Zerocool1234
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So I've known a woman for 5 months. We are not particularly close and rarely hang out. Whenever we did hang out, there were always other people around. But during those times, we often teased each other and had a good time, so I would consider myself different from her other friends.
A few weeks ago, I asked her out via email, not because I didn't have the guts, but because I didn't have her numbers and we hardly saw each other face to face. She said no and used the excuse "too much going on right now". So naturally as a guy, I assumed she wasn't interested.
Few days later, I sent her a nice article to read and she replied asking how I was doing. I said I was doing very well because I assumed she was just making sure I was ok after being rejected.
Few days passed, she informed us via email that she was relocating for a new job, approx 4 hrs away. I was sad but remained composed enough to send a "goodbye" email back. She then replied and suggested me to attend a group event. Due to work, I wasn't able to, but I made it clear that I was not avoiding her and on the contrary wanted to meet her. I said I could visit her sometimes and we would hang out then. I asked for her # and got it. She also said she "better see me before she moves".
I don't know she turned me down cuz she was really busy with the move or wasn't simply interested in me. I don't want to add more pressure on her since she has enough on her plate. I don't mind the long distance relationship and driving to see her once a month. But I just need a clever way to find out if there is something more than just friendship between us without giving her an ultimatum. I'll ask her out again in a couple of weeks, but unsure if I should play it cool or try to get some closure? Thanks
A few weeks ago, I asked her out via email, not because I didn't have the guts, but because I didn't have her numbers and we hardly saw each other face to face. She said no and used the excuse "too much going on right now". So naturally as a guy, I assumed she wasn't interested.
Few days later, I sent her a nice article to read and she replied asking how I was doing. I said I was doing very well because I assumed she was just making sure I was ok after being rejected.
Few days passed, she informed us via email that she was relocating for a new job, approx 4 hrs away. I was sad but remained composed enough to send a "goodbye" email back. She then replied and suggested me to attend a group event. Due to work, I wasn't able to, but I made it clear that I was not avoiding her and on the contrary wanted to meet her. I said I could visit her sometimes and we would hang out then. I asked for her # and got it. She also said she "better see me before she moves".
I don't know she turned me down cuz she was really busy with the move or wasn't simply interested in me. I don't want to add more pressure on her since she has enough on her plate. I don't mind the long distance relationship and driving to see her once a month. But I just need a clever way to find out if there is something more than just friendship between us without giving her an ultimatum. I'll ask her out again in a couple of weeks, but unsure if I should play it cool or try to get some closure? Thanks
