A female who likes at ask guys questions to get the real man's perspective on things

[pinkNblackzf6]

I have been seeing a mid 30 something male who really we started out booty calling, then over time, it changed. It's really weird how I kinda was blindsided by....wait for it..... feelings.

So over a period of 3 years, we were always off and on and would do our thing out there, but we always came back. Well when we were "off" he got this 'girlfriend', which I was like WTF, thinking that if he decided to be with anyone it would be me...He seemed as if he really didn't know what he wanted. I asked well was she pregnant to which he said hellllll no. Do you love her, he says he loved me... He could never tell me what was it that was keeping him from me one who was "made for him", the one "he loves" and has mentioned marriage to...?

So I broke it off with him, because I refuse to deal with anyone's boyfriend, husband, whatever this is they have going on....But after 2 months of NC, he came back to me... But when I just happened to be in his neighborhood, I CALLED 3 TIMES and each time it went to voice mail. Then I knocked on the door(yes, real sappy), to which he didn't answer. I noticed he text me right after( still haven't read it), I blocked his calls but they still came through.

Now my question: Would you want to hear from me( put yourself in this situation, if you can. There is enough info)? How would you respond, seeing now I felt I could talk with you without getting all crazy with emotions: "Hi..(so and so). If you would like to meet up for drinks to sit and talk next week let me know. But if you are still in this relationship, or already know talking ain't happenin, just disregard, go on with your life. Thanks.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Your descriptions are as clear as mud. Hence 40 reads with no responses.

Try to make a little sense and perhaps some of us can give you some perspective.

NC? On whose part? "Came back to you?" What does that mean exactly? I could go on...

If you've been "off and on" for 3 years, nothing is going to change. If you think you're going to change him, you've got another thing coming. He made his decision about you a year or more ago. Neither of you know that though.

 

[Desdinova]

Sounds almost strangely familiar. I had to check and see if you actually were my FB

I agree 100% with Atom. You're a booty call and you're going to remain one - at least to him. You'll either have to keep him as one or move on with your life. It will never be anything more.

 

[pinkNblackzf6]

Damn.. @Atom I don't know whether to say thank you or fvck you.

I'm not here to take abuse from you or anyone else on this site. If you can't understand my English or couldn't respond in a decent way, I would have preferred you just get the hell on like anyone else who didn't care to respond. It's not a neccessity to give every minute detail because like I said what I gave was sufficient, nor is it a neccessity that EVERYONE repsond back to me! Get a life.

 

[luckster]

Damn.. @Atom I don't know whether to say thank you or fvck you.

I'm not here to take abuse from you or anyone else on this site. If you can't understand my English or couldn't respond in a decent way, I would have preferred you just get the hell on like anyone else who didn't care to respond. It's not a neccessity to give every minute detail because like I said what I gave was sufficient, nor is it a neccessity that EVERYONE repsond back to me! Get a life.

Why are you mad? It is indeed really difficult to read what you have written.

Anyway, if that was the relationship you guys carried on for so long, then chances are that if you two ever did get into something serious, the dynamics of your previous relationship would still prevail and faithfulness would be out of the question. I'm no expert, that's just what I believe: people's views of one another rarely change.

 

[crazyboy]

Ill help you out here but woman generally never listen but what the hell. first your probably just a booty call to him. The reason he probably got with another girl is because he doesnt see you as girlfriend material. He told he love you so he keep getting some. Were you sure he was home, that he wasn't at work. you should at least read what text message says. On other note this is confusing because its vague. It may be suffiecent to you because you know whats going on. But to us this sound like your the backburner girl. So when things go bad he come to you. Kinda how women would have another guy when there realtionship turn sour.

Its good chance that he may love the sex you guys had but not you as a person. Also if he wanted a realtionship it wouldnt have taken three years. Just saying most dont wait that long to decide on realtionship. Again going say so you understand it your just his screw buddy nothing more nothin less. Anything he said to you has been fluff to keep you around.

 

[Zarky]

Who the hell knows, find another guy.

 

[Desdinova]

I'm not here to take abuse from you or anyone else on this site.

Don't worry, my dear. I'll be your knight in shining armor and close this thread so the big bad wolves on Sosuave can't emotionally hurt you anymore.