What are the benefits of being in a relationship?

[New_Journey]

What do you guys think are the benefits of having a girlfriend? What do you gain from it? So, what do you guys see in having a gf is a benefit?

 

[Chow Mein]

You still with that girl from the vacation video?

 

[New_Journey]

You still with that girl from the vacation video?

No, but stay on topic. You have a gf right, post benefits of having one.

 

[Solomon]

Companionship and consisitent sex
A homemaker i.e. cooks, cleans etc

 

[jhonny9546]

Not to find emotional support but an "emotional connection" with a person of the opposite sex.

It's a unique thing.

If it's about living together, having someone who takes care of the house, and makes it the best place to live together.

Great sex, without thinking about it.

If it's about starting a family together, a partner who can take care of the children.

If it's about a travel companion, whether it's traveling or the journey of a lifetime.

They say there are some great books for relationships although here we need the opinion of more experienced men

https://www.amazon.it/dp/080241270X

 

[Tilex]

Being able to see & do things without being judged for it.
You get to enjoy more thrilling experiences that you wouldn't otherwise with a date, plate, or FWB.
When the relationship isn't serious, you'll never know if something you want to plan or be spontaneous about with a plate will disagree with the idea.
Learned the hard way that I have to reword everything so that person wouldn't flake on plans I suggested.
In a relationship I can be more direct and never have to reword anything.

 

[jhonny9546]

Learned the hard way that I have to reword everything so that person wouldn't flake on plans I suggested.
In a relationship I can be more direct and never have to reword anything.

Look like a relationship is easier for you.
You're the true self.

 

[justaroundthecorner]

Main benefit is that you can finally concentrate fully on other things because you have more time (you don't use it on chasing/pick up, maintaining interest is easy if you know what to do), you have more free resources (courting phase is somewhat expensive), you have also a peace of mind (initial games played between man and woman can be tiresome).

 

[Hamurabimbi]

It’s comfortable.

 

[New_Journey]

I'm gonna challenge comments, to drive more conversation.

Companionship and consisitent sex

Not necessary. @Thebestthereeveris is in a relationship and he didn't have sex according to his post.

A homemaker i.e. cooks, cleans etc

But I cook and clean better than any chick.

emotional connection

How does that help any man? What d you gain from that?

Being able to see & do things without being judged for it.

You think gfs don't judge you?

You get to enjoy more thrilling experiences that you wouldn't otherwise with a date, plate, or FWB.

Like what exactly?

When the relationship isn't serious, you'll never know if something you want to plan or be spontaneous about with a plate will disagree with the idea.

If the plate likes you a lot, she will like your ideas.

Learned the hard way that I have to reword everything so that person wouldn't flake on plans I suggested.

That's the paradox my friend.

In your efforts to reword what you gonna say so she "doesn't think bad" and leaves, its that the same reason she leaves. You are not being authentic, you are walking on eggshells. That's the emasculation paradox.

Main benefit is that you can finally concentrate fully on other things because you have more time (you don't use it on chasing/pick up, maintaining interest is easy if you know what to do)

I use 1 or 2 days a week for women, either in relationship or to pick up. Being single/taken and wasting time on women is retarded.

you have also a peace of mind (initial games played between man and woman can be tiresome).

The game never stops, being in a relationship is red pill on hard mode.

It’s comfortable.

Comfort is the killer of men.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I'm gonna challenge comments, to drive more conversation.


Not necessary. @Thebestthereeveris is in a relationship and he didn't have sex according to his post.



But I cook and clean better than any chick.


How does that help any man? What d you gain from that?


You think gfs don't judge you?


Like what exactly?


If the plate likes you a lot, she will like your ideas.


That's the paradox my friend.

In your efforts to reword what you gonna say so she "doesn't think bad" and leaves, its that the same reason she leaves. You are not being authentic, you are walking on eggshells. That's the emasculation paradox.


I use 1 or 2 days a week for women, either in relationship or to pick up. Being single/taken and wasting time on women is retarded.


The game never stops, being in a relationship is red pill on hard mode.



Comfort is the killer of men.

I guess I’m dead then.

 

[Vanderdonck]

What do you gain from it?

