CornbreadFed
Master Don Juan
1). Not Taking Advantage of Youthful Opportunities
As a man, you will only have four prime opportunities in your life to meet women: during high school, while working in the food/service industry when you’re young and surrounded by other young people, in college, and in the post-college MAA pool apartment "honeymoon" phase of your early career. A common trait I notice in men who struggle with dating is that they often overlook these opportunities, missing out on valuable experiences with women. It’s crucial not to ignore these periods because they provide the best chance to gain experience with attractive women with minimal investment.
Yes, it’s possible to meet women later in life, but it will require more effort and resources as you age. Maintaining a successful bachelor lifestyle past age 30(28 IMHO) demands a lot of things to go right, and most men won’t have the luck or circumstances to make it happen easily. For example, I was able to date many women at 29-30, but I’m 6’2”, genetically gifted, earn well over six figures, have job autonomy, live in a prime area of a top 5 U.S. metropolitan city, and have a wealth of experience and well-rounded knowledge. When I turned 30, I realized that maintaining this lifestyle was only going to get harder, and I started looking for an end game strategy. I’m glad I made a late 4th quarter comeback, but it was starting to get rough, NGL. I understand that there are plenty of older bachelors still going strong, but I think you are lying to others when you tell men that it is better now vs a young guy actually capitalizing on his youth. You will never be surrounded by hot young women within hands reach ever again in your life period. Your average 30 plus your old guy cannot afford to move to downtown Miami or whatever and sexually compete with rich men and aggressive jacked young guys for young tramps. He is either sexually starved, in a dead bedroom marriage, running a train through the low-quality women at the Applebee's Suburb Bar, or banging escorts/sugar babies as a passport bro in the Philippines/Columbia.
Last, And this applies to me too—guys who miss out on these opportunities often carry a sense of something missing or unfulfilled in their lives. Take, for example, the bitter blue-collar guy who skipped college and now obsesses over hating on people who went to college or have degrees. Or the older guy who missed out on partying in his youth and tries to make up for it later in life by overcompensating. There’s also the socially awkward guy who didn’t go out much in high school or college and now gives off a strange, uncomfortable vibe around others. Finally, there’s the bitter, pessimistic Black Pilled guy who had a rough time in high school or college and now carries that negativity with him. Not only will this screw up your dating life, but it will also negatively affect your life outside dating too.
2). Chasing After Women Who Aren’t Interested
When it comes to women, anything less than high interest is no interest. Women will pursue men they find attractive, either by making it extremely obvious or by giving them clear opportunities to make a move. Additionally, women will naturally behave in a feminine manner toward men they’re attracted to and act more assertively or even cutthroat toward those they aren’t, regardless of their political or ideological beliefs.
Another harsh truth is that you won’t be able to attract every woman, especially not like some sort of magical skeleton key. This is particularly true for brown men trying to date interracially. I’ll save you years of frustration and wasted effort: you’re not likely to end up with the high-status, "Taylor Swift type" blonde white girl that a Chad dates, the whitewashed Asian/minority girl who chases after nerdy white guys, the hopeless romantic chasing after bad boys and the tingles, and etc. It’s better to accept this reality early on.
Instead, focus on continuously improving yourself mentally, physically, and financially. Learn to recognize the types of women you naturally attract. Doing this will make your dating life significantly easier—trust me.
3). Never Learning to Be Comfortable with Yourself
Many guys mess up by thinking they have to be a "Chad," "hold frame," or become some idealized version of themselves to attract women. While it’s true that you can’t be clueless and still expect to exhibit masculinity, your unique value proposition will always be YOU. If you’re struggling to maintain long-term attraction with women or even to build that initial connection, it’s likely because you’re not comfortable with yourself and are coming across as inauthentic.
Bonus: Taking Toxic Content on the Internet Too Seriously
The internet is filled with men venting about failed relationships, bad dating experiences, and making excuses in general. I get it, but remember that everyone is the victim in their own story. You don’t really know what happened behind closed doors because you’re only hearing one side of the story. Also, don’t get caught up in clickbait headlines like "Hawk Taw Girl" or whatever, and mistake that for real life.
This ties back to point 2: learn how to filter for high-interest women, and most of these surface issues with women will magically disappear.
