30 rejections in one night.

[shrewd]

hehehe i approached 35 girls and talked for no more then 30 seconds before asking them to dance, out of the 35, 5 said yes. sometimes i would just tap them on the shoulder and ask them to dance, that worked twice. This may seem pretty bad to you, but it's better then the 20 total rejections I got on the 2 previous weekends, with NO acceptances and no dancing. Next week i'm gonna approach 40 in one night hopefully 1/4 will say yes.

Anyways, i was wondering if any of you guys had good pick up lines to say in clubs when approaching girls to dance. The best i've come up with is "do you go to queens? have you been to the pec yet? (pec stands for physical education center) and if they say yes I rip open my shirt and say "would you like to visit THESE PECS??" lol that worked twice out of the 3 times i tried it last night. Also i was wondering, is this a good idea, approaching as many girls as i can in one night? I'm worried that after a while i'll get a bad rep for being desperate/crazy, especially since this is the only club people from my school go to on fridays.

 

[MindOverMatter]

more approaches wont solve this problem. it's not a problem of quantity, but rather quality. i'm glad you got over the approach phobia, but you're really doing this the wrong way.

you're rushing the whole approach, keeping it fast paced, using corny pickup lines (like the pec one).

instead of doing 40 approaches, do 3-5 but make them count.

what I mean by that is, be natural, don't use any pick up lines, get to know the person, establish lots of rapport (your goal is to make the person you've just met feel like you've known each other your whole lives), then proceed to dance/date close/# close, whatever.

remember, quality over quantity, less is more, etc

 

[shrewd]

ok thx MovM that's sort of what i was looking for...most of the time though girls are in groups of 3 or more or already dancing. Keep in mind this was all done at a club where it's pretty hard to here and not girls want to talk they just wanna dance lol. Anyways i'll see if i can single some girls out and try your method.

 

[MindOverMatter]

you don't have to approach just in clubs (it may not be your environment), approach everywhere. campus, bus stops, lines (like if you're waiting in a line and there's a cute girl, talk to her to pass time), grocery stores, etc. just make sure you're doing it properly.

get to know the girl, get her to know you, establish lots of rapport, then tell her it was great meeting her and that you'd like to take her out sometime, once she agrees go for the # close.

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by MindOverMatter
more approaches wont solve this problem. it's not a problem of quantity, but rather quality. i'm glad you got over the approach phobia, but you're really doing this the wrong way.

you're rushing the whole approach, keeping it fast paced, using corny pickup lines (like the pec one).

instead of doing 40 approaches, do 3-5 but make them count.

what I mean by that is, be natural, don't use any pick up lines, get to know the person, establish lots of rapport (your goal is to make the person you've just met feel like you've known each other your whole lives), then proceed to dance/date close/# close, whatever.

remember, quality over quantity, less is more, etc

uh wtf, if the dude just wanted to dance, he doesnt need a life story.

 

[MindOverMatter]

1.) he's not just trying to dance, the goal is to hook up.
2.) not a life story, but establishing a connection is necessery. girls get hit on by strangers all the time in clubs, if you want to get past her defenses, you need some kind of rapport, otherwise you're just another sleazy-pick-up-line-using-guy looking for a quick lay (which works on some girls, fails on majority)

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by MindOverMatter
1.) he's not just trying to dance, the goal is to hook up.
2.) not a life story, but establishing a connection is necessery. girls get hit on by strangers all the time in clubs, if you want to get past her defenses, you need some kind of rapport, otherwise you're just another sleazy-pick-up-line-using-guy looking for a quick lay (which works on some girls, fails on majority)

i dunno wut kinda club he was at, but if its quiet enough to talk itd be a bar man.

 

[MindOverMatter]

most of the clubs I've been to (and i've been to a sh!tload in my years), have more then one section, and not all of them are loud.

the best of clubs will have several levels, several dance floor, 4-5 bar areas, a couple of more quiet darker areas where you isolate to, etc.

