3 classmates.....

[Dark Haired Alpha]

Let me describe the situation... Coincidentally, this is about 3 classmates - me, my rival and a sunshine girl we both want. And we want her BAD.

The girl definitely likes us both (I KNOW it, it's not just fake AW signals, trust me and take it as a fact in your answer), but my rival seems to be almost perfect natural, he does everything right. I also have a solid game, but he still seems to win (again, I just feel it, don't ask me why).

The rival currently has a girlfriend, but I'm sure he will hit on the girl as soon as he breaks up (not much time to go...) and he will succeed.

My question is, how do I convince her that I'm better catch then him, when he's a "MasterDJ"? Thanks

 

[Sapiens]

Dude, stop the loser assumption he will win her.

Clear your mind, she is already yours. She just doesn't know it.

JUST MAKE SURE YOU KNOW IT AND SHOW IT!

-Sapiens

 

[AmIAFC]

I was in your exact same situation back in college.

Advice: Sit next to and talk to other female classmates and make it look like you're having fun discussions with them (if you can't have a fun time with them naturally). Don't look back at female #1, remain focused on the new girl.

After a few days like this, the girl I was interested in walked across the lecture hall (from where we originally sat) to sit next to me, while the other guy was sitting back there alone (he would later come to where I was because the girl did, and it ate him up that he had to follow her who was following ME).

Now, because the girl came to my new seat, did I all of the sudden start talking to her again? HELL NO. I continued talking to the other girl -- not ignoring female #1 but not making her the focus of our discussions either. It affected her and she realized she wasn't going to get as much attention in class, so she asked me what I was doing after lecture.

The rest is history.

 

[Sapiens]

Originally posted by AmIAFC
I was in your exact same situation back in college.

Advice: Sit next to and talk to other female classmates and make it look like you're having fun discussions with them (if you can't have a fun time with them naturally).

After a few days like this, the girl I was interested in walked across the lecture hall (from where we originally sat) to sit next to me, while the other guy was sitting back there alone (he would later come to where I was because the girl did, and it ate him up that he had to follow her who was following ME).

Now, because the girl came to my new seat, did I all of the sudden start talking to her again? HELL NO. I continued talking to the other girl -- not ignoring female #1 but not making her the focus of our discussions either. It affected her and she realized she wasn't going to get as much attention in class, so she asked me what I was doing after lecture.

The rest is history.

Excellent seduction work! Indifference is a very powerful weapon, just know it when it is being used against you.

-Sapiens

 

[tseluca]

I will give you my advice at the end, but let me ask you this first

Do you really want a girl who is interested in 2 guys at the same time? Eventually she is going to want to find out what she passed up on. Everybody at some time or another wants to know what is down the road they didn't take.


But, if you insist on playing this game and competeing for her, the best way to do it, is to peacefull bow out.

Isolte her go out with her have a good time, eventually the conversation will come up, Be a gentleman tell her, my friend is obviously interested in you, I know he likes you alot, and I couldn't do that to him. If she says "but I like the 2 of you" you tell her "well I am not that desperate that I need to compete with my friend for your time"

This does 2 things

#1 shows you you don't need her,and you respect your friends more than her, instilling in her that she cant control you

#2 makes her think in the back of her mind that maybe your friend is a little desperate, and he may need to compete with you for her.

Be wary what you wish for, many times girls like to be the center of drama, and will cause it. Setting up 2 friends to compete for her, is a great way to boost her ego (having 2 friends fight over her) and destroy your friendship at the same time

Remember the other guy is bashing you when you are not around. I am a woman, and I have been on the reciving end of this before. @ guys supposedly friends, and here is is telling me how rotten the other guy was 2 his last girlfriend

 

[Dark Haired Alpha]

Originally posted by tseluca
I will give you my advice at the end, but let me ask you this first

Do you really want a girl who is interested in 2 guys at the same time? Eventually she is going to want to find out what she passed up on. Everybody at some time or another wants to know what is down the road they didn't take.


But, if you insist on playing this game and competeing for her, the best way to do it, is to peacefull bow out.

Isolte her go out with her have a good time, eventually the conversation will come up, Be a gentleman tell her, my friend is obviously interested in you, I know he likes you alot, and I couldn't do that to him. If she says "but I like the 2 of you" you tell her "well I am not that desperate that I need to compete with my friend for your time"

This does 2 things

#1 shows you you don't need her,and you respect your friends more than her, instilling in her that she cant control you

#2 makes her think in the back of her mind that maybe your friend is a little desperate, and he may need to compete with you for her.

