6 reasons to date girls you're not attracted to

[Rainman4707]

One of latest newsletters from alan thompson goes against the advice given by posters on these forums. If a man listened to advice on these forums he would have blue balls waiting for a unicorn to show up. Below is the newsletter :- Today's tip is guaranteed to be controversial. Some of you are going to read it, nod along, and think this is great advice. And some of you are going to get mad, email me and tell me it is the worst tip ever. LOL! Read on, and let me know what you think...

6 Reasons to Date Girls You Are NOT Attracted To by Joseph Here's the number one all-time most important tip that you will ever get. Get a girlfriend! "What?" I hear you say. "But that's exactly why I'm getting these tips, because I can't get a girlfriend." Really? Are you being completely honest with yourself? What about that chubby girl that used to smile at you a lot? Or that slightly nerdy girl that seemed interested in you? You know what I mean don't you? You know that you have passed up girls that you aren't interested in because they don't meet some standard, because they are not the one you could consider falling in love with. Well, my friend, you are making a huge mistake. If you are alone and the only girl that seems interested in you is a "2" and is 100 lbs. overweight, go out with her! You don't have to marry her. You don't have to be long term. You don't have to even get intimate with her. But for goodness sake, take her out somewhere and have a good time together. Why? Well, there are lots of reasons. 6 Reasons to Get a Girlfriend - Any Girlfriend 1) You will not be lonely and isolated. Even though you will feel less than content and satisfied, at some level in your subconscious you are having basic human needs for affection, attention, and company with the opposite sex met. You will, even without realizing it, be more relaxed and confident. 2) You will prevent yourself from sliding down a black hole of alienation, social isolation, depression and loneliness. You will "have a life." This is good for you generally, and good for the vibe you will radiate at other women. 3) She will introduce you into her social circle. You will meet potential friends, you will have a social life, you will feel even better about life, and you will meet more women in a social setting. 4) You will be getting practice and experience just hanging out with and conversing with a woman. You will be learning more and more about how to act around women. This will come more naturally. 5) You will be seen about with her. DON'T be embarrassed by this! Believe me, the 3-5's will notice and wonder what she's got that they haven't. There is nothing worse than being constantly seen about town moping about by yourself. 6) Now, assuming you don't fall in love with her (don't laugh, it happens), you will be in a perfect position to start dating a 3-5 when she starts showing interest in you... And then that will lead to you being noticed by the 5-7s... and then you are pretty close to being noticed by the ones you really like, by which stage you will be ready to interact with them more naturally. Get it? What's Stopping You? What stops you from doing this? Is it really because a less than beautiful girl repulses you? I doubt it. It is probably because you are a decent and good young man who doesn't want to lead on a girl that he isn't REALLY interested in. You don't want to hurt her. You don't want to date her for a while and then dump her do you? You are scared of "using" her. You don't like hurting females, and that is a good thing and something you should be proud of. So, how to get around this? Well, the first thing is that you keep it casual and you don't promise any more than you are ready to give. Don't lead her on! Date her, enjoy each others company, but don't deceive her and don't use her. If and when the time comes to move on, say this: "Look Julie, I've had a good time with you over the last few weeks/months, but I just don't feel any romantic vibe happening between us and I think it's time to move on." DON'T tell her that you are not attracted to her, and don't tell her you want to be "just friends." If you tell her that you don't feel romance happening between you, then this is a language that females understand. Do It Now! So get out there and get a girlfriend, ANY GIRLFRIEND! DO IT NOW! ===== I would like to thank Joseph for submitting this tip. I'm sure that many of you will find it quite insightful. And some of you will not like it at all. But when it comes to dating, there is no substitute for practice and experience. Good luck! Allen SoSuave.com I want your thoughts and opinions. What do you like about this newsletter? What do you dislike about this newsletter? What topics interest you the most? What questions do you have about women and dating? Just hit reply and let me know.

 

[New_Journey]

One of latest newsletters from alan thompson goes against the advice given by posters on these forums. If a man listened to advice on these forums he would have blue balls waiting for a unicorn to show up. Below is the newsletter :- Today's tip is guaranteed to be controversial. Some of you are going to read it, nod along, and think this is great advice. And some of you are going to get mad, email me and tell me it is the worst tip ever. LOL! Read on, and let me know what you think...

