16 straight dates and counting---no flakes...my method

[BackInTheGame78]

Been on 16 straight first dates and counting with no flakes...this isn't including the second, third, f dates, etc that I have set up as well...

I have pretty much perfected my method I use, which I believe helps prevent flaking

1) No long text conversations...initial text followed by a short response to her text and immediately asking a version of "what's your schedule like this week" or "I wanted to grab a drink with you, what days this week are you free"

2) Once she responds with what days she is free wait a few hours and then CALL her for a few minutes of smalltalk and then set up the date. Try to keep this 5 mins or less but no more than 10 max...make up an excuse to get off the phone if need be...

3) If she doesn't answer DO NOT leave a VM. Wait a few mins and shoot her a text like "Usually prefer finalizing things via the phone, but no big deal. Let's meet at xxx on Friday ay 8pm"

4) A lot of times they will text something after seeing you called before you text that message...just text that message to them. Many times they will offer to call and talk...I usually decline with an excuse like I'm headed to the gym since I've already accomplished what I wanted, which is set up the date. I'd recommend NOT talking as you can do more harm than good...she has already agreed to go out...

5) No texts before date...if she initiates its OK to send a few brief ones but then let her know you are busy and you will see her on whatever day..be polite but short in these texts

6) Meet up...if you've done things properly you should rarely get flaked on...it will still happen occasionally but this will reduce it a lot...

Have fun and lay them ho's out!!

 

[GS750]

Seems like a good method. Thanks for sharing this.

 

[skinnyguy]

Does it count if you flake on her before she flakes on you?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Does it count if you flake on her before she flakes on you?

I'm not that kind of guy. When a man gives his word that he is going to do something he should follow through. This is not only applicable to dating but in all areas of life. It shows good character.

Currently up to 18 and counting...

 

[Trump]

Been on 16 straight first dates and counting with no flakes...this isn't including the second, third, f dates, etc that I have set up as well...

I have pretty much perfected my method I use, which I believe helps prevent flaking

1) No long text conversations...initial text followed by a short response to her text and immediately asking a version of "what's your schedule like this week" or "I wanted to grab a drink with you, what days this week are you free"

2) Once she responds with what days she is free wait a few hours and then CALL her for a few minutes of smalltalk and then set up the date. Try to keep this 5 mins or less but no more than 10 max...make up an excuse to get off the phone if need be...

Bro I don't get why you are changing dynamic from texting to talking. Wait a few hours, then call her, then small talk, then keep it 5 min, then get off the phone...its too much.

"What days are you free"
"Thursday afternoon."
"Thursday 2 pm?"
"OK"
"Great, see you then."

3) If she doesn't answer DO NOT leave a VM. Wait a few mins and shoot her a text like "Usually prefer finalizing things via the phone, but no big deal. Let's meet at xxx on Friday ay 8pm"

The problem with finalizing by phone is she can back out without evidence. Plus to wait a couple hours and then call her to confirm, you don't know what could happen in those 2 hours. You are assuming she won't meet anyone and set up a date the same time she is supposed to meet you.

4) A lot of times they will text something after seeing you called before you text that message...just text that message to them. Many times they will offer to call and talk...I usually decline with an excuse like I'm headed to the gym since I've already accomplished what I wanted, which is set up the date. I'd recommend NOT talking as you can do more harm than good...she has already agreed to go out...

I don't know bro. I'm not a player by any means but if a girl I want to have sex with says "Can I call you to talk?" I would say "OK." Granted I'm not at work or something.

5) No texts before date...if she initiates its OK to send a few brief ones but then let her know you are busy and you will see her on whatever day..be polite but short in these texts

6) Meet up...if you've done things properly you should rarely get flaked on...it will still happen occasionally but this will reduce it a lot...

Have fun and lay them ho's out!!

OK theory just too robotic for me. Got to go with the flow, adapt, change, shift things around. But if its working for you rock on. :rock:

 

[dk1990S111]

good post

 

[BraddH]

I'm not that kind of guy. When a man gives his word that he is going to do something he should follow through. This is not only applicable to dating but in all areas of life. It shows good character.

Currently up to 18 and counting...

When you make an excuse that you are hitting the gym, make sure it ain't just an excuse but a word of a man. Make sure that when you need to make an excuse to end a phone call that the "excuse" is not an excuse.

 

[Serenity]

When you make an excuse that you are hitting the gym, make sure it ain't just an excuse but a word of a man. Make sure that when you need to make an excuse to end a phone call that the "excuse" is not an excuse.

Make sure you don't give enough of a fvck, like a man. Make sure you are a man, like a man. Make sure you are not a woman, like a man. Make sure you are nice, like a man. Make sure you are an a$$hole, like a man. Make sure you aren't gay, like a man (mindfvck).

