1st Date problems

Trance

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Well, lets pick 2 or 3 of my last dates to analize.


Date #1
Met this girl in a week of university parties, made an aproach, # closed her. A week latter invited her to go out have a drink, she seemed interested, even called back to confirm.

So we met up and went to a bar to get a drink and talk. Nice convo, funny and entertaining for both.
They my friend calls me cause me and her setup to go for a drink, so i would go to a party with him latter like at 1 am. So when he phones me, we setup a time for him to get me. I ask her if she doesnt wanna come, she says she cant cause would be too late.

So it was like a 2h date, in the end i took her to the cab stop and told her something like "now how about we say goodbye with a kiss?" and she said "humm better with 2", so i kissed her on the cheeks, and told her "we leave the kiss for the next time".


She told me she would have a busy week, and in the next one we could go out. So i invited her twice to a 2nd date, once in the beach, and other to come with me to a party, she 1st said she couldnt cause had work she didnt expect, and said we could go other day for a movie, and the 2nd didnt reply.

Question 1 - Why didnt she get interested? Hmmm
Question 2 - Since unfortunatly we were sitting front to front, i cant make kino with her, should i do it once we leave, like hug her outside or leave this for a 2nd date?


Date #2

Met a girl online, she said she never meets anyone latter personally this way, but got interested in meeting me and called me to see if we could meet.

So we got an icecream, and took this girl to the rocks that make sea wall, nice isolated spot. We were there, she barelly made eye contact while talking, even tough she's very smilley and outgoing in the way she talks.
So we were there and because of the eye contact-less, im thinking if it would be a good idea to move forward for some kino, and i also missed eye contact to see her interest. btw, she was with sun glasses, so beside not EC, i couldnt see her eyes expression.
So i also let the rest for a 2nd date, this one we have been talking, and she seems all cool, should be a 2nd date soon.
 

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So it was like a 2h date, in the end i took her to the cab stop and told her something like "now how about we say goodbye with a kiss?" and she said "humm better with 2", so i kissed her on the cheeks, and told her "we leave the kiss for the next time".
I think you screwed up here. You should have given her a good long sensual kiss on the mouth.
 

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I think she wasnt confortable with it so soon, so i asked her like in "Dismissed". I was confident on a 2nd date, and i showed her clearly my intentions, meaning i want to get phisical (kiss), so when she would come for the 2nd date, she would know that at some point i would kiss her and feel confortable with it (this was my tought). That was why i didnt went for the kiss direct on 1st date, altough when you make the move with confidence, you have a great chance that it works even soon.
 

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Trance, Finally you post something that I can relate to and feel your frustration..
everybody posts such weird ass **** on this board that is totally not helpful..anyway i'll stop my complaining and try to help you

with the first chick...
you would know best whether it was the right time to kiss her properly..and if you felt it wasn't the right time..its good you didn't do it... you could scare the chick away...
so its good you didn't do it..
so don't worry you are playing your cards right so far..
I think you just have to be very very persistent with this chick to score another date..she is testing you i feel..
she wants you to be her ***** for now..
so do it ..be persistant ..stoop low for her ...and if it still doesn't work out then you know its not worth it and you can move on..

the second chick..
well i don't know, i need more information here.. i think the same thing.. be persistant...

hope this helps ..!
regards,
chicksrock :)
 

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Originally posted by Trance
I think she wasnt confortable with it so soon, so i asked her like in "Dismissed". I make the move with confidence, you havewas confident on a 2nd date, and i showed her clearly my intentions, meaning i want to get phisical (kiss), so when she would come for the 2nd date, she would know that at some point i would kiss her and feel confortable with it (this was my tought). That was why i didnt went for the kiss direct on 1st date, altough when you a great chance that it works even soon.
Ok, I just interpreted that "humm better with 2" line as a big green light. But if you are sure she was giving contradicting body language then forget what I was saying earlier.
 

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Btw, in that day where i had the date #1, in the early day i went for a walk with a girl. I kissed that girl, and we were kissing for a few minutes. She is very beautifull, but still i didnt feel much of a chemistry between us, it was like i was just kissing her to feed my ego rather than to enjoy the moment.



Other date, i went out to a birthday party, met some new ppl there. There is this girl, very pretty, but who is 5 years younger than me (im 22) and isnt in college, she is into me i can see. We were dancing close for a while, and latter on 2 of her friends told me that when they were in the bathroom she was asking about me, and telling im beautifull bla bla.
So in the end of the night, since we were a big group, kinda separated sometimes by the club during periods of the evening, i didnt # her.
So what the hell, i ask the birthday girl her number, she goes ask the girl, and the girls tells her to give me the number.

A couple days latter im bored and im gona check out the girl. Instead of phoning i send a sms (this is quite used in portugal, flirting by sms much more than talking on the phone) to check her out, saying its me, how she is, wanna go out sometime, etc.
No answer from her. A week latter i send another sms and no answer too.

Weird, she was very into me i could tell, told her friend to give me her #, and then doesnt reply.
Im not bothering to call anyway cause she's 17, i just wanted to check her out anyway, and like we know, having lots of prospects makes us care less.
Just wondering why didnt she replyed, she was very into me everyone could tell that in that evening.
 
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