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That is a perspective I hadn't considered. I admire the confidence you had to do it like that. Yes, life is full of risks I just thought that once you are getting a divorce, the woman isn't interested in your leadership anymore. You must have had a pretty special relationship with her then.

Yeah it does speak for itself, and yeah I agree, it does look like I dodged a bullet. If she was willing to walk away now when she didn't get exactly what she wanted, why wouldn't she do that after she was married? I wish there was a shortcut to the time to heal but I've been though this...

Thank you. Reading this makes me feel better. It's hard to accept that someone i loved (and if I'm honest I still love her) decided to opt out of a life together over money. I trusted her, I was up front with her from jump. And this is what I get in return. Thanks again for your insight.

That's how I fee That's how I feel: I should've been enough by myself. If she really felt the way she said she did, being married to me should have been enough. The pre-nup I offered her was pretty generous: 100k IRA or 50 k in cash instead of court ordered alimony And part of my...

Thanks man, I appreciate that advice. I would follow it but I don't see how I can ask to "take a break" and expect her to chase me. It feels like she's checked out already and she has already moved on. I bet the best course of action is to go no contact on her. But honestly if she comes...

I'm going to ask my lawyer about that tomorrow. I'm in Florida but maybe the state law is no different here. That's why I love this forum, you get the best advice!

Thanks bro. That's what I plan to do tomorrow. Get my stuff when she is at work, leave her keys there and then go no contact. Not because I think it will get her back (cause it won't get her back) but because I just need to move on.

I don't think she's coming back from this. It feels like she just decided to cut her losses with me and move on. She is probably just waiting for me to get my stuff out of her house so she can say I'm the bad guy since I gave up on the relationship while she was trying to work on it. That's...

Who was the third party beneficiary?

You're 100% right: I feel like even if wanted to give her what she wanted now, I can't, because then she knows she's the one with the power and in the end that would go bad on me anyway. It's better to learn from my mistakes, take the L here and go out standing tall. Thanks man you made me...

Thats the feeling I'm getting. Like Ranger Mike said, if she was really that into me she would have signed it. I guess she thinks she has better options. I don't blame her for that if that is what she truely thinks. I would do the same thing if I thought I could easily get better options...

Thank you Be Exellent, I appreciate the input. She has articulated basically the same reason that you have for her decision back when we had our many discussions about the prenup. What I resent from her is that I gave her the conditions of the pre-nup before we got engaged and she still...

Marrying her tomorrow involved not getting a pre-nup. That was just her way of trying to get me to marry her without one.

That insight is why I read this forum. Reading what you just wrote solidified what I already knew but for some reason having someone like you spell it out for me just resonated with me and made everything crystal-clear. She is an attractive and intelligent woman. I am sure she will have...

Yeah that's what I think too. i tried telling her that this was just for my peice of mind and would go in a drawer and be forgotten. That it wasn't some booby trap that was spring loaded to detonate on her in five years. I keep telling myself it's better to find it out now than in divorce...

Thanks Ranger Mike. I always appreciate the wisdom in your comments over the last year. Next time I'm going to handle it the way you suggested: throw the ball in her court and tell her it's up to her to get it signed. As far as trying to keep things going. I think that ship has sailed...

I agree with you that it is better to find this out now than 5 years from now. I don't have 4 kids though. I have one 11 year old daughter lol

I thank you for your perspective and I appreciate it. You're probably right, she never liked the idea of a pre-nup and probably thought there was some way around it. She kept offering to "marry you tomorrow". Is it just the idea of the pre-nup that you think bothered her? Because it was...

That is what my attitude is. Why does she want a judge to come in and decide whats "fair"? I also just realized that she probably came to this decision months ago but she lost job when her contract ended and was unemployed for about two months. Seems like she was 100% in on the marriage...