3 plates in a row

[PokerStar]

Hey Guys,

just wondering if this has happened to you.

3 plates i have been fooling around with, you know banging them, hanging out, the usual fun stuff.

when the subject of a relationship comes up(not by me) Im honest with them and I tell them Im not looking for a serious relationship at the moment.

Well after being honest and straight up with them, they seem to not answer my calls or texts, they just drop off the face of the planet.

WTF??

I admit that i still have holes in my game but I didnt think these holes would be this big.

back to the drawing board guys.

Has this happened to any of you??

 

[Tiguere]

happens to everyone who follows the plate theory.

the key here is every plate is replaceable and if you end up being hurt or upset a plate fell off then you are doing it wrong.

 

[Real Talk]

happens to everyone who follows the plate theory.

the key here is every plate is replaceable and if you end up being hurt or upset a plate fell off then you are doing it wrong.

Yup. If you're not looking to be exclusive, prepare to keep dropping old plates and getting new ones as girls won't stick around forever if they get the hint that things aren't going to progress anywhere. Such is the way of plate spinning.

 

[vagrant]

Simple psychology. Most women feel slut messing with guys they're not in a relationship with. Figure out the rest...

 

[Blusher]

Did you question her about her motivation for an exclusive relationship?

If her needs are met although the relationship is non-exclusive, she'll stick around.

 

[Zarky]

when the subject of a relationship comes up(not by me) Im honest with them and I tell them Im not looking for a serious relationship at the moment.

You're not following Zarky's Rule #2: Always lie to women.

Only a tiny, tiny fraction of women are going to continue seeing a man who tells them that he doesn't want a relationship with them. You have to lie to 'em if you want 'em to stick around.

You have to realize that women expect DJs to date multiple women, as long as it's not shoved in front of their faces. You have to respect women enough to lie to them. Sounds strange, but once you come to that understanding, you will finally "get" women.

9,999 out of 10,000 men will never understand this key concept. Lying to women is respectful. Telling them the truth about things like this is disrespectful.

Take Tiger Woods' wife. Do you really think she didn't know that Tiger was boning dozens of other chicks? Of course she knew, she only got upset when it was shoved in front of her face. Why? Because he didn't respect her enough to make sure she was never faced with it.

Awhile back I had a girl over a couple nights after I had another girl over. The first girl had left her underwear under my bed where the second girl found it. The second girl got very upset, not because I was boning some other chick, but because I didn't respect her enough to make sure that evidence of the prior girl was removed before she got there.

Be the one man in ten thousand who understands this key concept.

 

[Wilko]

Zarky, you can call me a fan, seems you always manage to peel back a deeper level of undestanding.

I take a deal of pride in dealing with women very honestly, telling them upfront what they can and can't expect from me, it makes me feel good about myself, self-righteous even.

So what's that about eh? Who's that really benefitting? Probably not her or my d!ck, just my nice clean conscience, yay for me and my moral high ground!

I think this about getting dirty, being about actions and consequences rather than focussing on right and wrong. Think I'll give this a crack.

 

[bukowski_merit]

3 plates i have been fooling around with, you know banging them, hanging out, the usual fun stuff.

It's possible that you're giving off "relationship" vibes to them.... Some things that may help:

1) Be serious 10% of the time (this is where you make true connections and make them feel like you have a bond with them. Having a small bond - can keep a woman around much longer. But having too strong of a bond can make her want you as a boyfriend and leave in fear of not being able to have you, which is an ego hit to her socially conditioned brain.)

2) Be playful/sexual 90% of the time (seems crazy to have to do that much? well, it'll keep them from seeing you too much as boyfriend material.)

^ Notice there's no room here for normal!

3) Give off player vibes without EVER verbalizing what exactly you do when you're not together. Any questions about other women should be meant with something like: "Lets not talk about other women at a time like this." If she lingers on the subject or keeps bringing it up - - - just keep cutting the thread and stay congruent on not talking about it (unless of course you want to advance the relationship and want to pledge your allegiance to her pvssy only!) If she feels she's the only woman you talk to - she'll want to advance the relationship quickly (if she likes you.) If she knows there's other women because you told her - that will lead to very quick ends (unless the woman is a real ho!)


Those were just some quick tips for ya...

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On top of that - there's a good chance "some" of these women will return at a later date.


But the most important thing is - to be good with women. To be good with MANY women. You MUST learn to be okay with loneliness. You cannot fear moments like these where the women have presumably left due to your non-commitment. Let them go and be ok with it. Let your relationship with the female sex continue on with a new batch. You've gained experience and had some good times. Letting women go without a fight is the KEY to being a powerful mfer!


But to answer your question about if this has ever happened to me - Kind of. I do have a FB i've managed to keep around for almost 3 years now, who has been pretty consistent with being available as i need her.... But the rest of my plates - come and go in months normally... And yes, sometimes all at once!

 

[runner83]

You're not following Zarky's Rule #2: Always lie to women.

Only a tiny, tiny fraction of women are going to continue seeing a man who tells them that he doesn't want a relationship with them. You have to lie to 'em if you want 'em to stick around.

We need more of Zarky's rules on this forum.

 

[Zarky]

Zarky, you can call me a fan, seems you always manage to peel back a deeper level of undestanding.

Thank you, I looove sociology and male/female interactions. I think about this stuff all. the. time.

I take a deal of pride in dealing with women very honestly, telling them upfront what they can and can't expect from me, it makes me feel good about myself, self-righteous even.

That's great to do with men, bad with women.

So what's that about eh? Who's that really benefitting? Probably not her or my d!ck, just my nice clean conscience, yay for me and my moral high ground!

You've been trained to treat women like you treat men. If you're doing business with them, then fine, treat them like you'd treat men. But making them want your sperm is a whole 'nother ball game.