Make sure you know how to actually influence people before doing it, like a man. Make sure not to moralize, because morality is bullsh!t, like a man.

Note: Yes I was laughing my a$$ off writing this, like a man.

 

[BraddH]

Make sure you don't give enough of a fvck, like a man. Make sure you are a man, like a man. Make sure you are not a woman, like a man. Make sure you are nice, like a man. Make sure you are an a$$hole, like a man. Make sure you aren't gay, like a man (mindfvck).

Make sure you know how to actually influence people before doing it, like a man. Make sure not to moralize, because morality is bullsh!t, like a man.

Note: Yes I was laughing my a$$ off writing this, like a man.

Good. Thats how life should be.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

When you make an excuse that you are hitting the gym, make sure it ain't just an excuse but a word of a man. Make sure that when you need to make an excuse to end a phone call that the "excuse" is not an excuse.

Lol. When you bench the bar for 10 reps get back to me :kick:

 

[El Payaso]

When you make an excuse that you are hitting the gym, make sure it ain't just an excuse but a word of a man. Make sure that when you need to make an excuse to end a phone call that the "excuse" is not an excuse.

Every post you type always includes some sort of faggotry. Never anything of substance.

 

[jimmy18]

When you make an excuse that you are hitting the gym, make sure it ain't just an excuse but a word of a man. Make sure that when you need to make an excuse to end a phone call that the "excuse" is not an excuse.

gayest kunt

 

[khadd909]

iv read your strategy in ( How to Be a 3% Man, Winning the Heart of the Woman of Your Dreams by Cory Wayne ). It's a good read
But Ill go with trump on this one , little to robotic

 

[BackInTheGame78]

iv read your strategy in ( How to Be a 3% Man, Winning the Heart of the Woman of Your Dreams by Cory Wayne ). It's a good read
But Ill go with trump on this one , little to robotic

Never read that before, maybe I should...

It's intended to be robotic. The advice is for guys that keep getting flaked on and can't get women to actually meet up with them. They don't need to be deviating from this until they get to a point where they are routinely meeting up with women they get numbers from. At that point they can try experimenting a little bit.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

I like to text before a date to screen for I.L.... just me I guess

I sent this girl a selfie and she sent me a selfie right back even though she was at work... That white girls gunna get it on Black Friday

Now I know to go for the standard hotel night

 

[pete101]

Been on 16 straight first dates and counting with no flakes...this isn't including the second, third, f dates, etc that I have set up as well...

I have pretty much perfected my method I use, which I believe helps prevent flaking

1) No long text conversations...initial text followed by a short response to her text and immediately asking a version of "what's your schedule like this week" or "I wanted to grab a drink with you, what days this week are you free"

2) Once she responds with what days she is free wait a few hours and then CALL her for a few minutes of smalltalk and then set up the date. Try to keep this 5 mins or less but no more than 10 max...make up an excuse to get off the phone if need be...

3) If she doesn't answer DO NOT leave a VM. Wait a few mins and shoot her a text like "Usually prefer finalizing things via the phone, but no big deal. Let's meet at xxx on Friday ay 8pm"

4) A lot of times they will text something after seeing you called before you text that message...just text that message to them. Many times they will offer to call and talk...I usually decline with an excuse like I'm headed to the gym since I've already accomplished what I wanted, which is set up the date. I'd recommend NOT talking as you can do more harm than good...she has already agreed to go out...

5) No texts before date...if she initiates its OK to send a few brief ones but then let her know you are busy and you will see her on whatever day..be polite but short in these texts

6) Meet up...if you've done things properly you should rarely get flaked on...it will still happen occasionally but this will reduce it a lot...

Have fun and lay them ho's out!!

In regards to 5 and 6 once you have the date and time arranged do you just show up without confirming? Have they tried confirming beforehand?

How far in advance have you made the dates generally?

 

[MillionBillionaire]

In regards to 5 and 6 once you have the date and time arranged do you just show up without confirming? Have they tried confirming beforehand?

How far in advance have you made the dates generally?

I make sure the date is still going to happen on the day of by getting the address in the morning. I pick up my dates even if they have a car.

I go 4-6 days out in advance.. but really it is whenever you can meet up.

 

[Alvafe]

I make sure the date is still going to happen on the day of by getting the address in the morning. I pick up my dates even if they have a car.

I go 4-6 days out in advance.. but really it is whenever you can meet up.

well when I go get then at they homes I jsut shot a msg before leaving my home with, ready? normally they will say yes or jsut ask for 10 min to finish getting ready, if not answers I can do something else