6 Reasons to Date Girls You Are NOT Attracted To by Joseph Here's the number one all-time most important tip that you will ever get. Get a girlfriend! "What?" I hear you say. "But that's exactly why I'm getting these tips, because I can't get a girlfriend." Really? Are you being completely honest with yourself? What about that chubby girl that used to smile at you a lot? Or that slightly nerdy girl that seemed interested in you? You know what I mean don't you? You know that you have passed up girls that you aren't interested in because they don't meet some standard, because they are not the one you could consider falling in love with. Well, my friend, you are making a huge mistake. If you are alone and the only girl that seems interested in you is a "2" and is 100 lbs. overweight, go out with her! You don't have to marry her. You don't have to be long term. You don't have to even get intimate with her. But for goodness sake, take her out somewhere and have a good time together. Why? Well, there are lots of reasons. 6 Reasons to Get a Girlfriend - Any Girlfriend 1) You will not be lonely and isolated. Even though you will feel less than content and satisfied, at some level in your subconscious you are having basic human needs for affection, attention, and company with the opposite sex met. You will, even without realizing it, be more relaxed and confident. 2) You will prevent yourself from sliding down a black hole of alienation, social isolation, depression and loneliness. You will "have a life." This is good for you generally, and good for the vibe you will radiate at other women. 3) She will introduce you into her social circle. You will meet potential friends, you will have a social life, you will feel even better about life, and you will meet more women in a social setting. 4) You will be getting practice and experience just hanging out with and conversing with a woman. You will be learning more and more about how to act around women. This will come more naturally. 5) You will be seen about with her. DON'T be embarrassed by this! Believe me, the 3-5's will notice and wonder what she's got that they haven't. There is nothing worse than being constantly seen about town moping about by yourself. 6) Now, assuming you don't fall in love with her (don't laugh, it happens), you will be in a perfect position to start dating a 3-5 when she starts showing interest in you... And then that will lead to you being noticed by the 5-7s... and then you are pretty close to being noticed by the ones you really like, by which stage you will be ready to interact with them more naturally. Get it? What's Stopping You? What stops you from doing this? Is it really because a less than beautiful girl repulses you? I doubt it. It is probably because you are a decent and good young man who doesn't want to lead on a girl that he isn't REALLY interested in. You don't want to hurt her. You don't want to date her for a while and then dump her do you? You are scared of "using" her. You don't like hurting females, and that is a good thing and something you should be proud of. So, how to get around this? Well, the first thing is that you keep it casual and you don't promise any more than you are ready to give. Don't lead her on! Date her, enjoy each others company, but don't deceive her and don't use her. If and when the time comes to move on, say this: "Look Julie, I've had a good time with you over the last few weeks/months, but I just don't feel any romantic vibe happening between us and I think it's time to move on." DON'T tell her that you are not attracted to her, and don't tell her you want to be "just friends." If you tell her that you don't feel romance happening between you, then this is a language that females understand. Do It Now! So get out there and get a girlfriend, ANY GIRLFRIEND! DO IT NOW! ===== I would like to thank Joseph for submitting this tip. I'm sure that many of you will find it quite insightful. And some of you will not like it at all. But when it comes to dating, there is no substitute for practice and experience. Good luck! Allen SoSuave.com I want your thoughts and opinions. What do you like about this newsletter? What do you dislike about this newsletter? What topics interest you the most? What questions do you have about women and dating? Just hit reply and let me know.

That is a massive covert contract, if I get a GF, I would do all of that, which is bull$hit.

BTW how is your alcoholic girlfriend and you doing? Did she get treatment yet? What happened with her her ex, you and the battle with her son? Did you manage to crush the guys head? We never heard from you again regarding that topic.

 

[Rainman4707]

That is a massive covert contract, if I get a GF, I would do all of that, which is bull$hit.

BTW how is your alcoholic girlfriend and you doing? Did she get treatment yet? What happened with her her ex, you and the battle with her son? Did you manage to crush the guys head? We never heard from you again regarding that topic.

Wow, what a moron you are.

 

[New_Journey]

Wow, what a moron you are.

Why bro? We were genuine worried about you and your situation

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Today's tip is guaranteed to be controversial.

I say, "Enjoy your popcorn"

 

[pipeman84]

Totally disagree with this. I won't even bother trying to dismantle it because it would be like trying to explain why driving at 100km/h in a city while being drunk and high on cocaine is a terrible idea. If it's not instantly obvious to you, then I doubt reading a wall of text would make any difference.

Imagine a couple formed by a guy following this kind of advice and a woman following similar advice geared towards a female audience.

 

[SW15]

Having no girlfriend is better than having the wrong girlfriend. A girlfriend who you do not find attractive is the wrong girlfriend. I disagree with the article.

Below, I will call out why this is bad advice as it is framed. If the title of the article were something like "6 Reasons to be More Social in Real Life", then this might have been a valid article.

1) You will not be lonely and isolated.

2) You will prevent yourself from sliding down a black hole of alienation, social isolation, depression and loneliness.

3) She will introduce you into her social circle.

4) You will be getting practice and experience just hanging out with and conversing with a woman.

5) You will be seen about with her.

