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Most guys underestimate how much their photos matter on dating apps. It’s not just about looking “good”: it’s about presenting a story, a vibe, and a personality that women find irresistible. Here's a step-by-step tutorial on what it means to take photos for the female gaze versus male gaze...

Having traveled to over 30 countries, I’ve seen firsthand how Asian men are treated differently in various cultures. While calling Europe a "paradise" might be rather strong (and clickbaity in all honesty), it’s undeniable that there’s a unique alignment between Asian masculinity and European...

A lot of people ask, “How do I get better at dating if I don’t have looks or natural charisma?” The truth is, dating success isn’t about being born with certain traits—it’s about building the right mindset and skills. And that all starts with discipline. Discipline gets a bad rep because...

The Art of Attraction Stories (Making Conversation Interesting Through Storytelling) Most guys focus on looks ("I need to be 6'5 and look like a Chad!") or one-liners ("I need to know the perfect thing to say!") to impress women , but here’s the truth—those things only take you so far. If you...

If you’ve been on the journey of self-improvement and attraction, you’ve probably wondered: What’s the next step after mastering game? How do I transition from casual encounters to finding a meaningful relationship? I just dropped a must-watch 60 minute interview with Erik Carlberg (aka...

Charisma accounts for 82% of how others perceive you, according to a 2007 Princeton study. That’s a staggering figure—and it’s good news for us because charisma isn’t about being tall, rich, or conventionally handsome. Here’s what the study says: People judge us on two key traits—warmth...

Every man remembers the first time he realized he was on his own. Just stumbling through life and figuring things out the hard way. For some of us, that realization hits hardest when it comes to dating and masculinity. No guide. No mentor. Just trial and error—mostly error. The truth is...

I’ve been in this game for a while, and if there’s one lesson I’d pass on to anyone struggling with rejection, fear, or frustration, it’s this: treat learning game (ie socializing, confidence, talking to girls, etc) like playing an actual video game. Why? Because this mindset makes it way easier...

One of life skills as an adult we have to learn is emotional management and self-awareness, but approaching women- even for the best of us- can be scary. But approach anxiety is something we all have to deal with as men. Approaching girls is actually easy to learn, but hard to master. Not...

A lot of guys think, “I’ll approach her once I feel confident.” But here’s the deal: confidence isn’t just some feeling you can wait for—it’s the result of action. Studies show that acting, even when you don’t feel ready, is one of the best ways to build skill-based competence, which naturally...

Here’s something interesting: up to 93% of communication is nonverbal. According to Dr. Albert Mehrabian, 55% of what we communicate comes from body language, 38% from tone of voice, and only 7% from the words we use. So, if English isn’t your first language or you’re not fully confident in it...

It was 10:15pm on a Saturday night during bootcamp, and my students were feeling the early jitters. Across from us, there was a table of about 10 people, but all my students was still too anxious to approach so early on, even for a warm-up set. I told them to stay put and just watch me. As I...

If you’ve ever wondered why some guys seem to effortlessly attract women while others struggle to even get noticed, one key factor could be tonality—the way your voice sounds when you're speaking. ️ Most guys focus too much on what they say, but science shows us that how we say something often...

http://www.abcsofattraction.com/blog/text-to-sex-the-rapid-sextcalation-ladder/ When I first started studying sexting or text flirting interactions, it was a hard journey to success and results. It wasn’t long before I understood how to get any girl to respond to your texts through sexting...

For the first time ever, I am FINALLY launching my first real product. After 7 years in the community, I am providing digital products for people to download and watch. Long story short, we are looking for affiliates to help promote our product launch. If you have a newsletter list, forum...

10 Signs You’re Dating a Hot Crazy Mess of a Model http://www.abcsofattraction.com/blog/10-signs-youre-dating-a-hot-crazy-mess-of-a-model/ In one of my all-time favorite shows, “How I Met Your Mother,” there’s an absolutely hilarious character named Barney Stinson that is obviously based off a...

Everything you wanted to know about phone & text message game. This is actually like a 70 minute free seminar we gave. Here's the first 30 minutes answering a ****load of questions about calling the girl, texting here, etc. Part 1 - The three purposes of calling and texting: Making Plans...

Everything You Wanted to Know about Direct Game, but Were Afraid to Ask The line that I'm talking about is the "****able Line." The mental line in a woman's mind when she determines, "Would I? or wouldn't I?" Do YOU make the cut? Contrary to what the Community would have you believe...

If you guys ever get together with your fellow wingmen and lair members, sometimes its a good idea to hold practice sessions whether it's practicing improv exercises, to coming up with openers, etc etc etc. Here's a video on a live bootcamp drill that we do at the ABCs of Attraction and is a...

Pick Up Artists TALK Too Much I blame it on the heady gold rush years of the Seduction Community back in the good ol' bad days of Project Hollywood. When new routines, tactics, and techniques were being invented left and right, willy nilly, night and day. When anyone with an ******* could...