Nine Breaker
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 25, 2001
- Messages
- 438
- Reaction score
- 4
Part 1 – The Motive
One thing any DJ should be honest to himself about is his REAL motivation for engaging in the pursuit of women. Whatever the case, whether it be for a bit of fun or for something serious and long-term, any real man has to at least be honest to himself about what he’s really after.
Sounds simple, but it will involve serious decision-making at one stage in the future.
For example, if you’re looking for a bit of ONS action (or a lot of it!), you’ll have to be prepared to break the news to any woman who might seek to take things further with you – and chances are (if you’re good) this could be a frequent event. There is nothing worse than finding yourself trapped in a relationship when all you wanted was to “play the field”.
Conversely, if you’re looking for love and the rest of that “serious stuff”, then don’t be surprised if you find a woman who might fit your personal preferences, but only wants ONS herself. It’s no secret that women love sex just as much as guys do – despite what they might tell you to avoid being labelled as “easy”. It happens, and it happens quite frequently to AFC’s too blinded by their lust for true love to see what is really there in front of them.
Part 2 – Relax
Feeling nervous is a real pain. Yet it is something that can happen to the best of us when we least suspect it. I’m sure you all know the feelings I’m referring to here – you get butterflies in your stomach, you suddenly feel lethargic, the initiative you had flowing just a few minutes ago seems to dry up, and your mind starts racing ahead and over-analysing the situation.
Damn, huh?
The “butterflies” in your stomach is actually a reduction in blood flow, caused by the bizarre link between your body and mind. In order to beat those butterflies into submission, all you really need to do is get the blood back to your stomach. This is simpler than it sounds. When you eat/drink, your stomach is called into action to process the contents into something your body can use. Your stomach uses more blood to accomplish this. Simply put, if you are feeling nervous, you can quite easily beat those feelings by having a quick drink or a snack. Also, chewing gum can have the same effect, although doing this too much might be risky – as your stomach makes more acid to break down food that isn’t there.
That should solve the physical problems of nervousness, but as for the thoughts racing in your head – it’s up to you and you alone to keep your objectivity!
Part 3 – Love Rots
This one goes out to any of you that are really really intent on finding a woman to love you as much as you’d love her – and I’d bet a small fortune that there are a fair few of you out there…
Firstly, it’s not exactly a bad thing that you’re looking for love. After all, love is meant to be the most powerful of any emotion humans experience. It’s the source of some of our finest moments, and some of our darkest hours. The feelings of contentment, trust, sheer happiness and the rest of them aren’t emotions that too many people would prefer to miss out on.
Love is how AFC’s are born.
Guys that are intent on looking for love run a pretty high risk of losing sight of what really matters in life, and instead turn to finding that one special woman as the centre of their existence – the very reason for their being. This is why any successful DJ will tell you time and time again to find things that will improve your mind and body, to find a hobby or something you can create, achieve and enjoy. You should know that you have to do anything and EVERYTHING in your own power to maximise the happiness in your life.
It’s a documented fact that in the US, more than 50% of all marriages fail. It’s no secret that many of those failed marriages occurred because the couples were more intent on finding love with someone, anyone, than risk never finding love at all.
Love is, without doubt, a great thing to behold. Don’t make the mistake of thinking love cannot fail – because it very well can. But where love fails, the good times and achievements of your life will always be something that nobody else can take from you – and will lead you to a truly successful life, which WILL help you find what you seek.
Take it easy.
One thing any DJ should be honest to himself about is his REAL motivation for engaging in the pursuit of women. Whatever the case, whether it be for a bit of fun or for something serious and long-term, any real man has to at least be honest to himself about what he’s really after.
Sounds simple, but it will involve serious decision-making at one stage in the future.
For example, if you’re looking for a bit of ONS action (or a lot of it!), you’ll have to be prepared to break the news to any woman who might seek to take things further with you – and chances are (if you’re good) this could be a frequent event. There is nothing worse than finding yourself trapped in a relationship when all you wanted was to “play the field”.
Conversely, if you’re looking for love and the rest of that “serious stuff”, then don’t be surprised if you find a woman who might fit your personal preferences, but only wants ONS herself. It’s no secret that women love sex just as much as guys do – despite what they might tell you to avoid being labelled as “easy”. It happens, and it happens quite frequently to AFC’s too blinded by their lust for true love to see what is really there in front of them.
Part 2 – Relax
Feeling nervous is a real pain. Yet it is something that can happen to the best of us when we least suspect it. I’m sure you all know the feelings I’m referring to here – you get butterflies in your stomach, you suddenly feel lethargic, the initiative you had flowing just a few minutes ago seems to dry up, and your mind starts racing ahead and over-analysing the situation.
Damn, huh?
The “butterflies” in your stomach is actually a reduction in blood flow, caused by the bizarre link between your body and mind. In order to beat those butterflies into submission, all you really need to do is get the blood back to your stomach. This is simpler than it sounds. When you eat/drink, your stomach is called into action to process the contents into something your body can use. Your stomach uses more blood to accomplish this. Simply put, if you are feeling nervous, you can quite easily beat those feelings by having a quick drink or a snack. Also, chewing gum can have the same effect, although doing this too much might be risky – as your stomach makes more acid to break down food that isn’t there.
That should solve the physical problems of nervousness, but as for the thoughts racing in your head – it’s up to you and you alone to keep your objectivity!
Part 3 – Love Rots
This one goes out to any of you that are really really intent on finding a woman to love you as much as you’d love her – and I’d bet a small fortune that there are a fair few of you out there…
Firstly, it’s not exactly a bad thing that you’re looking for love. After all, love is meant to be the most powerful of any emotion humans experience. It’s the source of some of our finest moments, and some of our darkest hours. The feelings of contentment, trust, sheer happiness and the rest of them aren’t emotions that too many people would prefer to miss out on.
Love is how AFC’s are born.
Guys that are intent on looking for love run a pretty high risk of losing sight of what really matters in life, and instead turn to finding that one special woman as the centre of their existence – the very reason for their being. This is why any successful DJ will tell you time and time again to find things that will improve your mind and body, to find a hobby or something you can create, achieve and enjoy. You should know that you have to do anything and EVERYTHING in your own power to maximise the happiness in your life.
It’s a documented fact that in the US, more than 50% of all marriages fail. It’s no secret that many of those failed marriages occurred because the couples were more intent on finding love with someone, anyone, than risk never finding love at all.
Love is, without doubt, a great thing to behold. Don’t make the mistake of thinking love cannot fail – because it very well can. But where love fails, the good times and achievements of your life will always be something that nobody else can take from you – and will lead you to a truly successful life, which WILL help you find what you seek.
Take it easy.