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No man, he was as black as could be. I'm sure that she didn't like something about me and then contacted him again. And I think I should brace myself for future contact as well. Seems that there are two types: those who really cut you out completely and never look back and those who try to...

I haven't had contact with mine in almost four months. But when I was with her I noticed that she started texting her most significant ex after months of silence between them. She claimed he always texted her and she never responded, but I think she may have initiated it all. I honestly don't...

If you just started seeing her, let it be. But do keep in mind that it's a definite red flag. My BPD ex for example held on to pictures of her ex's on facebook. More specifically she would still have one picture of her and every ex that ever mattered on facebook. Most of the time these pictures...

Why do you care so much?

It's not that you don't get laid because you have high standards. It's because you have nothing to offer and ask so much.

You don't. She's fat and crazy.

Buddy's no good. Also, her not teasing you at all is not a good sign.

You have to understand that when a borderline starts to see you as the persecutor, they start projecting all negative feelings on you. This means that all of their self loathing is now projected onto you. To you this is very confusing, because after a few weeks or months NC, she might suddenly...

She wouldn't fvck Brad Pitt after he bought her a roll. She would toy with him for a bit.

I used to be like this. And don't get me wrong, the girls I sleep with are still very goodlooking. But they're not movie stars. And I don't really mind, because I think they're pretty, cute and I like them. You come across as very inexperienced, mate.

Yes. That's BPD for you. Oh and I hear they try to come back every so often. Purely out of need. If I were you, I'd read a lot about BPD. You will soon understand what is going on and trust me, when you do, the love will fade quickly. It hurts, but you need to go NC. It's the best for her, as in...

If she's BPD, they don't know each other very well and she's already hot and cold, he is not going to have her. Ever. A BPD girl is all over you when she wants you. Push/pull in BPD relationships is a process that is spread out in time and the push pull routine goes faster and faster as it...

Wait. I didn't know she had BPD. If she has BPD, stay NC. Do not contact her under any circumstances and block her number. I'm sorry man, the only way for her to ever get better and the only way for you to get your life back is NC. 30 days is not enough. Hell, you probably need 4 months...

You do understand that there's only one way of solving this 'mystery'?

Honestly.. it depends. You've been ignoring her for so long now. If I read it correctly you didn't answer to her three previous attempts and now she wrote a lengthy e-mail.. I think not answering is just plain cruel at this point. Don't make it something emotional, keep it brief, but at least...

Borderline Personality Disorder isn't that easy to diagnose for an outsider. Especially because they do a good job convincing people. It's no coincidence that psychotherapist tends to be a profession that many BPD's hold.. The best shot you actually have of making a correct assessment is...

I agree with you when you say it's not a diagnosis we should make just like that. When you've been with a BPD girl, you will know. It's not 4 or 5 things, it's literally hundreds of things that'll point you in that direction. But you're wrong when you say that no BPD woman has the capacity...

Don't go near her. It's mental agony of a level you can't even imagine. Every little flaw, every little weakness you have will be exposed. You either come out of it much, much stronger than before or your personality is gone. My BPD ex has a guy who has been sending her flowers for over a year...

Yeah.. picking on someone on an internet forum, that's the real alpha way of life.

So yeah, I'm not sure she still sees me as a friend. I've told her all about the other girl I'm pursuing and suddenly she starts asking questions about her. Which are usually followed up with "well, don't rush it". Today she also said it was nice how we got along so well and that she liked...