A few female tips

[tristan22]

1. My gut instinct is usually 100% right, especially when it comes to female interest. If your gut is telling you a chic interested or disinterested.....LISTEN TO IT!

2. For the guys who keep calling a specific girl and she gives them the run around.....SHE's NOT INTERESTED. Believe me, girls will make it very clear EX. saying yes and going out on a date with you. Unavailability = no interest.

3. If you call a female and leave her message, and she doesn't call back.....NEXT. Don't sit around and try to analyze the situation and figure out reasons to call her back. Let me ask you something. If a hot girl leaves you a voicemail....you'll call.....plain and simple.

4. If a girl is complimenting you (you have white teeth, i like your hair, you have nice eyes, etc.) 9 times out of ten, they are hitting on you. Girls aren't as sophisticated as guys when it comes to come ons, so they use the lame ass physical come on to open you up. It's her way of saying talk to me, i'm available.

5. If a girl picks you up, next her! From experience all the chics who picked me up and made the first move were psychos and emotionally disturbed. Be the man, get her digits, and make the first move!

Later,

Tristan

 

[becker]

I agree with this, to a certain extent. I've known shy girls who have a hard time picking up the phone and calling guys. To me, to totally know whether a girl is interested just because she didn't call you, or agree to go out with you, it has to be a blatant disinterest. This means that she either looks you in the eye (or looks elsewhere) and tells you to back off. If she doesn't do this, she might just be shy.

For example, this one girl who I know that has a BF, who I have been hanging out with is normally pretty resistant to do anything, but that is her nature. She also doesn't turn me down all the time, depending on how busy she is, and usually her reasons are very legit, and not like some corny attempt to blow me off.

 

[seloifter]

Originally posted by tristan22
4. If a girl is complimenting you (you have white teeth, i like your hair, you have nice eyes, etc.) 9 times out of ten, they are hitting on you. Girls aren't as sophisticated as guys when it comes to come ons, so they use the lame ass physical come on to open you up. It's her way of saying talk to me, i'm available.

uhhhh.... I really gotta disagree with you on this one....

girls are FAR more sophisticated than guys when it comes to compliments....... they compliment other people all the time (at least the semi-nice or "fake" ones do); and it doesn't especially mean they're hitting on them. True they dont' know much about come-ons and will generally start with a compliment.......... but DO NOT take a compliment from a girl as a "green light".....
They compliment people without even meaning it (most of the time), just so they can say something/build rapport/feel nice... it's just what girls do.......

*certain* compliments are usually used as come-ons (like "you're so funny!")..... but even those aren't sure-fire signs of interest.......

just ignore most compliments of girls. Hell, ignore what they say (lol, sounds wrong)....... body language > what a girl says

 

[tristan22]

You've got a good point seloifter, however from experience when a girl comes out of no where and starts a convo with me in reguards to a physical characteristic of mine, i would say that it's definitely a come on. I seize the momment by asking for the digits after building a little rapport. Most of the time, you have to practically do back flips to gain a females attention (the hot ones, that is).

I know this is redudant information and could be seen as rather vague, since it's not factually sound (since it's only pertaining to my personal experiences).

Later,

Tristan

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

Um... maybe the reason why some girls use physical compliments instead of "sophisticated" come ons is because a some guys are too dense to realize they are come ons any other way?

 

[Grey Fox]

Or maybe we just want you to be direct about it and take you out of that comfort zone.

-Grey Fox

 

[Mikeman!]

Originally posted by tristan22
You've got a good point seloifter, however from experience when a girl comes out of no where and starts a convo with me in reguards to a physical characteristic of mine, i would say that it's definitely a come on.

In what situations does a girl come "out of nowhere" and complement you on a physical characteristic? Sounds odd.

I get compliments all the time from women, especially on my clothes, but I wouldn't say 9 times out of 10 they're hitting on you. Sometimes they say it with a expressionless face, or in a monotone voice for whatever reason. Like Seloifter said, pay more attention to body language.

Originally posted by tristan22
Most of the time, you have to practically do back flips to gain a females attention (the hot ones, that is). I know this is redudant information and could be seen as rather vague, since it's not factually sound (since it's only pertaining to my personal experiences).
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Also, in my experience, the hot ones(8-9.9) tend to be more receptive than the average-above average girls. If you're good looking and well dressed, the average(6-6.9) and above-average girls(7-7.9) will just assume you're too good for them, you have to spend your time showing you're actually into them to get them to be receptive to you.

The other case where a girl may not be receptive to you is if they're too self-absorbed, conceited, and this is not even directly correlated to their looks either. In fact, I've seen many more just average-above average girls who think they're hot s**t.

 

[tristan22]

No they don't just approach me, i'm not a celebrity....lol. On the other hand, i am a presence and i usually get a lot of stares. If i come in contact with a female at a bar or in a department store they usually comment on my eyes and teeth.

