3 worst things men 'feel'

[scordate]

1) Some of us guys are the type that always likes to have a woman around. Think this behavior gets worse for guys like us in our 30's.

2) We don't screen the girls we date enough. We give them more credit than they deserve

3) WE DON"T LIKE TO LOSE. We want to end things on our terms and our terms only with these woman.

The quote belongs to Ricky ( from another thread ) but I think it deserves a thread of its own.

Think about these 3 - seriously.

1.
when we need to have a woman around, we appear NEEDY and desparate, and women READ this as experts and use it.

2.
.....and we become less critical, because we fear that if we dont hook up with this woman, we never get a woman.

3.
I think Ricky only got one half of the win-need side of men.

We dont want to lose when we are trying to get a girl, so we press and press and try and try, untill the girl has us wrapped around her little finger !

AND

like Ricky said; we perceive a break-up as a loss.


Remedies ?

think used cars !

you upgrade your old car from time to time, huh ?

looking for a newer model, more factory options, fully loaded (!)

sometimes you sell your old car before getting the new, so you get a temp. car / rent-car

if your old car is broke, wont start, gives you problems, is a lemon, you get rid of it pretty quick, huh ?

you dont hang on to old cars and keep them all on your front lawn, huh ?

and then once in a life-time, you get hold of a keeper, a classic that you want to keep forever, and with proper care and maintenance you actually can do that and the car will be faithfull to you and start every morning !

/ scordate

 

[sqone]

This is a great quote...

Number 3 has particuraly got me lately. I refuse to lose. Is this really bad though... as men we are always taught to be competitive and win.

I had this beautiful woman who whatever reason all the sudden started blowing me off... and now my ego takes over and I refuse to lose. At this point, she has presented a challenge to me and I'll do anything to WIN her back.. cause I refuse to lose (so annoying to analyze your behavior and not be able to do anything about it).

This behavior leads right to 1 and 2. Girl hurts guy. Guy lowers standards just so he can get a date or get laid (#2).

And I totally agree (#1) , as I get older I feel more a need to have a women. It's really annoying, cause in my early 20's I didn't give a damn, and that works a whole lot better than my current pathetic pushing 30 needy state.

 

[DJohnson]

Originally posted by scordate
The quote belongs to Ricky ( from another thread ) but I think it deserves a thread of its own.

Think about these 3 - seriously.

1.
when we need to have a woman around, we appear NEEDY and desparate, and women READ this as experts and use it.

2.
.....and we become less critical, because we fear that if we dont hook up with this woman, we never get a woman.

3.
I think Ricky only got one half of the win-need side of men.

We dont want to lose when we are trying to get a girl, so we press and press and try and try, untill the girl has us wrapped around her little finger !

AND

like Ricky said; we perceive a break-up as a loss.


Remedies ?

think used cars !

you upgrade your old car from time to time, huh ?

looking for a newer model, more factory options, fully loaded (!)

sometimes you sell your old car before getting the new, so you get a temp. car / rent-car

if your old car is broke, wont start, gives you problems, is a lemon, you get rid of it pretty quick, huh ?

you dont hang on to old cars and keep them all on your front lawn, huh ?

and then once in a life-time, you get hold of a keeper, a classic that you want to keep forever, and with proper care and maintenance you actually can do that and the car will be faithfull to you and start every morning !


/ scordate

Personally, I don't think it is bad to have one or several COOL girls around so you do NOT appear needy to other women.

This solves the first two questions. Of course inner game work will make it so you do not need any CERTAIN woman, but we are men, of course we need women to a degree. The key is not needing a CERTAIN woman. And not giving off a vibe that you will be affected if a CERTAIN woman is not interested.

And yeah the need to always be right and not lose fades away as you gain success.

Peace.

 

[Ricky]

Guys this last girlfriend was great until she pulled the rug out from under me.

I didn't see it coming but alot of that was because i was busy finishing a thesis project, evaluating job offers and getting no sleep basically in preparation for completing a degree and moving to a new town and new job where I knew nooone.

So it was a tough time. I felt betrayed by her. I still haven't totally given up.

But one thing snapped in me. I just don't care anymore. I want to win but I don't care about any damn woman anymore. I think it will pay off but once again I dont' care.

Last night I was at a bar and holding eye contact with a couple of hottie from across the room. The girl walks all the way across the room to get a closer look at me while on her cell phone. Then she goes back. Then I see her do it a second time, all the time looking at me.

I didn't give a crap though, the two girls were up there and I was enjoying a beer. Had I wanted to I would have opened them.

I'm not lazy either , I just don't care! It's crazy. It is a breakthrough I have no need to have a woman anymore.

 

[iveyleeger]

But you should have closed her. Make it a habit. Be a closer. Don't let them walk away. Somewhere, deep inside, you die a little bit every time you let them walk away without trying.

 

[scordate]

ricky you need to practice

go with whatever comes around

so she moves in to 'inspect you'

bust her on it !

"when you have walked this far you should also go the last 1 meter and sit down here !"

/ scordate