1 of the girls i was hitting said no

[donjuan332]

been having sex with 2 different girls past month. the one girl i like has long distant bf and the other is just backup. well the girl i like told me the other day when i asked if she was down for sex she said she is committed to her bf now.

reason is and the only reason is because he told her he loves her for the first time and blah blah, point is girl has no self esteem and i think she just wants that from anybody(could be wrong, but thats my view). she further told me why shes done is because i never said i liked her at all and she knew about 1 time i had sex with other girl(but does that matter since we werent dating and we refer to our thing as friends with bes??) .

my question is how do i get her for good? or cant I

 

[Kevin Feng]

I think you're alright, you're just not providing what the other guy is providing. I'm actually pretty convinced that if you would be able to offer that to her, she'd come crawling back to you.

You seem like the player type, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with it at all whatsoever.

You just need to make your mind up ultmiately, do you want this girl for sex or do you want her as a girlfriend, ball's in your court for this one I'm pretty sure.

-Kevin

 

[donjuan332]

I think you're alright, you're just not providing what the other guy is providing. I'm actually pretty convinced that if you would be able to offer that to her, she'd come crawling back to you.

You seem like the player type, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with it at all whatsoever.

You just need to make your mind up ultmiately, do you want this girl for sex or do you want her as a girlfriend, ball's in your court for this one I'm pretty sure.

-Kevin

thing is shes tagging it everywhere that she in love now(myspace, facebook ect..) i think i could get shutdown

 

[Igetit!]

thing is shes tagging it everywhere that she in love now(myspace, facebook ect..) i think i could get shutdown

So what if you get shut down? You're not Adam. She's not Eve. There's a billion women in the world. If one turns you down,there are still 999,999,999 others to choose from. You can only do what you can do. There shouldn't be any "what if" scenarions. Well,what if she rejects me,what if she decides to stay with her boyfriend? If you approach her,and she likes you,then you two will date. If you approach her and she's not interested,then you two won't date each other. Since these are the only two possible outcomes,and you know that either one or the other WILL occur,there's no sense in stressing out about it. Personally,I'd rather ask her out,have her say no if she's going to say no,and get the thing over with,than to mentally rehearse this thing in my mind over and over again torturing myself.

 

[donjuan332]

So what if you get shut down? You're not Adam. She's not Eve. There's a billion women in the world. If one turns you down,there are still 999,999,999 others to choose from. You can only do what you can do. There shouldn't be any "what if" scenarions. Well,what if she rejects me,what if she decides to stay with her boyfriend? If you approach her,and she likes you,then you two will date. If you approach her and she's not interested,then you two won't date each other. Since these are the only two possible outcomes,and you know that either one or the other WILL occur,there's no sense in stressing out about it. Personally,I'd rather ask her out,have her say no if she's going to say no,and get the thing over with,than to mentally rehearse this thing in my mind over and over again torturing myself.

i wish i could look at it the way you do, thks though