A girlfriend. The rest is pretty much the same for me. So it's just a question of if you want her as a regular companion or not.

 

[New_Journey]

regular companion

What does this mean? Regular as in living with you? Explain.

 

[jhonny9546]

@New_Journey You need intimacy. Brother that is undeniable, the warmth of a woman's body we can't replace with anything

 

[Sega Genesis]

Not necessary. @Thebestthereeveris is in a relationship and he didn't have sex according to his post.

But I cook and clean better than any chick.

How does that help any man? What d you gain from that?

You think gfs don't judge you?

Like what exactly?

If the plate likes you a lot, she will like your ideas.

That's the paradox my friend.

In your efforts to reword what you gonna say so she "doesn't think bad" and leaves, its that the same reason she leaves. You are not being authentic, you are walking on eggshells. That's the emasculation paradox.

I use 1 or 2 days a week for women, either in relationship or to pick up. Being single/taken and wasting time on women is retarded.

The game never stops, being in a relationship is red pill on hard mode.

Comfort is the killer of men.

NJ I think a lot of this^^ is actually true! I bolded the ones that are especially true imo.

I'm in a great and very rewarding relationship currently and my boyfriend feels the same.

First time actually for both of us! Being in a great relationship.

Jmo but I think this is an impossible question to answer unless and until one has experienced it.

But It's such a high to have that connection, acceptance and to "be known." And of course the intimacy - physical and emotional.

There are many reasons but one shouldn't have a relationship just to have one. Yet many people do sadly and it ends up being a massive fail in many cases.

She's got to be special.. to HIM and vice versa. There got to be that chemistry, that somethin somethin that pulls them both together that cannot be logically explained, it just feels better and more exciting and fulfilling to be in it than not.

JMO!

 

[BeExcellent]

Agree with @Sega Genesis on her thoughts.

In my relationship its about the closeness, connection, intimacy, desire, the knowing him and the being known by him. Its in the giving to one another and in the playfulness and fun and silly laughs. Its also about family and tribe and a sense of belonging. It is solid real love that emerges from the initial physical chemistry (although that remains) and solidifies your partnership; it is forged; it is an entity distinct from either individual and yet inclusive of both individuals. It is a bond. It is belonging.

It's about a meaning companionship, friend, lover, and life mate to enjoy and endure life's journey with.

Not every person values the above. How one views relationships will be driven by 2 things.

1. The value systems of the individuals involved and
2. The individuals involved and their perceived value.

 

[saige]

I agree with the majority of people in this thread, for me it boils down to comfort, intimacy, and the connection. It takes time to build that bond and trust, but it's such a satisfying feeling. My boyfriend is my best friend! Not only do we love each other, but we like each other-which I think makes all the difference.

HOWEVER, I don't believe a relationship is sustainable if someone is staying solely because they're anxious to be alone. Or they're staying with someone just for the sake of being in a relationship. That sounds like hell to me. I know a lot of couples like this and its actually so concerning. They seem to have a lot of resentment boiling on the surface and thinly veiled hate towards each other.

My roommates fit this description, they're a couple who signed a year-long lease together, and guess who has to hear their nightly arguments that escalate to tears & screaming matches every night? Their animosity towards each other is palpable, it's only a matter of time at this point...

Of course, the best option would to be with a partner who brings joy and stability in my life, which I have and am grateful for. However, if that wasn't an option on the table, I'd rather be single and enjoy my peace. Even though it might be lonely sometimes, it's 1000x better then dealing with a person who contributes a net negativity into my life.

 

[SW15]

For most men, the answer is sex. Some men also value getting companionship.

 

[Vanderdonck]

What does this mean? Regular as in living with you? Explain.

Either/or. Eventually they will want to move in. So at that point it's up to the man to decide "does this girl make sense for me / am I the right fit for a LTR." There's no right answer, it's all about where the man is and what he wants.

I think the important function of a site like this is to help guys make that decision and avoid getting sucked into situations that won't work. Conversely helping a guy avoid passing up on something he might really want. I've seen a lot of threads over the years of guys simply not being true to their desires, whatever they be.

 

[Manure Spherian]

Not necessary. @Thebestthereeveris is in a relationship and he didn't have sex according to his post.

That’s not a relationship then.