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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    Day: Cant remember Thought I'd share an update. Cant remember how long NC has been, around 3/5 months?. Anyway, things have gotten a lot better, she hasn't reached out and neither have I. My life is a lot better now than it was when I first started NC. Sorted out my diet and lost a lot of...
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    Do the original ways of a DJ still apply in todays age?

    Yes, I agree a lot of the older strategies haven’t held up well at all. Which ones can still be used/ still work in this era? I’ve been thinking of this lately and I’ve come to the same conclusion. Essentially I think it breaks down into a few things: 1) SMV: to increase A) work out/ gym B)...
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    Day 60 something As per the rules, i read my all my NC posts. From day 1 till now I can definitely say that there’s been a massive growth and improvement in terms of my mental state, more balanced emotions, better understanding and all round much better me. I was definitely going through the...
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    Yep, sex with BPD/toxic/Crazy girls is mostly great. But the cost of it is your mental sanity. Honestly man, sounds like a car crash waiting to happen, good thing you got out before things took a turn for the worst
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    Yeah she sounds it. Most of that sounds like it stems from the sh*tty upbringing and been reinforced by all the other events and trying to get dopamine highs through messed up scenarios. Honestly brother it sounds like you dodged a bullet. The bitter part about BPD's are that their behaviour...
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    Do the original ways of a DJ still apply in todays age?

    It's been a while since I've posted on SS. Been actively reading threads over the years every now and then. So my abbreviations are from the old days of SS. After coming out of a LTR and observing the dating world, apps, friends, acquaintances, social media etc. I've noticed that the culture and...
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    Yepp on many occasions, the girl was a walking BPD red flag and the whole time through dating her nothing was stable for long. Ironically like yourself when I did put her in her place she always loved it and thrived of it. That's how these psychos get you hooked and wanting more through their...
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    Have any of you got ear studs?

    Simple studs go a long way for a clean look, can match the studs with a classy watch, rings and/ or neck chain. Yes even better if you lift, I got most compliments when I was lifting. Downsides: Depending on what region in the country you are you may get labelled as gay or get men try it on...
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    Have any of you got ear studs?

    I have something similar to that in black that I currently use on one ear, on the other ear I have something completely different. Something similar to the image below. Guys can pull off pretty much any ear stud except for hoop/ dangly ones those look feminine IMO.
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    Have any of you got ear studs?

    Yeah, I have, I've had numerous compliments from women over the years and works as conversational piece. Depending on what style of ear stud you go for can work for different tastes/ images/ settings. adz--
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    Day 46: Last couple of days have been more down than up. Getting thoughts of the ex, in terms of memories and sh*t. Every time I catch my self I keep saying to myself that I give power to what I put into my mind and having my ex in my mind is something I don't want to give power to. I'll be...
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    Day 38: Over the weekend I took some time off from work and studying and travelled down to where I went for university for my other friends graduation for a couple of nights, and then went out. One of my own goals were to start talking to women again and bring my confidence out again. It was a...
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    Day 27: Took a week of from studying & work. Travelled out to a different city to catch up with some old friends and go to a graduation also banged an old plate that I had spinning when I was in university, which was fun. Spoke about my ex with one of my friends which basically told me to "Get...
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    01. I lost my frame, put her on a pedestal and probably developed Oneitis for her, thinking she was different and kept distant contact with her most likely for pride and ego (I messed up badly on that part) 02. I removed her from a lot of things but not those, most likely Because of the same...
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    The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

    After a long time away from the fold I'm back.. Short back drop: Had a plate that became a LTR, whilst at university, moved for my job became a long distance LTR, lasted 3 months after I moved then we broke up start of April. I broke all the NC rules and stayed friends and it only made things...
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    After "The chase"

    That sounds like a good read, ill check it out, thank you. I've heard good things about Dan Browns books, especially the Da Vinci Code. I'll check out Lost angles and the fallen angles series. Im after something that is a easy and shortish read to start with just to get into the swing of...
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    After "The chase"

    I don't really read many books in general. The ones that have taken my interest in the past are spiritual things i.e. Works on rumi, 48 laws of power, book of pook, did read a bit of 50 shades of grey but it was to slow and shyte for my taste lol. Some of my interests are cars, photography...
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    After "The chase"

    That is a good point you mention of not banging on the first date, most of the time I wait till a suitable time, which is dependent on IL, her acrions and how much comunicstion. In this case of this plate, I waited a few weeks before banging. That's the part ideally I want to enjoy/ create, but...
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    After "The chase"

    Nope not nagging at all, that's what I do. Recently she's declining any suggestions to "chill at hers" However amother plate is nagging me to when I can bang her lol. That's what I'm I'm realising about my plate too. I'm assuming when going for a ltr screening them often gets rid of this of...
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    After "The chase"

    Lately I've been finding that I'm getting bored/ disinterested after "the chase" period of plates, where you've gotten to go on successful dates and bang them whenever you meet them. I'm finding that there isn't much things to be said in conversations in person or over text. I've also noticed...
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