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Ok my whole life is falling apart. Where I work they said a week ago I would be doing more hours, but now they say it won't happen and they hired someone else. I can't help but feeling this is because of some work issues between me and my ex. Ok they know I'm also searching for a steady job as I...

Pff I saw her again after a week. She says hi and bye like nothing is going on, I really need professional help to get through this but I can't afford it. I know she has bpd, but still the hurt she caused me. I saw her but didn't say hi first, so now she must feel good about herself thinking I...

I read some of the symptoms and perhaps I'm a bit codependent, but I was imagining if I would have ended whilst still having feelings for her. I think I would feel good, that I woudn't care so much, it is the ego hit I can't handle, that she turned me down, that others are better than me...

Thanks guys Dating other women would help, but I'm really shy and don't meet new girls. I work at a bar where mostly elder people visit and where at night there is not much to see. All of my previous relations happened because the girl initiated. I even can't act normal towards most of my...

Hi all In following of Infern0's thread about his bpd ex, I would like to share my story as well as I come to realize I might have some of these symptoms as well and would like to know how to cope with them. I'll make the story short. Married woman who is 13 years older as me and has 3 kids...

I know one day my boss is gonna ask why I basically don't talk to her anymore or don't want to be together in the kitchen with my ex. My response would be "I have no respect for sluts". This of course is a wrong answer, even though I mean it. What should I answer?

Very nice job Drake! Keep at it.

Today was not as good as the others. My mind is constantly thinking stuff which makes her look better. Like that she really loved me, but for some reason it couldn't be, she just has another one to fill the void,... Still have mood swings, one minute I feel good, the next I feel completely...

Wow when reading this I had to think about my ex, she told me once she was sexually abused as a child. Perhaps that's the reason why she has a husband, has an affair with me, dumps me and immediately has a new affair. Also explains why she needs constant attention from everyone around her...

Hi all I've been thinking about paramotoring for a while now, but the initial cost is about 10000 euros (afterwards it's just basically buying fuel). I can afford this, but as I'm still studying and have a job on the side, it would take a while before I get back on my current financial...

What I have done is just say hi in a polite way. I've never asked her how she was or something about herself. Even when she said something totally arbitrary to me I just said "ah" or ignored it. But that was in my situation without a kid. I think you need to think what would cause you no more...

It may be hard afterwards, no one can tell. But you'll get through this and come out as a better man. From what you post and how you react to your own situation, you can tell you have IT in you. Somewhere we all have and it's through what life throws at us it forces its way out.

Thanks for all the kind words, I would have been in a much worse place without the advice. I don't know what will happen when I see her again at work, I feel overall good these past days because I haven't seen her, but out of experience I know I'll get an emotional hit when it happens.

Day 16 I can sleep normal again, but I stood up today and feel lonely. Not knowing what the future will bring is hard. Also thinking that it's over and wondering how it would have been if we were still together is difficult, I still can't put my head completely around it I guess. It was my...

Ok thanks both I'll do that. But I still have to work with her from time to time and this hurts. I just say work related stuff and nothing else, but still I feel better when I don't have to work and don't see her.

I have made a text I want to send to her, I need some advice if it's good. Bear in mind I don't ever want any reconciliation, so it will be the last I ever say to her. Or should I just keep going NC? Some little background story for those who don't know it. My ex is married and has three kids...

Day 14 I think. Had a good day, had nothing to do besides going to the gym and working in the garden, gonna play some games now and watch some shows. I do hope it's not because she send me a text this morning how she misses how we acted towards each other and she hopes we can act again like...

I agree with the fact that just after the break up you get masked with the advice form this forum and the support from others. For me the the hardest part (let's hope that was the hardest part) came around day 10, it was also because I found out she had someone else. You have to go through...

She send me a text, saying she wants to act normal to me because it's hard working like this and that she misses it. I'm typing an answer, but am not gonna send it. It's just a relief to say everything I want so it's a bit of my chest. Thanks for all the advice guys, if I'm completely over...

I know but it's so hard. The thought of them having sex or why she chooses him over me while I'm better on so many levels, why it happened so fast after the break up,... These thoughts really **** my mood. Ok I knew our relationship would not last forever, but going from so much fun to nothing...