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by MindOverMatter
most of the clubs I've been to (and i've been to a sh!tload in my years), have more then one section, and not all of them are loud.

the best of clubs will have several levels, several dance floor, 4-5 bar areas, a couple of more quiet darker areas where you isolate to, etc.

aww yeah i see i see, well then disregard wutt i said

 

[JT47319]

The basic process of pick-up, based primarily on verbal, non-looks game...

Open...
Followup on their answer...
Insert joke/humor...
Story tell...
Kino...
Story tell...
Demonstrate high value...
Escalate kino...
Isolate...
Story tell...
Demonstrate high value...
Qualify her...
Escalate kino...
Story tell...
Qualify her...
Escalate kino...
Makeout/#-close...

 

[englishman]

No no, you should rip your pants open not your shirt lol....seriously though, its great that you can handle that much rejection and not be put off, BUT sounds like youve got to work on your aproach! ps...a lot lol

 

[tom121]

wow props to you

if it was me, after 10 rejection, I go straight home crying

never been to club before (I turn 19 in Jan.05 and I will be able to)

but at high school dance, I asked 20 girls (all stranger) I get about 5, oh well it's better than no one right?

 

[tickforth]

Originally posted by shrewd
ok thx MovM that's sort of what i was looking for...most of the time though girls are in groups of 3 or more or already dancing. Keep in mind this was all done at a club where it's pretty hard to here and not girls want to talk they just wanna dance lol. Anyways i'll see if i can single some girls out and try your method.

One approach I found this guy pull on the dance floor that looks pretty good and pretty sincere is that your dancing facing towards the chic you want to dance with, then reach your left hand out like as if you are asking her for 5 bucks, then reach your right hand out and ask for another five bucks, the chics smile at him, and grabed both of his hands then he pulled the chic towards him and there he went his way. Everyone implicitly knows that body language means you are inviting her to dance with you. I haven't try myself, because I am a sh*t dancer right now. But eventually I will. It should work pretty damn good if you are a good dancer.

 

[Eternal]

Edited the thread and bumping it back up.

Hanz - Don't flame "shrewd" again or you'll get banned.

Shrewd - Nice work. This is the type of stories that this site needs more of. People need to post their stories of approaches more so people can see how other people do them.

 

[Vincent]

Originally posted by Eternal
Shrewd - Nice work. This is the type of stories that this site needs more of. People need to post their stories of approaches more so people can see how other people do them.

Thats what I said before eternal deleted my post.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

i never been to a club, but at discos, although i have only made what 6 approches total, so not enough to take a decent average from, i got a 33% success rate.

I have never had to apprcoh girls at the discos thou because enough girls approch me.

 

[bonethugmug]

First time I went to club I ASKED girls to dance, it DID NOT WORK! I got rejected 8/8 times. So last time I went to the club, if I saw a girl or even an ass that I wanted to dance with, I just started grinding her. This worked 8/12 times and they were all pretty receptive. If they didn't want to dance with me, they didn't get mad at all, they just kinda started to slowly move away but I got the point and moved on. If you're in a dance club, just dance with anyone you want to dance with, be confident.

 

[Wiesman44]

I love how all these 16 year olds that aren't old enough to get into clubs are all trying to give advice. There's plenty of club tips around this forum ! Use the search feature.

 

[Bonhomme]

Interesting...

Let us know how many get past the first phone call...

A question:

What do you look like? It seems this approach would work best for well-built, good looking, young guys. Anyone else might be pegged as an instant creep.

I can certainly see how an attractive fellow can get some action by broadcasting how easy he is in a confident way. If a gal wants to hook up, you're right out there for her.

 

[DJDamage]

Your half way there shrewd. Once you eliminate the fear of rejection, its time to work on other qualities you neglect. If you get 10 rejection stright then :

a) its good that you didn't care b) You should be going back to the drawing board and find out which areas you can imporve on and why you get rejected so much.

Instead of asking the girls to dance, try to build a conversation with them using C&F, Kino and see how many minutes you can hold their interest. If you reach 10 minutes, then its good enough rapport and most girls will give you the number once you tell them " hey it was nice talking to you but I have to get going, is there a way for me to contact you?"