A DJ-related problem I have

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Here it is:

I can't seem to ram it in my head that "People, especially hot girls, would actually take a liking to me". No matter how much I try to think that way it just wont work.

Even when I am with a girl I do things too much because I dont feel that she likes me even if I try assume that she does.

I am too generous sometimes. Some of my friends think I'm an awesome guy but I still can't see that.

Even when girls tell me that they like me, I dont believe them. Like no way a girl like that could ever like me. I sometimes think they are just using me.

I still get girls better than the average lad but I still don't know why lol....I sometimes think they are using me as a piece of meat lol...just a guy in the line.

Its hurting my game...this inner game issue i have is ruining not only my DJ game but with everyday life as well. I need the right direction to help me fix this problem. Its a deep issue I have been struggling with and I've lost girls because of this.

 

[Sean O]

Sounds like you have low self-worth, bro. You have to be able to realize and believe that you are indeed a great catch! Now, I'm no expert, but I think the best way to deal with this would be to start out by making a list of all the things you like about yourself. You should also write why you like each of the things you put on your list. This will help you to realize all the good qualities you have that contribute to making you a great catch. If there's something that isn't on the list that you would like to be there, try to change things so that you CAN put it on your list (e.g. if you didn't include that you like the way you look, you should start working out/get some nicer clothes/take better care of your hair and skin, etc.). You'll feel better about yourself because you are taking charge of your life and doing something to make it better, and when you achieve your goals, you'll feel even better still! Besides, chicks dig guys with ambition and resolve .

 

[Marlimus]

read the DJ Bible and stop whining like a little b!tch. Mods, close this discussion please.

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

You see I can be the life of a party and some ppl genuinely say yea yea you're an awesome kid and yet somehow inside me I couldnt agree with it. weird huh. as if I am not congruent with it.

i dont usually show my insecurity but i do feel it. i convey all the good stuff but i cant feel it for myself. im spendin a week on gettin my sh*t together, gettin on top of things then im goin on a solo holiday

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

also im looking at things like co-dependency cos i know sometimes i am showing symtoms or "feeling" that iwill be going down that way...

so why do i have this urge to gain massive reassurance that i am in fact a very desirable person?

i know some of you guys are angry at this thread but i just need some kind of direction...if itis in the bible then i must have overlooked it...in that case i would appreciate it if someone could show me.

thank you

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

This week instead of going on a spoilt, self-indulging holiday I took some time off to reflect on many things. I tried to remember what I was like a few years back and see how far I have improved and imagining what it would be like in the future if I keep going at the rate of improvement I am doing.

I've also starting to do more approaches, gym, relaxing and researching on how to get better. Lets just see at the end of the week.