Recent content by Barrister

I certainly think you can “circle back” with chicks. Just within the same day and conversation I think you lose if you reach out multiple times in the same exchange. Again - in this particular case I don’t think it mattered.

The problem with “school” is that it’s not real life. It’s a bubble. Sure, I know these couples too who are my age but have been married for 20 years already. What’s your point? This refutes nothing. Stop living in the past and worrying about how you were perceived back in grade school by girls...

OP, When chicks ghost it’s because they just don’t want to deal with any type of confrontation. That’s all the ghosting is. As for your date, this chick was clearly enjoying the thrill you provided. It sounds like her anti-slut defense was kicking in a bit. So I don’t think you did anything...

So you're referring to social circle or some ancillary type people to your social circle. This is a tough market many times because you already know these women and they have categorized you a certain way in their brains that does not equal sex. That’s not to say that one of them may not be...

You’re losing me a bit with this. So you’re saying your OP was more about social circle approaches? Co-workers? What? In some ways these are tougher approaches under certain circumstances. Regardless, it actually changes nothing about what I said. Part of your issue is you’re constantly looking...

The idea of not taking it “personal” is to not let it bother you and not sit there wondering exactly what OP is wondering. “Oh she isn’t interested in a date what is WRONG with me???” Women are often very mercurial by nature and it is hard to explain why they do what they do. Example, I matched...

That's impressive you’re that honest with yourself and I think if we’re all being honest this is true to an extent. The happiest I’ve ever been in my life is when I feel like I’m playing with house money. When I feel that way I find I am performing best not just in my job but also dating. It’s a...

LOL! Did you lose your virginity at 6 months? 1 year?

Do what you want. Guys get in trouble when you over-analyze. If you want to text her - text her. She is probably waiting on it. Guys also get in trouble when a chick is showing high-level interest and they start trying to follow silly rules to appear aloof. If you are legitimately busy - sure...

I can tell you've given this a lot of thought and I don't think that is a bad thing. At the same time, you sound very idealistic which probably makes sense given your age. I will agree with you 100% that "the goal should be self-improvement for the sake of flourishing, not just access to...

We can agree that a lot of men would do best to focus on themselves prior to focusing on women. Getting your own sh1t together is paramount in life -- better looking women and more women is simply a bonus. I am not sure where you are getting that SS is a place where women are treated like...

How in the world did you come to this conclusion based upon Duke's OP? There was nothing "misogynistic" about his post or the advice in it. In fact, I would say that advice is nothing along the lines of PUA tactics when he is touting experience in approaches, not some quick-trick PUA tactic...

I think most women are destined to (usually) turn into their mothers. Both physically and mentally. If you don't like what you see from the mom, keep that in mind when evaluating your prospect. She may seem way different from her mom when you first meet her, but in reality her childhood makes it...

I understand what you're saying. But it doesn't change the fact that your dating pool will be close to nil if you use "has she been in a failed relationship" as your litmus test. And to be clear, I am not saying you are wrong to do that. Just observing your dating market is microscopic at that...

That is basically our dating world, brother. Almost every single chick you meet has been in failed LTRs. Most men, myself included, are no different in that aspect. I think there is certainly some merit in what you are saying, but I think that is a harsh standard to apply and you basically will...