mellow_yellow
Don Juan
I met up with my best friend while I was visiting San Jose and we went barhopping on a weekday night. I chatted up 4 women on our night out and looking to get feedback so I can keep on improving. What's interesting is I'm behaving a little differently compared to how I was behaving before I put myself on a workout regimen.
HB 7 blonde bartender
The interaction with her was short as it only lasted until we left. My friend asked me to meet him at this restaurant. I walked in and made an entrance saying I was ready for some drinks. I think the bartender liked my vibe because once I sat down and I made eye contact with her to ask her for recommendations, she locked her eyes with me and told me her recommendations. This type of eye contact was different and extremely subtle. My gut told me that she wasn't trying to just tell me drink suggestions and that she was intrigued by my aura. I didn't see any other IOI and she acted like a normal bartender afterward, moving up and down the bar. As soon as I stood up and began walking over to the restroom, she began talking with my friend. As we left the restaurant, she said goodbye to my friend by name and to me as "visiting SoCal guy". As we were leaving, my friend said she asked about what he did for work and who I was while I was in the restroom. I might be reading too much into this, but I think she was gathering info on me because she was curious.
HB 7 brunette airline pilot
Met this one at one of the bars we were at. She's based in LA and flies around the West Coast for her job. Cute with big boobs. I was eyeing that rack and knew I had to get her number when she would get ready to leave lol. I made her laugh a few times. I asked her if she made cabin announcements in a deep, manly voice. As I predicted, she closed out, said it was nice to meet you gentlemen, and began walking out. I called her name and I asked her how often she goes back to LA. She said she's in LA all the time. As soon as she said that, I calmly looked at her in the eyes and said that "I want your number so we can meet up". I was shocked myself at how calm and direct I was. I usually say "hey we should meet up sometime" or "let me get your number", never anything this direct. I passed her my phone and she added her first and last name. My friend was surprised by me as well because I don't think he's ever seen me spit game before.
I texted her 4 days later and again today. No response. I think she gave me a fake number. I'm confused though because she gave me her real name. I found her on facebook, but when I plug the number into it, nothing. I'm moving on because whether this number is fake or she's ignoring me, it's 2 strikes.
HB 7 half-Asian, half-white student
Friend and I ended up at a late night taco joint. My friend cracks a weird joke and this HB 7 hapa girl in front of us turns around and gives us a weird look and a smile. I just say not to worry about my friend, we're here to enjoy some tacos. She was at the restaurant with a blonde friend and they sat at a different table so to me, our conversation was done. As my friend and I were eating, we notice that they leave then come back inside. Once I saw them back inside near our table, I decide to open the conversation up again asking what they're up to at this hour. They said they were students studying for finals and their Uber driver said he wanted to go inside to buy some tacos, which is why they came back inside for a few minutes. Eventually, their Uber driver is ready and they say bye to us. My friend said the hapa girl turned around to look at us through the window as they were leaving.
HB 7 blonde bartender
The interaction with her was short as it only lasted until we left. My friend asked me to meet him at this restaurant. I walked in and made an entrance saying I was ready for some drinks. I think the bartender liked my vibe because once I sat down and I made eye contact with her to ask her for recommendations, she locked her eyes with me and told me her recommendations. This type of eye contact was different and extremely subtle. My gut told me that she wasn't trying to just tell me drink suggestions and that she was intrigued by my aura. I didn't see any other IOI and she acted like a normal bartender afterward, moving up and down the bar. As soon as I stood up and began walking over to the restroom, she began talking with my friend. As we left the restaurant, she said goodbye to my friend by name and to me as "visiting SoCal guy". As we were leaving, my friend said she asked about what he did for work and who I was while I was in the restroom. I might be reading too much into this, but I think she was gathering info on me because she was curious.
- She was attractive and bubbly, which I liked. I didn't bother trying for her number because she's local to San Jose while I'm just visiting. Would it have been worth getting her number anyway?
HB 7 brunette airline pilot
Met this one at one of the bars we were at. She's based in LA and flies around the West Coast for her job. Cute with big boobs. I was eyeing that rack and knew I had to get her number when she would get ready to leave lol. I made her laugh a few times. I asked her if she made cabin announcements in a deep, manly voice. As I predicted, she closed out, said it was nice to meet you gentlemen, and began walking out. I called her name and I asked her how often she goes back to LA. She said she's in LA all the time. As soon as she said that, I calmly looked at her in the eyes and said that "I want your number so we can meet up". I was shocked myself at how calm and direct I was. I usually say "hey we should meet up sometime" or "let me get your number", never anything this direct. I passed her my phone and she added her first and last name. My friend was surprised by me as well because I don't think he's ever seen me spit game before.
I texted her 4 days later and again today. No response. I think she gave me a fake number. I'm confused though because she gave me her real name. I found her on facebook, but when I plug the number into it, nothing. I'm moving on because whether this number is fake or she's ignoring me, it's 2 strikes.
- Anyone have an explanation why she would give me her real, full name, but a wrong number? If she didn't want me to have her real number, I would think she would only add her first name in my phone, not her full name. Weird.
HB 7 half-Asian, half-white student
Friend and I ended up at a late night taco joint. My friend cracks a weird joke and this HB 7 hapa girl in front of us turns around and gives us a weird look and a smile. I just say not to worry about my friend, we're here to enjoy some tacos. She was at the restaurant with a blonde friend and they sat at a different table so to me, our conversation was done. As my friend and I were eating, we notice that they leave then come back inside. Once I saw them back inside near our table, I decide to open the conversation up again asking what they're up to at this hour. They said they were students studying for finals and their Uber driver said he wanted to go inside to buy some tacos, which is why they came back inside for a few minutes. Eventually, their Uber driver is ready and they say bye to us. My friend said the hapa girl turned around to look at us through the window as they were leaving.
- Again, I'm only a visitor to San Jose. Would it have made sense to try and get her number (and her friend's) or try to escalate? I almost thought about saying we should get a bottle of booze and hang out. At the very least, I think I should've gotten both their numbers and had my friend hit up and hook up with one of them since he's local.
- I'm starting to see how important frame / aura is aka the way you carry yourself and how you say things. I'm beginning to give off a good aura despite me feeling like the same person as a few months ago. I'm not saying anything all that interesting, but how I'm saying it is different. I'm noticing how I'm saying my words is changing. I talk slower and more deliberately as I lean my arm against the chair -- that kind of thing. I'm presenting myself in a way where I'm asking these cute little students what they're doing so late at night versus being eager on how I can hang out with them. It's almost like I'm structuring the interaction so they have something to prove to me.
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