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Day 500ish I was just thinking about this forum as I haven't been on in so long. Some other life events came up and reminded me of my ex. I saw a pic of our dogs, and then I immediately felt crummy about how we ended. I remembered this forum and it took me forever to find it again. I'm...

Broke no contact I broke no contact today. I texted her in response to her texts a couple weeks ago. It was a productive conversation. We confirmed all of the problems we had and she said she thought I was only in it when I was losing her interest. At the end of the day, she confirmed that she...

Day 60 Holy he!!, I survived. Would you look at that! Just look at it! It's Saturday, I work M-F, it's college football game day, and I am up at 7:30. Gonna take the dog for a run, hit some weights, and spin some plates. I'm in a choch mood. So I've got plans to watch the game with one of...

Day 56 That will come and go. You won't wish ill on her in a few weeks or months. I'm mad and angry today. It's so frustrating to hear everyone validate my feelings and opinions. And then to realize I was still allowing her to disrespect me. I've been doing better since about the day 35 mark...

Well. Hung out with her friend in mixed setting. She talked to me about it and told me she felt bad for me and how it ended. She hinted that she's reaching out bc she thinks I'm upset and feels guilty. I'm like, look, I'm over it. Let's just let it go. Tell her not to expect to hear from me...

Donnie boy Welcome don, you're in good hands! Sucky story. It sounds like she wants to be free. You sound needy and insecure. That's all fine and well. If you're the monogamous type, then that's you, own it. Or destroy it. Point is, move on. You're so young. Let me be real honest with you...

Day 52 Signing up for the 30 day nofap challenge. Consider me a buyer at this point. I've got plenty of plates spinning, too many in fact. About 5, one that I can get sex from when I want, another that explicitly stated she wants to after vacation, and the others developing. I've always been...

Day 50 Shooting, A watched pot never boils. Setting a goal makes it more present in your thoughts. Could it be that you're thinking about not thinking about it. If that makes any sense. What are the benefits of nofap? I thought about it, but I need to release. Spartan, Welcome...

Day 49 She texted me today. I have been doing really well, but that wrecked me again. She sent me a pic of her dog, looking cute as ever. Miss that pup! And then she said she saw a pic of me and that it made her sad. She asked if we could speak on the phone at some point and hopes I'm doing...

Driving. I hoped your remembered the day so that I could add 1. Lol. I can do the math later. The point is this, focus on your win physical, emotional, spiritual, and mental health. If you get that in check, you'll attract the best females on this planet. Guaranteed. As for my delayed...

Life is a mirror gentlemen. Everything we see in others, is a direct reflection on ourselves. It's all making sense to me now, why she would have thought that I was a narcissist, etc. I suggest devoting a solid amount of time to understanding human psychology. I keep uncovering disorders, and...

Day 39. Her window is closing. I hope that I get over this before she reaches back out. I'm realizing that I have to take care of me before I can ever help others. So I know logically I will do the right thing in the face of adversity. One thing I'm focusing on are my achievements in social...

Shootin, Just start doing stuff. If something sounds fun, do it! And if it actually is fun, guess what, it's a new hobby! Also, keep in mind that while we're emotional creatures, a lot of our evolutionary programming shows that we do need alone time. It's important to have a hobby that you...

Solvents, Hang in there buddy. No shame is asking her to not contact you. But you need to take care of yourself. A lot of the women that men are talking about on here play the victim. And in some cases, it's because yeah we were ****ty boyfriends, but other times, it's just as likely that they...

Last thing. (I get in to these series of posts.) I'm convinced we're all here for a reason. We're here because we are good people that want the best of what life offers. Others have projected their issues into us. We've showcased our own insecurities. Etc. focus on conquering those issues...

Update. Day 38. I'm doing much better. It helps that her friends are my friends. She moved away. She is already in a relationship. everything adds up to her being unstable, manipulative, and a giant waste of my time. Most of us on here attract terds bc we're insecure or beta. Don't get in to...

She will bait you soon. Ignore her for the complete 60 days. Do not contact her. After 60-90-120 days, if you still feel like she holds a place in your life write her a letter. Just tell her that you ignored her to heal yourself and that you're hopeful you can be friends. Believe me, you have to...

One other thing. Be vulnerable. If you like business books, there's a great one about vulnerability. 'Getting Naked' by Patrick Lencioni. It's a quick read and I really enjoyed it. A lot of the lessons apply to all facets of life. ... A key part of abundance is vulnerability. If you hide from...

Good morning buddy I'm almost 40 days in and I still have certain problems I'm dealing with. My advice, read up on addiction, scarcity vs abundance, and other elements of psychology and romance. I come from addictive genes. Alcoholism runs in my family, and luckily I've never had a huge...

Excellent post driving. You're doing great man!