Maurizio 2.0
Don Juan
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So I went to work today with my father to help out in his office and make some paper. This meant getting up and going in with him at 7AM, which is outrageously early for me... but such is life. I learn that we're going straight from work at like 6:30PM to this huge art gallery opening (actually it's like 12 art gallery openings all in the same place) and meeting my mother there. I consent, but regretfully so since I'm in serious need of washing my face, and just generally feeling gross from being at work all day and not being dressed as nicely as I would like to be for a gallery opening... although not like ****.
What I want to know is why have I not been cruising every gallery opening in the friggin' region when it comes to look for women!? Really, it's such an ideal place. The art is obviously a perfect point of entry for conversation. I didn't feel like a loser just because I didn't have a wingman. The quality of woman on average was really high. They're all cultured (or pretending / want to be) and are well dressed. What completely shocked me was how many young (20-30) people were there. I would have thought since most of this art was selling in the thousands of dollars - and what young person can afford that? - that most of the folks would be older, but I was mistaken.
Anyways, I didn't feel completely assured about my appearance, but nevertheless I got this confidence boost as I was getting serious looks from a number of women. I mean, it was dead obvious. It was a pretty crowded place, and I went over to this one chick who had been eyeing me from across the room (probably about 5 years my senior, black dress, short haired blond, pretty-fine-but-would-have-been-alot-better-about-10lbs-lighter) and just said a few words to her. She was really receptive to my approach and seemed cool. I didn't close for her number, but felt like maybe I could have if I had felt more attracted and wanted to, but the quick talk just put me in a better mood. Good warm-up you would say, right?
Into another adjacent gallery, and I catch these two chicks giving me obvious stares, and it looks like one is mentioning me to the other since I see the the 2nd one look over a second later. One is attractive to me, petite with a cute face, while the other... not so much. We're circulating around the gallery, myself and the two of them pass each other by, sort of staring back at each other over our shoulders each time to get a better look and catching each other in the process. It's just taking me a moment here to make sure my balls are still present, and for my parents to step away from the area, before I go ahead and approach them.
"So what do you think?"
Could there be a simpler, more effective conversation starter ever? So anyway, I get the convo rolling with these two girls. I was trying to be equally engaging to both as I didn't want one to feel alienated and drag the other away. Not to be overly egocentric, but it seemed like they BOTH were really into me. This got me worried actually, as while I was still in the midst of talking with both of them, I started to wonder how I could get away with asking the cute one for her number without upsetting the other girl, who like I said also appeared to be very very much interested. Meanwhile we moved the convo around a bit and learned that they're seniors in college (I'm a recent grad), and the cute one is an art major. I tried to relate a bit of knowledge / interest and asked her about it a little bit and mentioned a friend of mine who's a sculptor. There was more to it, but it needs not telling.
I felt things starting to drag too long, and I mentioned that I had to head off and meet somebody (I didn't say that somebody was my parents). That's when I said something, trying to be nice, that may have just been pretty stupid instead.
"Let me get both your numbers."
Well... they both agreed. I mean, now I have both of their numbers. The thing is of course, is that one of them I really want to use, while the other I might as well throw away.
So for the girl that I was genuinely interested in, she has no way of knowing that I'm interested in her because I got her friends number too. The cute one also might be hesitant to go out on a date with me even if she wanted to, out of respect to her friend who might be jealous if that were the situation. What am I gonna say if I end up on date and I get asked why I called her for a date and not her friend? Am I then FORCED to compliment her - and insult her friend - by admitting that I'm just attracted to her?
Probably just overanalyzing the downside here. I mean, I don't think that it was a good move per-say, but then again, maybe it just won't matter if interest level is high enough. Maybe they're not even that close friends? Whatever. We'll just see what happens.
I'm thinking I'll call the cute one on Sunday and try and set up a coffee date on Tuesday or Wednesday.
What I want to know is why have I not been cruising every gallery opening in the friggin' region when it comes to look for women!? Really, it's such an ideal place. The art is obviously a perfect point of entry for conversation. I didn't feel like a loser just because I didn't have a wingman. The quality of woman on average was really high. They're all cultured (or pretending / want to be) and are well dressed. What completely shocked me was how many young (20-30) people were there. I would have thought since most of this art was selling in the thousands of dollars - and what young person can afford that? - that most of the folks would be older, but I was mistaken.
Anyways, I didn't feel completely assured about my appearance, but nevertheless I got this confidence boost as I was getting serious looks from a number of women. I mean, it was dead obvious. It was a pretty crowded place, and I went over to this one chick who had been eyeing me from across the room (probably about 5 years my senior, black dress, short haired blond, pretty-fine-but-would-have-been-alot-better-about-10lbs-lighter) and just said a few words to her. She was really receptive to my approach and seemed cool. I didn't close for her number, but felt like maybe I could have if I had felt more attracted and wanted to, but the quick talk just put me in a better mood. Good warm-up you would say, right?
Into another adjacent gallery, and I catch these two chicks giving me obvious stares, and it looks like one is mentioning me to the other since I see the the 2nd one look over a second later. One is attractive to me, petite with a cute face, while the other... not so much. We're circulating around the gallery, myself and the two of them pass each other by, sort of staring back at each other over our shoulders each time to get a better look and catching each other in the process. It's just taking me a moment here to make sure my balls are still present, and for my parents to step away from the area, before I go ahead and approach them.
"So what do you think?"
Could there be a simpler, more effective conversation starter ever? So anyway, I get the convo rolling with these two girls. I was trying to be equally engaging to both as I didn't want one to feel alienated and drag the other away. Not to be overly egocentric, but it seemed like they BOTH were really into me. This got me worried actually, as while I was still in the midst of talking with both of them, I started to wonder how I could get away with asking the cute one for her number without upsetting the other girl, who like I said also appeared to be very very much interested. Meanwhile we moved the convo around a bit and learned that they're seniors in college (I'm a recent grad), and the cute one is an art major. I tried to relate a bit of knowledge / interest and asked her about it a little bit and mentioned a friend of mine who's a sculptor. There was more to it, but it needs not telling.
I felt things starting to drag too long, and I mentioned that I had to head off and meet somebody (I didn't say that somebody was my parents). That's when I said something, trying to be nice, that may have just been pretty stupid instead.
"Let me get both your numbers."
Well... they both agreed. I mean, now I have both of their numbers. The thing is of course, is that one of them I really want to use, while the other I might as well throw away.
So for the girl that I was genuinely interested in, she has no way of knowing that I'm interested in her because I got her friends number too. The cute one also might be hesitant to go out on a date with me even if she wanted to, out of respect to her friend who might be jealous if that were the situation. What am I gonna say if I end up on date and I get asked why I called her for a date and not her friend? Am I then FORCED to compliment her - and insult her friend - by admitting that I'm just attracted to her?
Probably just overanalyzing the downside here. I mean, I don't think that it was a good move per-say, but then again, maybe it just won't matter if interest level is high enough. Maybe they're not even that close friends? Whatever. We'll just see what happens.
I'm thinking I'll call the cute one on Sunday and try and set up a coffee date on Tuesday or Wednesday.