1st time rejection but you still want her..

[hb]

What do you do if a girl brushes you off the first time u ask her to chill how do you ask her again in a manner where 1 you won't seem needy or desperate & 2 where she can still take your offer seriously

All I want to do is get my foot in the door with this chick & I feel everything will flow fine after such but I sometimes find the hardest part the initial start because that is where a persons interest level is sometimes in the middle...

So you get shot down the 1st with an excuse like oh ya def soon or something like that. How do you keep up the pursuit, I hate chasing girls I've had some bad chasing experiences, is there anyway to still win the race even though your Chasinggg

 

[f283000]

Read the 2 strikes rule in my signature. Just don't get fixated on this one woman. There are plenty of fine single females out there for you so if this one doesn't treat you like you deserve remember the 2 strikes rule.

 

[hb]

Yes true but she didn't reject me yet, but most of these girls don't want to seem easy so they won't give in right away unless they are really easy

 

[Igetit!]

I once asked out a girl 3 times. The first two times she turned me down because she was already dating someone.


The difference is though,I asked her out got turned down,then I asked her out again like 2 and a half to three months later,got turned down again,then the third time,another maybe month or two had passed by again,but this time I was at a bowling alley bowling minding my own business,and when I turned around after throwing the ball one time,I looked up and there she was......staring at me.




I had no intention of asking her out again,but what happened was my ball had gotten stuck,so I had to tell the people at the counter and I had to walk by her to tell them. Well when I asked her out the third time,she just flat out said yes.


No games,no playing around,no nothing. She gave me her number,and when I called her,she answered,and when I set up the date,she showed up,with no flaking or anything like that.

What do you do if a girl brushes you off the first time u ask her to chill how do you ask her again in a manner where 1 you won't seem needy or desperate & 2where she can still take your offer seriously

Why would think she'd not take you asking her out seriously? Something's missing here. If you think she may take you asking her out as some sort of joke,then you screwed up somewhere in the way you've been showing your interest to her.

So you get shot down the 1st with an excuse like oh ya def soon or something like that.

You can tell a lot about how someone approached a girl by looking at the way the girl responded to it.



From her response to you,I can tell that there wasn't must "game" involved in your approach. You should CLEARLY KNOW that she's either interested or not interested. A definate "yes" or "no" is better than an inbetween answer like"maybe",or "might",or "I don't know/I need to think about it".



Her "we'll hang out sometime" answer is like those"I'll give you a call" responses girls give when you already know they're not going to call.




Doesn't seem like you were personal enough. You were trying to get a DATE with the girl,but she said..."We'll definately "hang out" soon".




So either you weren't clear in making your intentions known,or she was trying to let you down easy by taking the romantic element of out it.


You may be able to still salvage this,but first,what EXACTLY did you say to her when you asked her out? Word for word if possible.

 

[hb]

We've known eachother for years I once was in an ltr with her bestfriend years ago & she also knew of me & my other ex & I knew her ex & we both just came out of an LTR last year aswell. So we basically know of eachother & have known for years so it's not exactly this "new spark".. Which counts for so much

 

[maqnetik]

pressing the issue will only make her think shes dominant

 

[Kailex]

I had no intention of asking her out again,but what happened was my ball had gotten stuck,so I had to tell the people at the counter...

Must... resist... childish... comments... about... ball... getting... stuck... must... resist...

 

[Hakuna]

Sleep with 5 other women and then ask her out again.

Asking her out twice without anything changing between you guys and without her knowing that other girls are interested in you only makes you seem more desperate. Girls smell desperation the way sharks smell blood.

 

[joe henny]

You should have asked her on a specific date. Your the MAN its your job to be in control. Women like to be controlled. Now you gotta ask again and set a specific date. tsk tsk. If she says no forget her there are plenty of women in the world. You honestly should be focusing on your other females you have, the minute one of mines shows any resistance or disrespect she instantly moves lower on my list. So you should do the same, that is if you have more women

 

[AAAgent]

I once asked out a girl 3 times. The first two times she turned me down because she was already dating someone.


The difference is though,I asked her out got turned down,then I asked her out again like 2 and a half to three months later,got turned down again,then the third time,another maybe month or two had passed by again,but this time I was at a bowling alley bowling minding my own business,and when I turned around after throwing the ball one time,I looked up and there she was......staring at me.




I had no intention of asking her out again,but what happened was my ball had gotten stuck,so I had to tell the people at the counter and I had to walk by her to tell them. Well when I asked her out the third time,she just flat out said yes.


No games,no playing around,no nothing. She gave me her number,and when I called her,she answered,and when I set up the date,she showed up,with no flaking or anything like that.






Why would think she'd not take you asking her out seriously? Something's missing here. If you think she may take you asking her out as some sort of joke,then you screwed up somewhere in the way you've been showing your interest to her.





You can tell a lot about how someone approached a girl by looking at the way the girl responded to it.



From her response to you,I can tell that there wasn't must "game" involved in your approach. You should CLEARLY KNOW that she's either interested or not interested. A definate "yes" or "no" is better than an inbetween answer like"maybe",or "might",or "I don't know/I need to think about it".



Her "we'll hang out sometime" answer is like those"I'll give you a call" responses girls give when you already know they're not going to call.




Doesn't seem like you were personal enough. You were trying to get a DATE with the girl,but she said..."We'll definately "hang out" soon".




So either you weren't clear in making your intentions known,or she was trying to let you down easy by taking the romantic element of out it.


You may be able to still salvage this,but first,what EXACTLY did you say to her when you asked her out? Word for word if possible.

haha i love this. I did the same thing. I was talking to multiple chicks at the same time once and I was interested in this particular one the most. I first approached her infront of 5 guys introduced myself, got her name and asked her to get a drink with me. Denied.

Approached her later and drove a mutual acquaintance of ours that same night during a party to her friends house to crash we talked and i got her number. I asked her out to a halloween haunted house. denied again.

started texting bumped into her in the library and drove her home. some other chick was following me as well. I swear i got turned down by this chick a whole bunch of times. It wasn't entirely her fault since i had this crazy ass party girl following me everywhere giving other girls death stares but I told that girl to back off and eventually asked out the girl a final time.

She asked me what about the other girl and I just answered, "What about her?" Sealed the deal.

Every single time she rejected me, prior to that some girl had approached me, either a friend or some girl hitting on me.

If you want something, go and get it.