A Girl's Friends...what is worse

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Girl 1: Outgoing, down to do just about anything, fun. She has many guy friends and a handful of girl friends. However she habitually chooses bad male friends. From a physically abusive ex boyfriend, to druggie friends, to "friends" that are just scumbag people. She has the same core group of friends, but every few years she gets involved with a new "clique" of bad male friends. People I have nothing in common, nor do I care to be around...

Girl 2:
Introverted, does not like people she does not already know, takes her a while to warm up to people. Does not have many friends, and the friends she does have i would personally consider "close acquaintances". These people are usually good people IMO, but she doesn't care to develop or maintain friendships outside a relationship.

I'm currently talking to both of these girls. I feel each girl's "friends" situation is a red flag, but from your experiences, what is worse? I think they both can be solid girls, but I feel that the company someone keeps tells a lot about them.

What do you think...is it worth it to get involved with either one of these?
 

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My personal preference would be girl 2 for long term and girl one if I'm not ready for anything serious. I have my doubts about girl one doing anything for you positive long term. Girl 2 seems more genuine imo.
 

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Girl 1: Trash, scum.
Girl 2: Likely will turn into a fine clinger.

Would steer away from 1 at all costs, a walking future disease.

2, meh, too early to tell. Might be less of an issue than you think, Yellow flag at most. Would not deter me if I found her attractive.

SH
 

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Doesn't matter if all you plan to do is bang anyway. They all will eventually blow out and move on. Number 2 if you plan on keeping one. It's all about you judging her judgement.
 

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#2 is the better choice for a GF. #1 is already showing her lack of judgement...which may make her easier to bang
 

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Girl 1's friends can be a bit dangerous and she can set them loose on you if things don't go her way. I'd avoid trashy women like her. Mate of mine got stabbed by one of those loser white knight thugs after dumping a chick like that, and I've heard much worse stories (often out of the UK).

Girl 2 sounds okay, could be clingy later on, but not a big deal.
 

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I've dated these exact same girls!

Girl 1 was super fun and great sex but I could never really trust her. I wouldn't even want to leave her alone at my place. It was a short relationship.

Girl 2 was fun but the introverted, shy thing was a real drag. I found myself drifting away from my friends after being with her for awhile. I'm a social guy and if my girl is opposite it's not going to last.

These are both red flags IMO. Depending how serious you are about them.
 

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haha....been here before....Girl 1 ...huge red flag mostly guy friends, wich equates that she has prolly messed around with most of them at one point or another and will again. No LTR as soon as she is done you will become one of her "friends" untill she is ready for you again.

Girl 2 sounds much better, more of an ltr type who wouldnt cheat. You could work on her shyness unlike girl 1 once a ho always a ho.
 

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Concur with most of the above. Girl #1 would give you crabs if she didn't shave her snatch. She is most definitely fucking a couple of the orbiter guy friends or has in the past.

Girl #2 will be ok for a LTR if you can handle the introverted stuff. If she's got other good qualities, it may compensate.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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