Handsiness and age

[Clockwerk50]

I’m not sure. I haven’t had many experiences with 60-year-olds who aren’t family.

That said, the principle remains the same—if they’re attracted to you, they’ll casually get close, even putting their breasts against your arm, nonchalantly.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Umm, isn't handsiness (and affectionate behavior in general) most common in Latin cultures?

Re-read what I said: In Anglo culture, women generally get more latitude on this front than men do. Obviously, this isn't the case everywhere else on the planet

 

[SW15]

My fixation is rooted in a phobia that's not going anywhere.

Yes, because you are desperate to hold onto this like a beggar holds onto his last dollar.

Why? Who knows. I'd be working OT to overcome it...you'd rather just give up

You refuse to address it by refusing to seek some combination of talk therapy and medication from mental health professionals.

One might think that getting 20 something year old prime pussie would be enough of a motivation to take action to fix the problem.

 

[GoodMan32]

Yes, because you are desperate to hold onto this like a beggar holds onto his last dollar.

Why? Who knows. I'd be working OT to overcome it...you'd rather just give up

@SW15 has said he likes to check the condom throughout the romp (to make sure it hasn't broken/slipped off)

It just so happens I did the condom-checking strategy this past summer with a woman around my age.

Checking the condom took all the joy out of sex for me. If condom-checking is the solution to a pregnancy phobia, count me out.

With a 45+ broad, I love how I can fvck away without worrying about what happens to the condom (if it breaks/slips off, oh well)

If a guy doesn't mind checking the condom constantly, fine, have at it. All I'm saying is it's not for me.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

@SW15 has said he likes to check the condom throughout the romp (to make sure it hasn't broken/slipped off)

It just so happens I did the condom-checking strategy this past summer with a woman around my age.

Checking the condom took all the joy out of sex for me. If condom-checking is the solution to a pregnancy phobia, count me out.

With a 45+ broad, I love how I can fvck away without worrying about what happens to the condom (if it breaks/slips off, oh well)

If a guy doesn't mind checking the condom constantly, fine, have at it. All I'm saying is it's not for me.

Blah blah blah blah blah

 

[GoodMan32]

You refuse to address it by refusing to seek some combination of talk therapy and medication from mental health professionals.

One might think that getting 20 something year old prime pussie would be enough of a motivation to take action to fix the problem.

You're talking about a guy who no-showed when a beautiful woman in the first half of her 20s invited me swimming.

 

[GoodMan32]

Blah blah blah blah blah

My post was meant to be serious.

If the condom-checking strategy isn't my cup of tea, that's worth taking into account (when telling me which age cohort to focus on)

 

[BaronOfHair]

With a 45+ broad, I love how I can fvck away without worrying about what happens to the condom (if it breaks/slips off, oh well)


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Women in this age bracket CAN still become pregnant, and the risk of birth defects in such incidents is astronomical. You're inviting more melodrama into your life, by pursuing this obsession

 

[BackInTheGame78]

My post was meant to be serious.

If the condom-checking strategy isn't my cup of tea, that's worth taking into account (when telling me which age cohort to focus on)

That's the sad part.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I don't get it. If you're that afraid of passing on your DNA and afraid of impregnating someone, why not have a vasectomy? Would solve all your problems.

 

[Vanderdonck]

Don't overthink this. Older women have plausible deniability via:

- Rank (older = more experienced)
- Desexualization (older = menopausal)
- Social status (probably married or partnered, unlikely to be hitting on you or perceived as such)
- Gender (they get more latitude than older men)

A young hot woman is not going to hardcore kino you unless her interest level is through the roof or her inhibitions are lowered.

 

[GoodMan32]

I don't get it. If you're that afraid of passing on your DNA and afraid of impregnating someone, why not have a vasectomy? Would solve all your problems.

I have a recent-ish thread about vasectomies (where I mentioned I was thinking of getting one)

After doing some more research on vasectomies, I've opted out of getting a vasectomy. I guess it's going to be a lifetime of older women for me.

As for @BaronOfHair, I'm aware pregnancy is still possible at 45. It's way less likely at that age than it is even at, say, 39, however.

And yeah, I'm aware the risk of birth defects is a lot higher at that age. You know what else is a lot higher at that age? The risk of miscarriage.

When the odds of pregnancy are extremely low to begin with, and the odds of miscarriage (in the event a pregnancy were to occur) are relatively high, I'm willing to take my chances.

Also worth taking into account is the fact 45 is merely my minimum age. My preference extends into a woman's 60s. Once she's above 50 or so, the odds of pregnancy become next-to-impossible.

 

[GoodMan32]

Don't overthink this. Older women have plausible deniability via:

- Rank (older = more experienced)
- Desexualization (older = menopausal)
- Social status (probably married or partnered, unlikely to be hitting on you or perceived as such)
- Gender (they get more latitude than older men)

A young hot woman is not going to hardcore kino you unless her interest level is through the roof or her inhibitions are lowered.

Yeah, an older woman is more likely to be married.

I mentioned on the forum that a woman in her 60s who works for a different company in my office building was handsy with me last week. She's married. I'm aware it's unlikely she's genuinely looking to get my younger banana. Still, I enjoy her handsiness.

When she was acting handsy last week, it just so happens we were discussing a topic that's come up on this forum before: The idea that getting rejected a lot is the key to getting over a fear of rejection.

She said getting rejected a lot could just as likely backfire (and lead to you hating rejection even more)

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

After doing some more research on vasectomies, I've opted out of getting a vasectomy.

And your reasons for opting out are?

 

[GoodMan32]

And your reasons for opting out are?

In a nutshell (no pun intended), after reading more about the procedure, it simply isn't something I want to put myself through.

One big turnoff is the fact they apparently put permanent clips at the ends of your snipped pipes. Count me out.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

In a nutshell (no pun intended), after reading more about the procedure, it simply isn't something I want to put myself through.
One big turnoff is the fact they apparently put permanent clips at the ends of your snipped pipes. Count me out.

Where did you get your info? Reddit? Did you even speak to 1 person who has had a vasectomy?

 

[GoodMan32]

Where did you get your info? Reddit? Did you even speak to 1 person who has had a vasectomy?

I did a Google search (which brought me to all different sources)

And yeah, I've chatted with vasectomy havers.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I did a Google search (which brought me to all different sources)

And yeah, I've chatted with vasectomy havers.

Weird, because in my research your negative points don't show up.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I have a recent-ish thread about vasectomies (where I mentioned I was thinking of getting one)

After doing some more research on vasectomies, I've opted out of getting a vasectomy. I guess it's going to be a lifetime of older women for me.

As for @BaronOfHair, I'm aware pregnancy is still possible at 45. It's way less likely at that age than it is even at, say, 39, however.

And yeah, I'm aware the risk of birth defects is a lot higher at that age. You know what else is a lot higher at that age? The risk of miscarriage.

When the odds of pregnancy are extremely low to begin with, and the odds of miscarriage (in the event a pregnancy were to occur) are relatively high, I'm willing to take my chances.

Also worth taking into account is the fact 45 is merely my minimum age. My preference extends into a woman's 60s. Once she's above 50 or so, the odds of pregnancy become next-to-impossible.

If this(Chasing older women) is a pursuit you just can't help but follow, fine.... Be prepared for the other 98% of the heterosexual male population on this planet to find you incomprehensible though

 

[GoodMan32]

Weird, because in my research your negative points don't show up.

I also read stuff about anesthesia wearing off in the middle of a vasectomy.

Once again, count me out.

I'd rather go the rest of my time on this earth without ever bagging a fertile hottie again than have anesthesia wear off in the middle of getting my plumbing torn apart.