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3 quick ways to combat your low self esteem
Having a low self esteem will not only affect your game in the world of seduction and dating, but more likely affect other areas of your life.
It can be a negative cycle. If you are not happy about life, then women won't wanna hang out with you, and then, you'll start to feel even bad for yourself.
Sometimes, we wish the world would just give us some sympathy. The "right" girl just show up and pull us out of the sinkhole that we're in. But that is never going to happen... for several reasons.
First of all, depending on a girl to pull you out of rut sets a relationship on a negative tone -- you come across as being emotionally dependent on others, which isn't very charming.
Secondly, women aren't attracted to men who pity themselves.
What can you do to pull yourself out of your self-esteem rut?
1. Accomplish something
Accomplish or achieving something is the fastest and the surest way make youself feel more good again.
Focus on improving yourself and your life. Finish that project you've always wanted to complete. Improve your career. Or, check something off your bucket list. All these are great ways to make yourself feel more confident again.
In your daily life, joining some constructive hobbies and hitting the gym will absolutely do the trick.
2. Fake it until you feel it...
When you're feeling down and low, the last thing you want to hear someone tell you, "just think ositive."
I know, it's annoying. But, you've got to take ACTION to make yourself feel confident and happy again, particularly when you're out in public. I know it sounds cheesy, but really true. The smile on your face is infectious and has a conditioned response. So, if you're smiling, you'll "coax" your mind into believing that you're actually happy.
Other more fun way to "coax" your brain is to improve your grooming and update your wardrobe, again conditioning youself to "look good and feel good."
Another way (also my favourite way) is to travel. And by travel, I just don't mean simply taking a week-long vacation. Really, go and see and experience something new.
Now, you might be hesitant doing all these things to make yourself happy, but taking yourself away from your problems and experiencing something new and bigger can almost instantly force a self-realization.
3. Logic.
This is a great technique you can always use when you catch yourself beating yourself with doubtful or hurtful thoughts.
Try to dissect every doubts and hurtful thoughts you're telling yourself, and then, use logic to disprove your own "negative thinking."
So, for example, if you're thinking thoughts like, "I'm never going to be good with women," try to criticize that statement with logic.
The truth is that you lose only if you give up. But it's also true that your emotional brain controls self-doubt.
So by just using logic to disset and criticise flaws in your way of thinking, you'll stop listening to your crappy self-perception, while also firing up your logical side of your brain, giving back control to a part of your brain that is not plagued by mood swings.
The reason why you must do this instead of just "just think positive" is that you must face your negative emotions head on, otherwise you might still leave a part of you unchecked that believes they're true.
Stay chilled,
Abishek
P.S. Here's another related article on the subject: 1 Simple "Trick" To 3X Your Confidence with Women
Having a low self esteem will not only affect your game in the world of seduction and dating, but more likely affect other areas of your life.
It can be a negative cycle. If you are not happy about life, then women won't wanna hang out with you, and then, you'll start to feel even bad for yourself.
Sometimes, we wish the world would just give us some sympathy. The "right" girl just show up and pull us out of the sinkhole that we're in. But that is never going to happen... for several reasons.
First of all, depending on a girl to pull you out of rut sets a relationship on a negative tone -- you come across as being emotionally dependent on others, which isn't very charming.
Secondly, women aren't attracted to men who pity themselves.
What can you do to pull yourself out of your self-esteem rut?
1. Accomplish something
Accomplish or achieving something is the fastest and the surest way make youself feel more good again.
Focus on improving yourself and your life. Finish that project you've always wanted to complete. Improve your career. Or, check something off your bucket list. All these are great ways to make yourself feel more confident again.
In your daily life, joining some constructive hobbies and hitting the gym will absolutely do the trick.
2. Fake it until you feel it...
When you're feeling down and low, the last thing you want to hear someone tell you, "just think ositive."
I know, it's annoying. But, you've got to take ACTION to make yourself feel confident and happy again, particularly when you're out in public. I know it sounds cheesy, but really true. The smile on your face is infectious and has a conditioned response. So, if you're smiling, you'll "coax" your mind into believing that you're actually happy.
Other more fun way to "coax" your brain is to improve your grooming and update your wardrobe, again conditioning youself to "look good and feel good."
Another way (also my favourite way) is to travel. And by travel, I just don't mean simply taking a week-long vacation. Really, go and see and experience something new.
Now, you might be hesitant doing all these things to make yourself happy, but taking yourself away from your problems and experiencing something new and bigger can almost instantly force a self-realization.
3. Logic.
This is a great technique you can always use when you catch yourself beating yourself with doubtful or hurtful thoughts.
Try to dissect every doubts and hurtful thoughts you're telling yourself, and then, use logic to disprove your own "negative thinking."
So, for example, if you're thinking thoughts like, "I'm never going to be good with women," try to criticize that statement with logic.
The truth is that you lose only if you give up. But it's also true that your emotional brain controls self-doubt.
So by just using logic to disset and criticise flaws in your way of thinking, you'll stop listening to your crappy self-perception, while also firing up your logical side of your brain, giving back control to a part of your brain that is not plagued by mood swings.
The reason why you must do this instead of just "just think positive" is that you must face your negative emotions head on, otherwise you might still leave a part of you unchecked that believes they're true.
Stay chilled,
Abishek
P.S. Here's another related article on the subject: 1 Simple "Trick" To 3X Your Confidence with Women
