3 Dance Rejections - I love it!!

[One on One]

For the first time in my life, I asked girls to dance at the club last night. First, I went to talk to a girl I knew and had danced with before. She didn't want to dance because she had just been dancing and it was all hot and a fight had just broken out so she didn't want to go back down to the dance floor. Ok, fine, suit yourself.

After that, I went down the main floor and made some trips around the dance floor. I didn't see anyone all that attractive, but I ended up asking two girls to dance. The first looked like she was in college and she was pretty cute. I thought I would get her because she was standing there watching her friend dance with a guy. It was a perfect opportunity, but, for some reason, she wasn't up for it. She just shook her head and mouthed "no" in a friendly sort of way. Oh, well.

The next girl I saw I don't remember much about, but I think she was a bit older than me. She started saying some **** about why she didn't want to dance that I couldn't figure out because it was so loud. Quite possibly she said she had a boyfriend, I don't know, I didn't really care what she was talking about. I did hear her say, "thank you, though" at the end. Eh, whatever.

Ok, so I got rejected by 3 girls, but I didn't feel bad for two seconds after any of them. I learned a few things:

- If you stand around staring at a girl all night, you'll feel bad if she rejects you when you finally approach because you put all your eggs in one basket. Whereas, if you peruse the club and use the 3s rule, you won't give a **** what the trick says.

- Most girls aren't gonna be that rude if you approach them. All 3 girls I got rejected were nice to me. This confirms what I learned last week when I made my first approach.

Wow, so I'm actually making approaches now. My first 4 approaches in the last week.

 

[Knicknack]

I got to a club a little early last night, so the dance floor was not bumpin yet. I did notice a hottie and her friend, so I decided to build up a little rapport, in hopes that the hottie would dance later.

we talked about the usual BS and everything was cool. when i walked off i said to the hottie, "i might call on you to dance later."

sure enough. late in the night I see them chillin by the dance floor, so i knew i was as good as in. i grabbed the hottie and asked her if she remembered my name. she was like, "of course," and told me my name. we ended up grinding for a couple of songs. i didn't try to number close her because she leaves for college in a couple weeks(pointless to even try to date).

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Knicknack
sure enough. late in the night I see them chillin by the dance floor, so i knew i was as good as in. i grabbed the hottie and asked her if she remembered my name. she was like, "of course," and told me my name. we ended up grinding for a couple of songs. i didn't try to number close her because she leaves for college in a couple weeks(pointless to even try to date).

That was a good play. Hopefully some other HBs took notice.

 

[killerasp]

hey thats awesome. getting rejected just pumps you up more.

dont feel bad about it. i was on a 0/12 streak at the clubs. Then finally one night, a girl wanted to dance with me. SCORE!!!!

keep trying and never stop.

 

[xblitz44x]

I recommend dancing with girls that are already dancing. Hot chicks that aren't dancing, are doing so because they don't want to. Not because they can't find a guy to dance with - just because they don't want to dance. You're starting off in the hole. Patroll the dancefloor looking for targets that are dancing...look them in the eye, and start dancing with them.

I was in California last week meeting with MotU, Hannibal82, and david_med@hotmail.com. David was AWESOME on the dance floor. He walked through, grabbed a girls arm and started dancing with her. If she didn't want to dance she'd keep walking...David would just move on to the next one. I did the same thing. I was rejected at least 4-5 times. You just keep getting rejected and keeping moving on until you find one that is into you, then push for the kiss. That's all this game is.

-Blitz

 

[Starman]

Dude,

Asking a girl to dance is soo 80's and formal..

Especially if its your first pick up line..its sure to backfire..

I used to always ask girls to dance..as a p/u some said yes, some said no

but my main success comes from just going to the dance floor..and dance yourself..then make subtle movements towards your target..let her know you are vibing her..and go in and JUST DO IT

even dance with the ugly chicks! because that shows you are just out there having fun..and it will put down alot of chicks B1tch sheilds..

(but dont dance with the ugly ones tooo long! just enough to be seen)

and if you can really shake your bod..other girls will notice this and be turned on..

as soon as women see a guy moving his body(rhythimically to a beat) she thinks of SEX..Thats what you want

but for christs sakes dont ASK women to dance..thats like asking for a kiss or permission to talk to her

 

[killerasp]

Originally posted by Starman
Dude,
Asking a girl to dance is soo 80's and formal..

Well, i never went and "asked" a girl to dance. I already assumed i got in the back and "tell" her to dance with me. Sometimes they say yes, otherwise, no.

 

[die4me]

Asking a girl to dance is out of it, especially if you just approach her and just ask.

But is it better to tell a girl to dance, or just get into it while you're dancing near each other?

I do the second but I'd like to see what some of yall got to say.

 

[One on One]

I know it's bad to ask a girl to dance and I don't plan to do it in the future. This was just a way for me to break down the barrier of approaching girls. I just casually asked, "wanna dance?" It made it easy for me. No pressure, no lines to think up, just something simple. Subconsciously, maybe I was looking for rejections tonight. Bottom line is I made a lot of progress and now I can build on that with some style next time I go out clubbing (tomorrow, hopefully).

 

[tx_xp]

I almost always go to the dance floor alone and dance by myself. Often I am only out there 10-30 seconds before a girl starts to dance with me, sometimes her and all of her friends too. If nothing else just have fun by yourself and notice the crowd around you. If they are interested they may make there way over to you. If you want to dance with someone just do it, if they reject you let them but I would never ask them to dance.

Do
Move to the music
Have fun
Be confident
Have fun
Enjoy yourself
Get a few drinks in you


Don’t

Come off too strong and pushy
Be too nice
Be a jerk
Work too hard at it
Ask too many questions (I used to make this mistake)
Talk about yourself unless they ask