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Aside from your canonical literature of choice (if you have any), Robert Greene’s 48 Laws of Power is a must read for anyone looking to succeed in the game of life. Over the last few years I have read, re-read, applied, and internalized many of the principles therein and it has been a beacon of light in an otherwise insidious reality.
Today marks the beginning of a series where we’ll be looking at the 48 Laws and how they pertain to the crimson arts.
Law #1: Never Outshine The Master
Always make those above you feel comfortably superior. In your desire to please and impress them, do not go too far in displaying your talents or you might accomplish the opposite – inspire fear and insecurity. Make your masters appear more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights of power.
As it relates to game, this isn’t about placating women who are ‘out of your league’. In fact, the more attractive the woman (8+), the higher the negging (or indifference, if that’s your style) required. This law relates more to you being out of her league, a typically unheard-of concept. The healthiest relationships, particularly those withstanding the test of time without both parties despising each other, are characterized by the man being of higher value, though not by much. A 1-2 point difference is ideal.
Let’s assume you’re an 8 on the success object scale and she’s the same on the sex object scale. No problem; you can spit game, she’ll still feel like a prize, chances are you’ll give chase a little because you both have upgrade options, and as long as she perceives you to be on similar ground, all is right in the world. Now, let’s say you’re a 9 and you run into a 7 who pushes all the right buttons. Not a major head turner, but she’s definitely cute and there’s ‘something about her’ that seriously turns you on (e.g. she tends to your ego).
Unfortunately for you, she’ll quickly realize this discrepancy and respond one of two ways: either distance herself from you out of fear of not being good enough (yes it’s weird, but girls do this) or become annoyingly insecure. Girls can’t stand to feel out of your league, so they’ll either find some excuse not to go for you or self destruct over time. Most guys will do the same, but a few will take the road less traveled and improve themselves in ways that become attractive to top shelf ass.
What do you do when facing this dilemma? You downplay a little. This is often referred to as Vulnerability Game. If you’re too alpha for her and there’s a large enough gap, she’ll leave. So if you want her to stick around, it helps to sprinkle a little romcom her way.
For example, one thing girls wondering into insecurity territory will do is continually fish for compliments. She’ll start asking you if you think she’s (still) pretty, how you feel about her, what you’re thinking (it better be about her), and so on. You don’t have to respond immediately, but if you’re used to greeting women with ‘hey’, the next time she shows up a ‘you look nice tonight’ line will be just enough to validate her and restore balance. Intermittently complimenting non-visual characteristics (if she does something thoughtful for instance) will also go a long way.
However, use very sparingly and only when you sense she’s not getting her fill. This is of course moving into the realm of relationships, as initial seduction happens so quickly that there’s no time for beta bait. You want her, she wants you, the rest is simple. Also, when you’re dealing with girls above you on the 10 point scale it’s totally unnecessary unless she has deeper self-esteem issues. But those will surface on their own anyway.
This may seem like a beta move to some, but remember that strategically disguising your strengths is not weakness if it leads to power and you keep the initiative. Power, in this case, is keeping the object of your desire enthralled.
Aside from your canonical literature of choice (if you have any), Robert Greene’s 48 Laws of Power is a must read for anyone looking to succeed in the game of life. Over the last few years I have read, re-read, applied, and internalized many of the principles therein and it has been a beacon of light in an otherwise insidious reality.
Today marks the beginning of a series where we’ll be looking at the 48 Laws and how they pertain to the crimson arts.
Law #1: Never Outshine The Master
Always make those above you feel comfortably superior. In your desire to please and impress them, do not go too far in displaying your talents or you might accomplish the opposite – inspire fear and insecurity. Make your masters appear more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights of power.
As it relates to game, this isn’t about placating women who are ‘out of your league’. In fact, the more attractive the woman (8+), the higher the negging (or indifference, if that’s your style) required. This law relates more to you being out of her league, a typically unheard-of concept. The healthiest relationships, particularly those withstanding the test of time without both parties despising each other, are characterized by the man being of higher value, though not by much. A 1-2 point difference is ideal.
Let’s assume you’re an 8 on the success object scale and she’s the same on the sex object scale. No problem; you can spit game, she’ll still feel like a prize, chances are you’ll give chase a little because you both have upgrade options, and as long as she perceives you to be on similar ground, all is right in the world. Now, let’s say you’re a 9 and you run into a 7 who pushes all the right buttons. Not a major head turner, but she’s definitely cute and there’s ‘something about her’ that seriously turns you on (e.g. she tends to your ego).
Unfortunately for you, she’ll quickly realize this discrepancy and respond one of two ways: either distance herself from you out of fear of not being good enough (yes it’s weird, but girls do this) or become annoyingly insecure. Girls can’t stand to feel out of your league, so they’ll either find some excuse not to go for you or self destruct over time. Most guys will do the same, but a few will take the road less traveled and improve themselves in ways that become attractive to top shelf ass.
What do you do when facing this dilemma? You downplay a little. This is often referred to as Vulnerability Game. If you’re too alpha for her and there’s a large enough gap, she’ll leave. So if you want her to stick around, it helps to sprinkle a little romcom her way.
For example, one thing girls wondering into insecurity territory will do is continually fish for compliments. She’ll start asking you if you think she’s (still) pretty, how you feel about her, what you’re thinking (it better be about her), and so on. You don’t have to respond immediately, but if you’re used to greeting women with ‘hey’, the next time she shows up a ‘you look nice tonight’ line will be just enough to validate her and restore balance. Intermittently complimenting non-visual characteristics (if she does something thoughtful for instance) will also go a long way.
However, use very sparingly and only when you sense she’s not getting her fill. This is of course moving into the realm of relationships, as initial seduction happens so quickly that there’s no time for beta bait. You want her, she wants you, the rest is simple. Also, when you’re dealing with girls above you on the 10 point scale it’s totally unnecessary unless she has deeper self-esteem issues. But those will surface on their own anyway.
This may seem like a beta move to some, but remember that strategically disguising your strengths is not weakness if it leads to power and you keep the initiative. Power, in this case, is keeping the object of your desire enthralled.
