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I've been seeing a girl for just over 2 months now. It's a bit complicated because a) we are coworkers and b) I'm separated from a wife who is a psycho (NPD) and isn't letting me see my kids. The situation I'm puzzling over is that the girl I'm seeing has a male friend who is also a coworker of...

I've posted before that I have an NPD ex. I had a personal message exchange with someone about it. I hope that person won't mind if I post something about my experience for the broader group, based on my message to them. I must stress upfront that I am not a professional and I can't advise...

My situation with my coworker has moved ahead into relationship territory. We're spending 2-3 nights a week together and we're planning a holiday. She's disclosed the relationship to 3 people out of the department of 30 or so who are friends of hers (I am newer in the company and don't...

I'm sure you can find dates in late 20s to mid 30s (I am 41 dating a lady mid-30s). I just think the bigger the age gap, the bigger the risk she will have an agenda - get knocked up, financial or whatever. But that is just in general and there is no law says every girl in that age range will be...

Sorry if this is a thread necro but I felt like posting to say we have a happy ending and it's all because of this site. Well maybe not all, but I think it definitely helped. For the past 6 weeks, after I thought this girl had signalled lack of interest, I did my best to shelve her mentally...

I would run a fcuking mile. Long story short, I got offered an international relocation about 3 months after I hooked up with my narcissist ex, and she started pushing for unprotected intercourse. I didn't do it but one night we had an "accident" with (provided by her) contraception. She got...

I had 3 great dates with a girl I met through OLD, then fcuked it up on the 4th date by turning up hung over and shattered after a big night with my mates the previous night. It was a big date, our first at the weekend, and she'd made clear our activity was going to mean something to her. So, no...

I had this book although I've lost it since in a move. But it was great to dip into. Even better than going cover to cover. It just blows my mind that this guy was running the Roman Empire and then scribbling down this stuff in his spare time.

Venting on here and getting people's views is a big help. I am just arranging to meet friends as much as I can and booking myself into online social and activity meetups (have moved city so I don't know so many people). However there is still dead time when I find my mind is dwelling on it a...

Sorry for double post, but I can confirm this from personal experience.

Slightly off topic as my ex is NPD, but the codependent thing totally resonates with me. When she got pregnant (after several failed attempts to make me go bareback and then a "mistake" with contraception), I did the "decent thing" and poured 8 years of my life and counting down a hole, at least...

Good intentions gone to sh1t. I whatsapped her last night, with an excuse I wanted to let her know casually I had had a cool evening with friends (subtext: I am "over it", umm, what was "it" anyway?), then kept up a convo for a couple of hours. When I looked at it this morning I realised her...

I can't quote or reply specifically to all the great stuff on this thread because it would be a megapost so I just came in to say this thread and this site more generally have helped me find the floor when I thought I was just falling. I was on a presentations course at work once, 6 of us and...

Milano, that is one cool avatar mate.

My place looks like the bottom one but that's partly because I moved in 3 months ago with a suitcase and not much cash (getting divorced). I am slowly picking stuff up. I like a lot of what Bible_Belt had to say but I do feel my apartment doesn't create a good mood. I guess even a deconstructed...

Also respectfully disagree. I had a short phase of internet dating before my previous marriage that was short because I ended up in a relationship with the 3rd girl I met that lasted nearly a year. I don't honestly think the reason that relationship ended had anything to do with its internet...

Cheers, fellas. Today was first day back for us both after the break. Truly a special torture. She's still whatsapping but my best guess is she is embarrassed about giving a guy the wrong idea; it's too risky for her to go cold turkey because for all she knows I might do crazy stuff and...

Good evening gents, First time poster. Just wanted to share an experience. I am emerging from a 7-year marriage to a woman who I am pretty sure is a narcissist (long story in itself). I ended my marriage in Feb 2016 and I have not had a relationship since, although I did briefly date and sleep...