A girl that plays games will sound like this

[Adr3nalin]

Hey Adr3nalin, it's Lauren. I haven't written to you for a while, same with you. Anyway, this is just a mail to tell you I'm not dead yet, I don't have a boy friend, I do lots of climbing comps (went to the nationals junior and senior), I get better at climbing, I have less and less friends and I kind of depress some times but I love life and I'm often happy, I think a lot about, more and more often (no idea why) probably because a miss you a lot a lot a lot. This is true, beleive what you want, I wouln'd say that if I didn't miss you.

Biz

Lauren

She lives in France (she's french and has bad grammer, i'm sure you get the point though) and I used to be an AFC and would call her at least once a week for two months straight. I've recently stopped after coming to this site, but after learning what i know now, would just like to demonstrate how a women can grasp a man around her finger with a single e-mail.

What she wanted out of me was a phone call.

Oh might i mention that we've been literal "best friends" for a ****ING YEAR, and she has NEVER sent me a single card or letter from France, nor has she ever Even called me up just to say "Hi!". Oh did i forget to mention that she never even wished me a happy birthday? I'm not angry at her and i do not wish vengance upon her. I have come to peace with the way some women are and would merely like to share this experience with you.

Now that i have stopped calling and e-mailing her altogether she has since tried to get me tied around her finger again, what i responded with was a sarcastically but still funny response to her e-mail, still polite and gentlemanly but this time, i played along not calling out her game, but merely playing a lot with her. I didn't give her what she wanted. Which was a long ass e-mailing expelling my love for her, or a phone call showing how much i missed her.

So play it right guys, cause they always come back no matter what, and when they do. Don't be rude, just acknowledge the game piece they moved, and play along, IT'S MORE FUN!

I want to add a little bit to this post.

When i first started with this girl I thought, i'd never have a chance with her, she was going away in a month and i'd just use this as an opportunity to practice. That was until my own emotions got involved. REMEMBER TO ALWAYS ACKNOWLEDGE THEM, BUT NEVER LET THEM TAKE HOLD. Anyway, i gave and gave, and gave, but never anything in return because i could never wait a week or even two for her to respond with a "Adr3nalin, i missed you! i want to do something!" Nope, i just couldn't do it, because my emotions took hold. And i was rushing her time constraints. My own mother who doesn't know crap about dating and the complications within, even told me "Tell her how you feel." That was mistake #2. In the end this "science experiement" turned out to be on the both of us. And ended up sending me on a trip half way round the world to France just to see her for a couple weeks out of the month i was there. That was in December by the way, and she has still not called or sent a letter. In fact, 2 days after I left, she ended up going out with a guy who dumped her after 3 weeks. and guess who she came crawling back to. You got it!..

So let this be a lesson. Learn from people here on the board, don't make the same mistakes.

Experience is a good teacher, but that is not to say it is the best teacher.

 

[Starman]

heh good job man..yea once you give them that little piece of attention they crave..they will start pulling away again.

 

[Toke]

I have a chick who's pulling away like this right now, and its the first time I've gone through it.

I will make no attempt to contact her hence forth, though I admit, I sent her an email on her birthday, (which she had replied to right away). I sent her a reply 3 days later, and have recieved nothing in return (its been like a week).

I know if I dont message her, she will message me eventually. We've been friends since we met about 3 years ago (there was always attaction between us, just she was never single). She's been playing games like this ever since we made out one night. That night she was all over me, not even a challenge (which is unusual for me).

What I'm curious to is this, when she does contact me, am I best off to just act like I'm not really interested? My first email I told her to call me next time she was in town, she never made any mention of that in her reply. In fact, she showed no interest in the reply at all (which was odd).

By acting not interested, does that make her want me more? I honously would like to get back together with this girl, as we have a lot in common, and communicate so well.

 

[Adr3nalin]

I believe it is rule 36 in the laws of power that says, "disdain things you cannot have, ignoring them is the best revenge."

and rule 6 is, "court attention at all costs."

basically, just don't act interested. In fact once you do this she will become crazy with you because you are NOT doing what she wants you to do, which is be under her control. And what will piss her off even more is if she sees you or hears about you through The WFN (worldwide female network) or someone that you're going out with a gorgeous girl and you are this hot **** all of a sudden.

I know you have a lot in common, believe me i've got ****loads in common with this girl above, but i don't play these ****ing games, i've got more important **** to do than focus my life on getting a girl. That's the game THEY play, we play in the real world.

also rule 3, conceal your intentions.
a good rule to remember because if she is close enough to you that you also make her dependant on you (rule 11) she will sooner or later not only want you, but need you. And this is when she will find herself absolutely infatuated with you. Because girls are reflective, they will reflect most upon that which emotionally moves them. give her a fun time and she will want more. she will become dependant upon you for it. THEN PULL AWAY.

 

[BGMan]

...And repeat until she begs to be your girlfriend.

Bottom line, women will play games if they have so-so interest in you, and aren't sure about you. Once you show them who's boss, they lose their game and... well, they stop playing games.

Also, remember the difference between games and blow-offs. A blow-off means she has totally lost all interest in you. Games don't mean this at all, but you had better keep the AFC behavior to an absolute minimum -- best done by blowing her off, at least temporarily.

BGMan