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They're master manipulators if they catch you off guard. That is why, if you fall victim to them so to speak, you have issues. Cluster B's do manipulate well, but if you listen closely to their stories, they will not add up. The amount of egocentrism is incredible and a healthy person will sense...

I think it is most likely the BPD itself. Could be the meds, but I don't think so. My ex had weird sleeping patterns as well. What most borderlines experience is a constant feeling of anxiety. They can't soothe themselves, so they're always nervous, anxious. It is also why they, towards the end...

As with anything BPD related it is an illusion though. You only think your happiness depends on this person. After a couple of weeks you slowly start to regain your lost (more like stolen) self. After a few months you start to think about what it was you really liked about your borderline ex as...

This is the sad part. Borderlines aren't bat**** crazy. Their disorder is fairly understandable. What they do makes sense. That is, not like your or my actions would make sense, but when you think things through, you can understand it. Borderlines are emotional children, but most of them are far...

You see what happened there? You're slowly becoming a parent. She's slowly degenerating into your child. For what it's worth you did okay. But like I said, it probably won't be enough in the long run. As for the sex.. I hate to break it to you, but no, you can't know if you're the best she's...

I think what you're describing here is her dissociating. You see, there's a difference. Borderlines tend to have an empty, sad look all the time (or in my ex's case a look filled with anxiety and fear), but that look sort of changes into a sad stare when they dissociate. Dissociating is her...

Dude. All you had to do was ask. Now you're mad at her for being nice? What is that? Listen to yourself, man.

Girls who are interested in you take off their earphones. Yeah, it's just that easy.

I don't know man, I think I'd delete a chick if she started texting me fvck you because I didn't tell her I had a girlfriend when all we did was flirt a bit. I don't easily delete people, but I can see where she's coming from.

Thanks to the both of you. When I encounter a problem in life, I try to know everything about it in order to understand it. It's how I fixed my own chronic knee issues as well. I didn't agree with the specialist who was treating me and studied it myself. I was with my BPD ex for only seven...

She will often perceive things as pressure when they are obviously not intended that way. I told my BPD ex I thought she looked great without make up and she took it as me telling her that she dressed like a skank and that I "always" told her what to wear. They cannot handle love and intimacy...

Keep in mind though that, even if there are tools to make life with a borderline bearable, there are virtually no succes stories. I don't think there many happy couples with borderlines in them. Besides, it's like having a relationship with a child. Before you do any of this, before you decide...

Yes, but your girl doesn't really get over guys. She blocks them out of her life and represses her feelings. She basically fools herself into thinking she doesn't care about them anymore. Until she seems them. Or is reminded of them on some level. Or her new relationship fails. To the guy it...

What you're doing now is acting as if your girlfriend is sensible. She is not. In her eyes the bold part is an accusation. You're telling her she's not good enough. She's a bad person. You're also controlling, because you tell her what to believe. Imagine your girlfriend is 5 years old (and...

1. A BPD being guilt tripped by someone else? That is not going to happen. Borderlines do tend to experience guilt and in quite extreme dosages, but they don't fall for manipulation like that. Quite the opposite actually. It's more likely that she guilt tripped him and he wanted to leave...

She doesn't want to talk to the therapist, because the therapist is starting to realise what is going on. If your girlfriend is indeed BPD there is a good chance the therapist has recognised her as such (not always easy to do though, as they mirror the therapist as well). Your girl is starting...

Depends on the girls you associate with though. If you want to go for that hot girl you met at the club the other day: yeah, she IS fvcking other guys and yeah, she has a lot of options.

No. You have to realize something. You have to realize that women are far better at manipulating than men. I'm not just talking about BPD girls (who by the way have the capacity to completely destroy any man), I'm talking about all women. Because of this you very often get a situation where a...

You sure your date didn't know this guy?

Not all BPD's yell. Some reserve that for the very end. Also, if there is no masochistic side on your behalf, there is a very good chance you have narcissistic traits. This would explain why you feel the need to pick up many women and are usually not very intimate with them on an emotional...