6) Now, assuming you don't fall in love with her (don't laugh, it happens), you will be in a perfect position to start dating a 3-5 when she starts showing interest in you...

1 and 2. Loneliness and isolation are bad. A man doesn't need a girlfriend for this. Male friends will do for this. A man could also get a female friend for this. A lot of men might have a female co-worker already that he could see socially every so often. If a man lives in the same city as a sister or female cousin, that's also a solution.

3. If a man wants a female for social circle introductions, sisters and female cousins are the best options. After that, female platonic friends/acquaintances. A lot of men already have female platonic friends. It's a HUGE advantage to have a sister (preferably a younger sister) living in the same geographic area. A female cousin can also work well for this. A man doesn't need an unattractive girlfriend to get social circle introductions.

4. If a man really needs this, then there are other options besides dating someone unattractive for this.

5. Being seen doesn't mean much anymore. I live in one of the biggest cities in the USA. I can walk anonymously through my city as much as I want.

6. Once again, sisters, female cousins, and even platonic female friends would do this without the complication of a dating relationship with a subpar woman.

 

[Rainman4707]

Having no girlfriend is better than having the wrong girlfriend. A girlfriend who you do not find attractive is the wrong girlfriend. I disagree with the article.

Below, I will call out why this is bad advice as it is framed. If the title of the article were something like "6 Reasons to be More Social in Real Life", then this might have been a valid article.




1 and 2. Loneliness and isolation are bad. A man doesn't need a girlfriend for this. Male friends will do for this. A man could also get a female friend for this. A lot of men might have a female co-worker already that he could see socially every so often. If a man lives in the same city as a sister or female cousin, that's also a solution.

3. If a man wants a female for social circle introductions, sisters and female cousins are the best options. After that, female platonic friends/acquaintances. A lot of men already have female platonic friends. It's a HUGE advantage to have a sister (preferably a younger sister) living in the same geographic area. A female cousin can also work well for this. A man doesn't need an unattractive girlfriend to get social circle introductions.

4. If a man really needs this, then there are other options besides dating someone unattractive for this.

5. Being seen doesn't mean much anymore. I live in one of the biggest cities in the USA. I can walk anonymously through my city as much as I want.

6. Once again, sisters, female cousins, and even platonic female friends would do this without the complication of a dating relationship with a subpar woman.

Male friends don't get your balls emptied though.

 

[SW15]

Male friends don't get your balls emptied though.

Female platonic friends don't either. Additionally, the article promoted possible non-sexual dating relationships.

 

[zekko]

Female platonic friends don't either. Additionally, the article promoted possible non-sexual dating relationships.

I must have missed that part. But I was thinking, why make the girl your girlfriend? If you're in that situation, just friend her up and go out and do some things with her. That would take care of your isolation at least, without doing anything you might find distasteful. Of course the bad part is she's liable to get a crush on you, and that can cause all sorts of problems.

 

[BadBoy89]

Sure, as long as she pays for everything and I can sleep with other hot girls while I'm dating her.

I'm a feminist.

 

[SW15]

I must have missed that part. But I was thinking, why make the girl your girlfriend? If you're in that situation, just friend her up and go out and do some things with her. That would take care of your isolation at least, without doing anything you might find distasteful. Of course the bad part is she's liable to get a crush on you, and that can cause all sorts of problems.

I agree and I doubt she would get a crush. It's true that can cause problems but most women today have too much abundance to get crushes on mid tier looks male friends.

 

[Ricky]

I think a guy with no experience can benefit from ramping up from less favorable to more. I did this in the early 2000s went from 5s to 9s pretty quickly

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I think a guy with no experience can benefit from ramping up from less favorable to more. I did this in the early 2000s went from 5s to 9s pretty quickly

That's why I think this teenager advice thread should be in another forum, not The Mature Man.

 

[Gamisch]

Sorry but this is some number one bullsh1t. This is (as usual) written by a man who is coping and trying to justify his poor decision.

I've tried this ( ofcourse) and here's the main issue; your hb4 will soon feel like she is the best you can get and starts giving you the exact same shyte that the hb9 would give you. Its like buying a cheap car only to find out your maintenance costs running so high you might as well get a better car with less additional costs.

That's how women operate. You won't be able to " convince " her she should be happy because she is a 4 and you are a 6. Now you end up getting cheated on by the hb4.. I'd say that ALL women regardless of age ,race , or attractiveness bring the same amount of drama..it takes tons of toxicity to "keep her in check" like that and it just takes another dude whispering some positive comments I'm her ear to make her stray.

The ONLY way to do this is by meeting a 4/5/6, using her attraction towards you as leverage and keep riding that train. You basically treat her as equal, as IF she is a 9. You can't treat a woman like she is a 4 ,even if she is a 3..

