Search results

I've never been around this kind of crazy, so it's taken me way too long to wake up and understand what's actually happening. She clearly lied about the paternity test. She knows I'm not interested in kids, and at this point she probably doesn't want me involved anyway, so she may have lied...

Sat down with my old friend alcohol last night and figured this out. My thinking has cycled between wanting to believe her (someone here called it codependency) and skepticism. Look at the arguments for belief: -I've spent practically every weekend for the past six months with this girl. She's...

Someone said I was a slave. He's right. This is the most physically intense relationship I've ever had, which has made it easy to look past a lack of any real kind of intellectual connection. After awhile I became complacent and stopped being assertive enough, so in all likelihood she started...

This is a welcome change of subject so I'm going to run with it. It actually took a crooked doctor and a hundred commandos to shoot a man at home with his wife. US logistical capability is the big reason behind its greatest victories. Nobody in the world does that better than the US Navy.

Well there's TV then there's real life. The backbone of the military is kids. They get in for whatever reason (often facing a socioeconomic dead end) and find themselves in a massive, lumbering bureaucracy. They're not all "TRAINED KILLERS", they're mechanics and office jockeys who haven't fired...

I'm used to relationships following an arc: rise, crest, decline. This seemed great up until the last instant, when my brain/balls told me it was suddenly over. It's not as simple to stop caring about someone after six months. Rationalizations get more desperate, you start thinking about...

Right now she won't even talk to me, much less come over and show me a stack of paperwork.

As I said, she claims that the military performed a paternity test which concluded he is the father. I passed judgment before I asked about the timeline of her official report, but after she left I realized that implied a serious investigation. I don't have the actual paperwork but this is more...

I've had to stomp dudes before. She couldn't tell me where to find him, and I don't even have a name. Also he's probably on a secure military facility, which makes retribution secondary to sorting things out with her.

No argument about the kid. Something she and I can talk about if I ever hear from her again.

She was about 5 weeks pregnant when she found out. She said she was on her way to the abortion clinic and couldn't go through with it - she'd done some research and was too freaked out by the progress the embryo had already made. Refer to post title... Then again, that was before she told me...

I don't know anyone in her chain of command, so all my information comes from her. Supposedly she reported this as rape at some point, and he is facing court martial for this and other incidents. She says the military ordered a paternity test and that he is definitely the father. I'm busy...

I appreciate the unanimously respectful comments. The cold, rational appraisal is that she's lying, possibly even to herself, to avoid responsibility as she crashes into yet another catastrophe. I called the military's sexual assault line for a different perspective, and was told that it's very...

Pretty much the logical conclusions I've been trying to avoid. This is going to cost her so much: stable relationship, independence, youth, possibly even her job. Why would she risk throwing it all away? To feel desirable to a male authority figure/father surrogate? To address frustrations with...

Is it that easy to discredit the rape story?

We exchanged a pitiful farewell. After all the perfect moments we shared, I couldn't find words for what may have been our last meeting. After she left, the shock began to fade and the silent emptiness began to weigh down. I waited about an hour, then called to make sure she was alright. She...

About 6 months ago I met a girl, got her number, and we started hanging out. I'm constantly busy with work and school, and as enlisted military she has to work around an unpredictable schedule. I don't think either of us expected things to get really serious, but especially over the last few...