20 year old virgin in college. should i be focusing on girls?

blue11199

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should i be focusing on school and activities and getting a good job? or should i up my game and try to get some poon? i turned 20 recently. should i try to do both? school + girls?
 

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blue11199 said:
should i be focusing on school and activities and getting a good job? or should i up my game and try to get some poon? i turned 20 recently. should i try to do both? school + girls?
Would not recommend fvcking up your future life for any girl.

It's not impossible to casually game girls and still concentrate on school, though, especially if there are girls in your classes.
 

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you can and absolutely should do both.
 

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Why does focusing on school mean that you can't have women?

Are you one of those kids that studies for 12 hours a day? Study all you want and go out partying 2 nights per week.

What's the point of all this study, and worrying about your future if you never enjoy a social life. You'll have your 4.0 GPA, and a great job, and you'll have no fond memories of your youth.

I was a terrible student, a great partyer (partier?), and I still graduated and got the job I've wanted since I was 12 years old. It's not like having a social life dooms you to being poor and getting awful grades.
 

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If anything focus on yourself and school. When I say this I mean building your inner confidence by going to the gym, and using positive thinking. If you do this and truely adopt the theory "I am a great catch" girls will flock to you. NEVER focus on getting girls!Girls are just a bonus to you naturally realizing your full potential.
 

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previous poster is right don't chase women let them chase you, but that doesn't mean if you see a girl your into you shouldn't go after her.
 

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1337 said:
previous poster is right don't chase women let them chase you.
the problem with that bull**** line of thinking is that no matter how big you get (i'm at 190 pounds, almost all muscle) and no matter how positive you are (i'm a really happy guy) that **** doesn't happen for some people, period.
 

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HolyG said:
the problem with that bull**** line of thinking is that no matter how big you get (i'm at 190 pounds, almost all muscle) and no matter how positive you are (i'm a really happy guy) that **** doesn't happen for some people, period.
It's because you are ugly. So you are a big, happy ugly guy. I think women might refer to that as a 'butterface'.
 

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HolyG said:
the problem with that bull**** line of thinking is that no matter how big you get (i'm at 190 pounds, almost all muscle) and no matter how positive you are (i'm a really happy guy) that **** doesn't happen for some people, period.
True, women won't approach you just because you are a positive guy with a great body. You still need to approach. Being positive/working out will only help you lower your rejection percentage and get girls to give you more signals which you still need to act on and make the first move on.
 

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I never got this...

So what your saying is if you did this whole WOMEN stuff became satisfied, you'd all of a sudden just STOP and focus on something else?

Basically what I'm saying is this goes hand in hand...

Do your school work BUT make sure your working on your social skills and overall lifestyle. This is just a TOOL to making your life more interesting and more giving.

1. Become social...Meet atleast 1-5 people a day during school
2. Take a few #s for the sake of building a social network (Pick 1 interest)
3. 1x a week or month host something based on what YOUR interested in
4. Start meeting more women who you might potentially be interested in and immerse her into your life either via DAY2 or social tree event

Basically this takes nothing but a walk from dorm to class (Meet girl) and hosting something that YOUR interested in and already was going to do. Any new women you meet are either becoming part of your social tree or is a chick who likes you and realizes that she's not the center of your life.

Time management is great because you can just invite all the women your interested in to that monthly or weekly thing that you've created. You'll become much more social and eventually move towards being more sexual.

Social Being + Sexual Being = Success

If your SOCIAL you can create opportunities for people and if your SEXUAL it's assumed that under the right circumstances (Isolation) and situation (Both interested in each other) then there is a HIGH probability of something happening because heck your SOCIAL (Create Opportunities) so you can make that probability come true. (Escalate)
 

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YogurtSlinger said:
It's because you are ugly. So you are a big, happy ugly guy. I think women might refer to that as a 'butterface'.

lol....and I should listen to you because?? I never said I didn't get success, just that standing around doesn't work.
 
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