Be wary what you wish for, many times girls like to be the center of drama, and will cause it. Setting up 2 friends to compete for her, is a great way to boost her ego (having 2 friends fight over her) and destroy your friendship at the same time

Remember the other guy is bashing you when you are not around. I am a woman, and I have been on the reciving end of this before. @ guys supposedly friends, and here is is telling me how rotten the other guy was 2 his last girlfriend

Please can you send me your ICQ by PM, I'd like to talk to a woman openly about something. Thank you

 

[tseluca]

What is ICQ

 

[Dark Haired Alpha]

Originally posted by tseluca
What is ICQ

Well..... OK can we meet on some chat

 

[tseluca]

Just PM me you question. We will take it from there

 

[AmIAFC]

Isolte her go out with her have a good time, eventually the conversation will come up, Be a gentleman tell her, my friend is obviously interested in you, I know he likes you alot, and I couldn't do that to him. If she says "but I like the 2 of you" you tell her "well I am not that desperate that I need to compete with my friend for your time"

Awful. So, basically, you're going to TELL the girl that your FRIEND likes her? Not only are you potentially pushing yourself out of position (and hoping she'd bite at the ruse) but you're also c0ckblocking your pal. Why reveal all of this to her?

In a game of poker, when I'm playing with a friend and I fold my cards, I don't tell the house or everyone else the exact cards in his hands (if I knew what they were) because it's a big pot.

 

[tseluca]

Ummmmm.....isn't the whole intent of this post about **** blocking? This guy is trying to get the girl from his friend.

Isn't that the intent of ****blocking. Like I said, I wouldn't waste my time with this girl, but if he insists.

Personally, I think it is more of an ego thing in that he wants to be able to say he beat out this "natural DJ" moreso than he likes the girl

but boys will be boys

Pay attent to the post at hand instead of just rushing in trying to discredit a woman

Like I said, you are all here because you need advice, non of you are pros. The fact that I am a woman and the ultimate prize for you guys means I don't have to be a pro at anything (except in the bedroom)

 

[AmIAFC]

Originally posted by tseluca
Ummmmm.....isn't the whole intent of this post about **** blocking? This guy is trying to get the girl from his friend.

Like I said, you are all here because you need advice, non of you are pros. The fact that I am a woman and the ultimate prize for you guys means I don't have to be a pro at anything (except in the bedroom)

1.) He's not trying to get the girl FROM his friend, because his friend doesn't have her (at least not yet). He's trying to present himself as the better prize in comparison to his friend. He doesn't need to ****block his boy in order to achieve this goal.


2.) You may be the woman, but you're not the prize. Come on. When you look in the mirror -- and this goes for all women -- what you see is an expiration date stamped across your forehead that's in sync with your biological clock. Now, before you twist things to make it seem like I'm a bitter dude, let me tell you this: I love women, respect women, and I like sex. Are they great, sure. Are they the ultimate prize? LOL, no.

 

[Qmanchoo]

Like I said, you are all here because you need advice, non of you are pros. The fact that I am a woman and the ultimate prize for you guys means I don't have to be a pro at anything (except in the bedroom)

:crackup:

Oh man, thanks. I needed a good laugh today. My ex had a self righteous “gold plated pvssy” attitude like this… she still wonders why one day she found her clothes out on the porch and lost the affection of a good man.

Anyone else see the hilarious contradiction in the above quote?

DQ'ed

 

[The Juan and only]

The fact that I am a woman and the ultimate prize for you guys

:crackup: No you're not. You need guys as much as they need you, perhaps more. You might say you want a nice guy and to some extend you might do...but that's secondary. First of all, you're attracted to confidence and seek validation from indifferent guys - someone who is in control of his own life and could take you or leave you (unless you prove yourself to him and quickly) is far more attractive.

Don't try to deny it. I'm not sure whether you're playing games or if you really believe what you're saying. The bottom line is this:

Before I read DYD and found sites like this, I had practically zero success with women...however after I listened to the advice things have improved dramatically.

..and one more thing. I find it amusing when women try to use sex as a weapon..when really I know how much they want it too...you aren't doing guys a favor by having sex with them and you don't have control. most of all, you do it because you want to, simple as that.