SoSuave Discussion Forum

Irony, I was just talking about the theory of learned helplessness to one individual. Where one is conditioned to believe their situation is inescapable and things are out of their control. A prisoner without a prison, a cell without bars...

I did chose to walk free, I remain a prisoner though. The process is slow, and fulfilling.

@CuddleJunkie--What (beliefs?) keeps you a prisoner still? What (beliefs?) would set you fully free?

That I will be able to form a successful and traditional family in the West. This is something I desire, and yet I know it is impossible. But the predictable big and earthshaking changes that Occident will suffer sparkle a little hope in my heart...

This would not be a bad thing if I only projected it into a possible future, but it hinders my ability to accept slvtty women right now, in my present. This limits my sexual options.

@CuddleJunkie --"...yet I know it is impossible." That is the story/lie/belief/limitation you tell/sell yourself.

@CuddleJunkie--Many women desire a traditional family and are disheartened by their belief/observation that men prefer slvts and endless variety of them, over the traditional life that they as women (also) yearn for.

So let's suppose I find a low-partner, traditionally oriented girl. And then let's suppose she decides to get over her feelings and stay forming a family when the romance chemicals decay. So far so good.

Then I have to raise children in a society that makes everything it can to imbue them with degenerated values, that might go as far as to take them if I decide to homeschool them (europe is like this). It is not IMPOSSIBLE, but so close you can use the term.

@CuddleJunkie--You are a man with a loving heart. To share your love with others is a gift. To share deep love with a woman, and experience her love for you and your loving together can be rich beyond words. Why trade that depth for the emptiness (my projection) of random women used simply for sex?

@CuddleJunkie--I hear the challenge of what you desire for your children to be and feel unable to offer them. Perhaps you choose not to have children until you are clear you can raise them as you desire. Is that a reason to deny yourself a life with deep connection and love?