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A College LDR

angeldove

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My g/f moved 104 miles away this morning to Eau Claire, WI to start college. I live in the Twin Cities, MN.

We went out for about 9 months and are still together because we both are basically madly in love with each other. We talked time and time again about the situation and we agreed that I would visit her on one of my 4 days off a week from college.

The only problem I see is that her and I were soo incredibly and deep for each other that when she moves we may feel so apart or distant from each other that the pain would cause us to break up.

In response to that kind of talk she wrote me a letter which I wasn't supposed to read until she left. This letter said "I miss you already, I love you very much and remember that although I may not be as close to you now as I once was, just remember that it doesnt change how much I love you."

She also gave me this long poem about love and holding onto your love no matter what.

Also, she comes back for a full month during her winter break from college, a full week or more during spring break, a couple days for thanksgiving and valentines day, and also she'll be back here in MN during the entire summer break.

It seems weird after she left today. I still fool myself by thinking that if I pick up the phone I can see her within 20 minutes if she just drives over and we can be together.
 

Oscar Wilde

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You're 48?

Here's something I posted in another thread just a while ago.

I'm not sure exactly how relevant it is, since you're 48 (if that aint a typo), but it's worth considering.

btw in case you think this is conjecture, it's real-life experience - I had a 1 year long LDR which was very painful at the end - it wasn't worth it.

Good luck,
Osc.


Unless you are totally and utterly in love with each other, and prepared to make huge sacrifices (i.e. moving to the others hometown), then it just will not work.

It comes down to a choice between making the most of your own life path, or making the most of your shared life whilst sacrificing some or all of your own possibilities.

The issue is that if things go bad 2, 3, 5, 10 years down the line, you could look back and regret not taking your own path.

Good luck,
Osc.
 

angeldove

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no actually im 18, that is a typo

my real SN is NAN3108 but when i got online today this SN came up, but anyway, reply to the post
 

Oscar Wilde

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Originally posted by angeldove
no actually im 18, that is a typo

my real SN is NAN3108 but when i got online today this SN came up, but anyway, reply to the post
ok dude, you're at work? Someone else here posts under that userid - log out and back in. It's a problem with the security features of VBB not being enabled on this site and the database thinking the proxy is actually your machine.

And log out after you're done.

Mods/admins if you read this take note. I've already msged sosauve.com about the issue a few days ago.

Osc.
 

uniassign

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I don't get the concept of LDRs.

What's the point? You can't f&*k them when you want to. You can't talk to them without costing a fortune. you can't touch them, hold them, playfight with them. You might as well have an imaginary girlfriend. It's like owning a car, paying for petrol and insurance etc BUT you cannot drive it. All you have is photos.

Sure you may say that they are smart, funny and everything you want in a girl. But there are PLENTY of chicks out there. You are in college for f&*k sake. There are tall chicks, short chicks, blonde chicks. Surely you can find at least TWENTY that has the characteristics that you want in a girl amongst these chicks???

No offence, but I see guys in a LDR who are not f&*king other chicks in the same city as coming from a scarity frame. It is better to go through the pain of breaking up, and then build yourself into a man with attractive qualities to attract ALL the chicks that YOU want. It is better to let her go and enjoy herself and for you to build the skills necessary to seduce all/any chick than to sit staring at her photo wondering if she is cheating on you or not.

Just my view on the topic
 
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