********???

[SimplyTheBest]

Well this girl I met through a friend yesterday told me that my friend told her that I was a shy guy. And then I started to think, is it true that my friend really said it or was she testing me to see if I am shy?

After an hour plus, she went shopping alone and bought a pair of new shoes and necklace. When she returned to join us, she ask if I noticed anything different about her .I wasn't aware that she is wearing her new shoes and necklace so I said no.

What is she trying to accomplish by asking me that? Is she trying to get noticed by me by saying that? I read Pook's post about ******** before and he said if a girl points out about body and etc, she is actually trying to get noticed by you.! Does any of you experienced this before??

And after a while, she seem to pop-up this question "Hey STB, can I ask you a question? Do you have a gf?"

I told her no cause I broke up with my ex a long time ago. And after that all she does was laugh.

Well, if we refer to ******** "Do you have a gf?" means "You're cute. Are you on market?" Am I right here or maybe I just think too by reading too much into her question? Hmm.........

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

Originally posted by SimplyTheBest
Well this girl I met through a friend yesterday told me that my friend told her that I was a shy guy. And then I started to think, is it true that my friend really said it or was she testing me to see if I am shy?

After an hour plus, she went shopping alone and bought a pair of new shoes and necklace. When she returned to join us, she ask if I noticed anything different about her .I wasn't aware that she is wearing her new shoes and necklace so I said no.

What is she trying to accomplish by asking me that? Is she trying to get noticed by me by saying that? I read Pook's post about ******** before and he said if a girl points out about body and etc, she is actually trying to get noticed by you.! Does any of you experienced this before??

And after a while, she seem to pop-up this question "Hey STB, can I ask you a question? Do you have a gf?"

I told her no cause I broke up with my ex a long time ago. And after that all she does was laugh.

Well, if we refer to ******** "Do you have a gf?" means "You're cute. Are you on market?" Am I right here or maybe I just think too by reading too much into her question? Hmm.........

Um this isn't a hard one...

I don't know what kind of friend this guy is, so I can't tell if he actually said you were shy. But most likely, if he did, it's because she asked him something about you OR he's trying to help you out... kind of like you WOULD put the moves on her... but you're so shy... not that you're not interested. Of course, I can't possibly guess what the real deal was without more info.

She might also have been just testing you - but not to see if you were actually shy. To see if you would realize that she was trying to make you hit on her. I think she's implying that you ARE shy... and you shouldn't be... not in this instance.

When she came back with the new stuff on... did she ask everyone or just YOU? If it was just you then yes, she is trying to get you to notice her. She is doing some passive aggressive flirting... I don't know how you can even ask "is she trying to get noticed?" because she obviously is... she his saying "HEY DO YOU NOTICE....?" ... she's testing you to see if you were paying attention (trying to get a read on if you're into her or not) and she is trying to flirt a little like "hey you SHOULD be paying attention to me".

The girlfriend question was probably like her last resort, because you just weren't picking up on any of the other signs... "Do you have a girlfriend?" means DO YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND? ... meaning... are you single, and available... for her. OF course, sometimes asking something like that is her way of scoping you out for one of her friends that might like you, but mixed with the other stuff above, that probably means she is interested.

As for the laughing - was it like giggling like "oh I'm so embarrassed I can't believe I just asked him that but oh he's cute so maybe he'll like me" ... or was full on laughing like "ha ha this idiot actually still thinks I'm flirting with him". You have to be the judge if she is truly evil or is trying to make you pick up on some of her not-so-subtle hints. This really is NOT a case of "********"... this is some obvious flirting she's doing. Don't be so oblivious to it or eventually she'll assume you're not just shy, you're not interested. (Unless you AREN'T interested... in which case do what the hell you want).

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I pretty much agree with what Malibu said but I just have to add something. Dude, you have to be in DJ mode all of the time, it didn't sound like you showed any interest to this woman what so ever. Your concern was geared more to what your friend said about you, who cares. If they were wrong prove it by your actions.

When she told you what your friend had said, maybe blowing it off would have worked saying something like "You should find out for yourself "

When she came back and asked whether you noticed something different something off the cuff like "Well, you look just about as good as you did when you left, good job!"

When she asked about having a girlfriend, you could answer with "No, but I'm considering opening the position. By the way, what are your qualifications?"

The fact of the matter is that it was almost obvious that she had some interest level in you since she had talked to your friend about you. The rest of her actions made it even more obvious. If you were in your DJ mode you would have easily caught it and would not have been so consumed with the 'whys' behind her actions.

 

[SimplyTheBest]

Re: Re: ********???

Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
Um this isn't a hard one...

I don't know what kind of friend this guy is, so I can't tell if he actually said you were shy. But most likely, if he did, it's because she asked him something about you OR he's trying to help you out... kind of like you WOULD put the moves on her... but you're so shy... not that you're not interested. Of course, I can't possibly guess what the real deal was without more info.

She might also have been just testing you - but not to see if you were actually shy. To see if you would realize that she was trying to make you hit on her. I think she's implying that you ARE shy... and you shouldn't be... not in this instance.

When she came back with the new stuff on... did she ask everyone or just YOU? If it was just you then yes, she is trying to get you to notice her. She is doing some passive aggressive flirting... I don't know how you can even ask "is she trying to get noticed?" because she obviously is... she his saying "HEY DO YOU NOTICE....?" ... she's testing you to see if you were paying attention (trying to get a read on if you're into her or not) and she is trying to flirt a little like "hey you SHOULD be paying attention to me".

The girlfriend question was probably like her last resort, because you just weren't picking up on any of the other signs... "Do you have a girlfriend?" means DO YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND? ... meaning... are you single, and available... for her. OF course, sometimes asking something like that is her way of scoping you out for one of her friends that might like you, but mixed with the other stuff above, that probably means she is interested.

As for the laughing - was it like giggling like "oh I'm so embarrassed I can't believe I just asked him that but oh he's cute so maybe he'll like me" ... or was full on laughing like "ha ha this idiot actually still thinks I'm flirting with him". You have to be the judge if she is truly evil or is trying to make you pick up on some of her not-so-subtle hints. This really is NOT a case of "********"... this is some obvious flirting she's doing. Don't be so oblivious to it or eventually she'll assume you're not just shy, you're not interested. (Unless you AREN'T interested... in which case do what the hell you want).

Umm........based on my own perspective, I feel that my friend did not say that I was shy. But she did ask my friend and I if we noticed anything different? Maybe I was reading too much into the situation and I probably thought she was trying to get my attention. Hmm...... and I believe that she doesnt see me as an idiot.... what other possibilities are there in such situation?