A Good way to deal with Performance Anxiety

Leporello

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It's every guy's nightmare; you're hooking up with a hot chick, and you can't get it up. You're mortified, she's unsatisfied, and you worry about it endlessly.

Obviously, alot of that stuff is mental, so some of what you have to do is 'relax' and 'not worry' - easier said than done, I know.

BUT; if you are still able to get erections but have trouble keeping them when you actually have sex, here's a trick that worked for me first when I lost my virignity and then recently when I had an attack of the old PA:

Let her be on top. It's easier for you, it's less awkward, she'll probably have an easier time angling it in so there's less of that phases between getting the condom on and actually doing it (assuming you use a condom).

If she doesn't want to be on top the whole time, let her be there for a few minutes to raise your confidence (and you c0ck) and then just switch.
 
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No, because the second you think "oh **** I can't get it up" you're finished for the night.
 

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The_Lifter said:
No, because the second you think "oh **** I can't get it up" you're finished for the night.
True enough. But in my own experience what happened was that I got it up, put the condom on, went to enter her and found myself limp.

It's different for everyone. I'm just sharing my personal experience.
 

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Well, there's always what my friend called the "stuff 'n' pump", LOL.

I HATE condoms. God, talk about a woody-killer every time. I can't stop thinking of George Constanza playing "beat the clock" on Seinfeld.
 

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realsmoothie said:
Well, there's always what my friend called the "stuff 'n' pump", LOL.
What might that be?

As for cndoms, I dunno... I used to be fine with them, but recently the intimidate me so much.
 

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Stuff 'n' pump means just jamming your softie in there and givin' er until you get hard.

Never had to try it...

...probably impossible with a condom, eh?
 

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haha....

just read something about this in a men's mag (gq? men's health?)... anyway, they (women interviewees) were saying how pathetic it was and how the act emphasizes (not diminishes) the desperation the man is feeling.

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Delta said:
haha....

just read something about this in a men's mag (gq? men's health?)... anyway, they (women interviewees) were saying how pathetic it was and how the act emphasizes (not diminishes) the desperation the man is feeling.

delta
It is pathetic, I crack a stiff whenever I see a HB7-10 walking along the street, I am now 40, this has been happening since I was 12, the thought of a penis not stiffening before fvcking a HB7-10 seems rediculous to me, but I don't know how guys get their c0cks stiff when they are fvcking unnattractive woman, as mine only ever stiffens when my eyes like what I am seeing, so both are a mystery to me. :mad: :yes: :mad:
 
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