As a man, you will only have four prime opportunities in your life to meet women: during high school, while working in the food/service industry when you’re young and surrounded by other young people, in college, and in the post-college MAA pool apartment "honeymoon" phase of your early career. A common trait I notice in men who struggle with dating is that they often overlook these opportunities, missing out on valuable experiences with women. It’s crucial not to ignore these periods because they provide the best chance to gain experience with attractive women with minimal investment.
Yes, it’s possible to meet women later in life, but it will require more effort and resources as you age. Maintaining a successful bachelor lifestyle past age 30(28 IMHO) demands a lot of things to go right, and most men won’t have the luck or circumstances to make it happen easily. For example, I was able to date many women at 29-30, but I’m 6’2”, genetically gifted, earn well over six figures, have job autonomy, live in a prime area of a top 5 U.S. metropolitan city, and have a wealth of experience and well-rounded knowledge. When I turned 30, I realized that maintaining this lifestyle was only going to get harder, and I started looking for an end game strategy. I’m glad I made a late 4th quarter comeback, but it was starting to get rough, NGL. I understand that there are plenty of older bachelors still going strong, but I think you are lying to others when you tell men that it is better now vs a young guy actually capitalizing on his youth. You will never be surrounded by hot young women within hands reach ever again in your life period. Your average 30 plus your old guy cannot afford to move to downtown Miami or whatever and sexually compete with rich men and aggressive jacked young guys for young tramps. He is either sexually starved, in a dead bedroom marriage, running a train through the low-quality women at the Applebee's Suburb Bar, or banging escorts/sugar babies as a passport bro in the Philippines/Columbia.
Last, And this applies to me too—guys who miss out on these opportunities often carry a sense of something missing or unfulfilled in their lives. Take, for example, the bitter blue-collar guy who skipped college and now obsesses over hating on people who went to college or have degrees. Or the older guy who missed out on partying in his youth and tries to make up for it later in life by overcompensating. There’s also the socially awkward guy who didn’t go out much in high school or college and now gives off a strange, uncomfortable vibe around others. Finally, there’s the bitter, pessimistic Black Pilled guy who had a rough time in high school or college and now carries that negativity with him. Not only will this screw up your dating life, but it will also negatively affect your life outside dating too.
2). Chasing After Women Who Aren’t Interested
When it comes to women, anything less than high interest is no interest. Women will pursue men they find attractive, either by making it extremely obvious or by giving them clear opportunities to make a move. Additionally, women will naturally behave in a feminine manner toward men they’re attracted to and act more assertively or even cutthroat toward those they aren’t, regardless of their political or ideological beliefs.
Another harsh truth is that you won’t be able to attract every woman, especially not like some sort of magical skeleton key. This is particularly true for brown men trying to date interracially. I’ll save you years of frustration and wasted effort: you’re not likely to end up with the high-status, "Taylor Swift type" blonde white girl that a Chad dates, the whitewashed Asian/minority girl who chases after nerdy white guys, the hopeless romantic chasing after bad boys and the tingles, and etc. It’s better to accept this reality early on.
Instead, focus on continuously improving yourself mentally, physically, and financially. Learn to recognize the types of women you naturally attract. Doing this will make your dating life significantly easier—trust me.
3). Never Learning to Be Comfortable with Yourself
Many guys mess up by thinking they have to be a "Chad," "hold frame," or become some idealized version of themselves to attract women. While it’s true that you can’t be clueless and still expect to exhibit masculinity, your unique value proposition will always be YOU. If you’re struggling to maintain long-term attraction with women or even to build that initial connection, it’s likely because you’re not comfortable with yourself and are coming across as inauthentic.
Bonus: Taking Toxic Content on the Internet Too Seriously
The internet is filled with men venting about failed relationships, bad dating experiences, and making excuses in general. I get it, but remember that everyone is the victim in their own story. You don’t really know what happened behind closed doors because you’re only hearing one side of the story. Also, don’t get caught up in clickbait headlines like "Hawk Taw Girl" or whatever, and mistake that for real life.
This ties back to point 2: learn how to filter for high-interest women, and most of these surface issues with women will magically disappear.
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