seek to benefit, with no gain for other's nor any hightened emotional status.
Another example is a party. Say the party doesn't have the normal "party" crowd, but you want to have a good time. Some people are just activated by parties, some are activated by crowds, certain music, etc. If you want to be activated, view the party as it is, but also recall a party where you had great fun. Seek to amp that party up and bring the fun.
Be the change you seek in the world.
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From personal experiences with state and frame...
At the age of 21+, I went out alot. I went to this 1 bar so often we were well known amongst the bouncers, bartenders, and officers, so that we had protection, connection, and got immediate affection. It wasn't an egotistical thing, it was a fun thing. Girls who frequented the club came to like our group and the owner often hung with us, too. The state was obvious and immediate, especially if you saw the one person you needed to trigger it.
We feel the same way around certain family members, friends, or people. Times when I would go to a new bar, I'd simply recall a time gone past, and since you are constantly representing things in your mind the same, you are constantly maintaining the same physiology, it becomes easier and easier.
This is why Strauss, IMO, amped up his success toward the middle and end of his book. Initially, he didn't have positive experiences with state to build up a new image in his mind of who he was and what he could do. Granted, every future moment is a new moment, but the trick in getting the results you got was to do and believe what you have always done and believed.
Strauss became the change he wanted. So, to empower yourself, first find empowering beliefs. Also, position your physiology in such a way that you feel strong. Wear and outfit you like and look good in. Don a new haircut. Get a cologne you or women like. Anything you can do to put you in a feel good place.
Then, BELIEVE and REPRESENT good things about where you are going and what you are doing. Most guys freeze up on THE PICK UP ARTIST, especially in scenes with lots of models, because they feel they MUST close a girl ASAP, draining all the fun out of it and they view themselves as they WERE -- guys who didn't get women, good results, or have fun.
That won't ever work. Rather, Mystery and Matador sought to teach them and then use those teachings to embed NEW representations, NEW physiology, and NEW states. THUS, new FRAMES.
A-Unit