I'm a positive thinker, so when a girl compliments me, i automatically think it's a come on. I perceive it as "ask me for my number", so i go to work and ask for it.

I hope i'm not coming across as conceited. You see, i use to be a really negative person, who expected women to come and talk to me because i was "good-looking." I found out quickly that no matter how great looking you are, you still have to put forth effort to see results.

Tristan

 

[The Main Event]

Originally posted by Mikeman!
Also, in my experience, the hot ones(8-9.9) tend to be more receptive than the average-above average girls. If you're good looking and well dressed, the average(6-6.9) and above-average girls(7-7.9) will just assume you're too good for them, you have to spend your time showing you're actually into them to get them to be receptive to you.

That's true, and it's not just girls who are guilty of that behaviour. In my experience, though, it doesn't take too much work to get them to loosen up. They're cool and non-receptive to start with, but it only takes a few questions and a couple of minutes of your time to bring the shield down.

And you do want to bring the shield down, trust me. Of course, if you're perceived as being "out of their league", you're going to be angling for girls who have more going for them. But you still want to keep their less attractive friends on side; you want them to act as your cheer squad, not as a group of hostile trolls out to undermine you.

How much difference can the attitude of her friends make? In my experience, all the difference in the world.

The other case where a girl may not be receptive to you is if they're too self-absorbed, conceited, and this is not even directly correlated to their looks either. In fact, I've seen many more just average-above average girls who think they're hot s**t.

Completely true. However, the more she's forced to think about it, the more her opinion of herself is drawn into line with reality. It's almost like a gravitational force, but she can avoid it by circling herself with less attractive friends and loser guys who treat her like a princess. In reality, she's the only moderately attractive girl they've met who gives them the time of day.

A girl can live in this false reality only until reality slowly but inexorably wears it down. She might get through college with her imaginary world intact, but not much further. You often find that girls like this have a small circle of friends (perhaps medium, but not large ... and definitely not both large and socially well-connected).

Also, they don't have terribly much experience with realtionships. Sure, they have their fool pawns that fawn all over them, and have had maybe a couple of long-term boyfriends. But such a girl's perception of herself puts her on a collission course with guys who are out of her league; all it takes is a few big rejections and her imaginary world is swept away. That's why false perceptions like these last longest in girls who have been stuck in lengthy relationships, rather than in girls who have had a lot of interactions with guys whom they find genuinely interesting.

They're princesses of kingdoms that don't really exist ... and one of the most cruelest, most heartless, most satisfying things a man can do is make the illusion disappear.


I am
The Main Event.

 

[Mikeman!]

Originally posted by tristan22


I'm a positive thinker, so when a girl compliments me, i automatically think it's a come on. I perceive it as "ask me for my number", so i go to work and ask for it.

Tristan

There's definately nothing wrong with looking at it like that, that's great if its working for you. In my case, when I hear one thing(a compliment) and yet I get conflicting body language(monotone voice, deadpan face), my 'gut' reaction is confusion due to mixed signals, so it's not as easy for me to adopt such a mindset while at the same time trying to pay attention to my gut feelings.

Perhaps the woman is married or in a serious relationship, perhaps she doesn't want to come off as interested for fear of rejection...I don't know. I'd be interested if anyone else has any other explanations for the deadpan faces/monotone voices...



The Main Event:

Nice additional insight into those situations...It all rings true to me.

 

[Walden]

I agree that all of the above are signs of low IL.

However you're playing a pretty piss weak game if you can only DJ with girls who already naturally have a high IL.

Anyone can bag girls who have a high IL, it isn't DJing to just next any woman who doesn't immediately take off her rhinestone thong and throw it at you.

If you can DJ through the phone run around (do-able) and actually get facetime then there are scads of things you can do to raise the IL , from action dates to SS to letting the girl get to know what a great guy you are.

 

[Luscious]

Originally posted by tristan22

4. If a girl is complimenting you (you have white teeth, i like your hair, you have nice eyes, etc.) 9 times out of ten, they are hitting on you. Girls aren't as sophisticated as guys when it comes to come ons, so they use the lame ass physical come on to open you up. It's her way of saying talk to me, i'm available.

I don't care what anyone says - each and every time a girl has complimented me, and I've attempted a close, I got her number. We're talking 100% here.

I wear a nice watch, I usually get opened on that alot. My teeth/smile also get me openers. Usually, my cologne will get me opened too.

Guys, I don't know about you, but whenever I get complimented, it's MONEY, and I go for the close later on. Try it. I don't care if every other sign is low-interest, I want you to attempt to close on women that compliment you, and tell me how you do. You'd be surprised.

 

[RIchardo]

i think a compliment is def. a green light, but if not , who cares, ask anyways, what do you have to lose..... youd be suprised how many chicks feign disinterest that you would never know they wanted you unless you ask, so ASK who cares if you get rejected, youve lost nothing. Leave the ego at the door.