 

[zekko]

I agree and I doubt she would get a crush. It's true that can cause problems but most women today have too much abundance to get crushes on mid tier looks male friends.

I don't know, if she's a 3-5 especially, I could see it. On the other hand, there's a fair chance she might try to keep the crush a secret, or only make very subtle hints that you could ignore.

 

[New_Journey]

Male friends don't get your balls emptied though.

Nice way of putting puzzy on a pedestal.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Male friends don't get your balls emptied though.

I'm sure they would if you asked them nicely.

 

[Manure Spherian]

One of latest newsletters from alan thompson goes against the advice given by posters on these forums. If a man listened to advice on these forums he would have blue balls waiting for a unicorn to show up. Below is the newsletter :- Today's tip is guaranteed to be controversial. Some of you are going to read it, nod along, and think this is great advice. And some of you are going to get mad, email me and tell me it is the worst tip ever. LOL! Read on, and let me know what you think...

6 Reasons to Date Girls You Are NOT Attracted To by Joseph Here's the number one all-time most important tip that you will ever get. Get a girlfriend! "What?" I hear you say. "But that's exactly why I'm getting these tips, because I can't get a girlfriend." Really? Are you being completely honest with yourself? What about that chubby girl that used to smile at you a lot? Or that slightly nerdy girl that seemed interested in you? You know what I mean don't you? You know that you have passed up girls that you aren't interested in because they don't meet some standard, because they are not the one you could consider falling in love with. Well, my friend, you are making a huge mistake. If you are alone and the only girl that seems interested in you is a "2" and is 100 lbs. overweight, go out with her! You don't have to marry her. You don't have to be long term. You don't have to even get intimate with her. But for goodness sake, take her out somewhere and have a good time together. Why? Well, there are lots of reasons. 6 Reasons to Get a Girlfriend - Any Girlfriend 1) You will not be lonely and isolated. Even though you will feel less than content and satisfied, at some level in your subconscious you are having basic human needs for affection, attention, and company with the opposite sex met. You will, even without realizing it, be more relaxed and confident. 2) You will prevent yourself from sliding down a black hole of alienation, social isolation, depression and loneliness. You will "have a life." This is good for you generally, and good for the vibe you will radiate at other women. 3) She will introduce you into her social circle. You will meet potential friends, you will have a social life, you will feel even better about life, and you will meet more women in a social setting. 4) You will be getting practice and experience just hanging out with and conversing with a woman. You will be learning more and more about how to act around women. This will come more naturally. 5) You will be seen about with her. DON'T be embarrassed by this! Believe me, the 3-5's will notice and wonder what she's got that they haven't. There is nothing worse than being constantly seen about town moping about by yourself. 6) Now, assuming you don't fall in love with her (don't laugh, it happens), you will be in a perfect position to start dating a 3-5 when she starts showing interest in you... And then that will lead to you being noticed by the 5-7s... and then you are pretty close to being noticed by the ones you really like, by which stage you will be ready to interact with them more naturally. Get it? What's Stopping You? What stops you from doing this? Is it really because a less than beautiful girl repulses you? I doubt it. It is probably because you are a decent and good young man who doesn't want to lead on a girl that he isn't REALLY interested in. You don't want to hurt her. You don't want to date her for a while and then dump her do you? You are scared of "using" her. You don't like hurting females, and that is a good thing and something you should be proud of. So, how to get around this? Well, the first thing is that you keep it casual and you don't promise any more than you are ready to give. Don't lead her on! Date her, enjoy each others company, but don't deceive her and don't use her. If and when the time comes to move on, say this: "Look Julie, I've had a good time with you over the last few weeks/months, but I just don't feel any romantic vibe happening between us and I think it's time to move on." DON'T tell her that you are not attracted to her, and don't tell her you want to be "just friends." If you tell her that you don't feel romance happening between you, then this is a language that females understand. Do It Now! So get out there and get a girlfriend, ANY GIRLFRIEND! DO IT NOW! ===== I would like to thank Joseph for submitting this tip. I'm sure that many of you will find it quite insightful. And some of you will not like it at all. But when it comes to dating, there is no substitute for practice and experience. Good luck! Allen SoSuave.com I want your thoughts and opinions. What do you like about this newsletter? What do you dislike about this newsletter? What topics interest you the most? What questions do you have about women and dating? Just hit reply and let me know.

I like it. Some men should get a less attractive woman and move on with life.

 

[New_Journey]

I like it. Some men should get a less attractive woman and move on with life.

It sounds to me that you had to settle with what you were able to get, is that what you did? Got a girl at the end of her beauty years cause that was what you could get? Would you recommend that to your son? Get a not attractive girl and move on with life?