Gym long game

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People talk about the gym long game but doesnt long game usually turn out to be friend zone.

I dont approach at the gym but usually when they smile after we make eye contact and are nearby enough the next time, Ill make some comment. But then again most women at my gym stick to the yoga mat section while I rarely leave the weight section. Only time I leave is for some isolation machines which are between the two. If she asks for a name and then runs away that is a IoI but waiting for too long might just push you into the friend zone category.

At least here in UK unistudents have stopped drinking as much and are less social in groups but open to speaking alone. So figured I can break the dont **** where you eat for the gym.
 

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Before you go to the gym, you always want to be in the best state of mind as possible. That’s where things like upbeat positive inspiring music, Prayer - Gratitude prayer of Thanking God for what you have and meditation comes in.

Start living a Simple lifestyle and get rid of all the toxic things in your life. Minimize and unclutter your schedules and possessions so you’ll feel more refreshed throughout the day,


When you’re talking to anyone, not just a chick, you want to be in a position of GIVING your positive cool vibes instead of taking. When you do that, people will naturally gravitate towards you because your unselfish and genuine. So give when your flirting with a woman and that can only be possible by changing your lifestyle and spiritual outlook on life.

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It's not that serious. There's no "long game" to play when you're in university using your school's gym - you're here for 3 years, and your schedule changes every semester...if you see somebody you like, just go say hi.

"Don't sh** where you eat" applies to workplace romances because if things go south it's very easy to get a bad reputation, and fired as result.

At a university gym? So long as you're not getting a reputation for hitting on every girl, or being super creepy in your approaches, nobody really cares.
 

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I don't believe in long game at any gym. @BPH illustrated why it's not necessary at university gyms.

At gyms for non-college students (the working population), people change gym memberships/memberships at standalone fitness studios all the time.

At gyms/fitness studios, it's recommend to strike immediately. Ask a woman out immediately once you see her and approach her.
 

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There's no "long game" to play when you're in university using your school's gym - you're here for 3 years, and your schedule changes every semester...if you see somebody you like, just go say hi.
At a university gym? So long as you're not getting a reputation for hitting on every girl, or being super creepy in your approaches, nobody really cares.
I guess this makes sense since in a way everyone is vetted to an extent so not complete strangers and yeah going to leave in a few months so big deal. Yeah not going to talk to every single one and mostly I just ignore them and look through most and focus on getting out in under an hour.

At gyms/fitness studios, it's recommend to strike immediately. Ask a woman out immediately once you see her and approach her.
So if the first conversation was cut short then I guess it is a lost cause and asking out the next time would have diminishing returns. Or does it not matter.
 

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if the first conversation was cut short then I guess it is a lost cause and asking out the next time would have diminishing returns. Or does it not matter.
If a first conversation on the general gym floor or at a fitness class (either a standalone facility class or a class setting within a gym) was cut short, then it means her interest level in you was insufficient. The reason why her interest level is insufficient is meaningless. It could have something to do with you or it could have absolutely nothing to do with you.

At the gym or after a fitness class, find the women most interested in having a meaningful interaction with you. Start a conversation with those women, use conversational skills to keep them engaged to the best of your ability, then ask her on a date on the spot.
 

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If your tactful the gym is a really good place to start building some social proof

Last year when I was in the UK I was in a heavily student dominate gym , it wasn't specifically by choice it was just very close to where I lived

First 2 months I was there I kept myself to myself hardly spoke to anyone , but after a while some faces started getting more and more familiar there eventually I started chatting to some of the trainers , then some guys and eventually started to get to know a lot of the chicks

And this is the thing with chicks before they will let you anywhere near them or their freinds they want to suss you out a bit so the gym is great for this because its a very casual environment where its acceptable to just mingle with people

I eventually left for Australia so I didn't really have a chance to capitalise on any of the groundwork I did but towards the end I did have a few chicks from there messaging me and snooping me on Instagram

You have to be careful though becuase the gym is also a very gossipy place almost like a school playground

One guy tried doing what I did in terms of getting to know people, but he was too heavy handed with it he hit on nearly every chick in there got instantly rejected by nearly all of them and word quickly went around he was a weird creep

Once you get a label like that slapped on you in somewhere like the gym it really is game over..... time to find a new gym
 

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If a first conversation on the general gym floor or at a fitness class (either a standalone facility class or a class setting within a gym) was cut short, then it means her interest level in you was insufficient.
yeah this was confusing to me cause she asked me about what im doing and my name, which typically is something only the interested ones do. But idk maybe I said something that didnt resonate with her.


You have to be careful though becuase the gym is also a very gossipy place almost like a school playground

One guy tried doing what I did in terms of getting to know people, but he was too heavy handed with it he hit on nearly every chick in there got instantly rejected by nearly all of them and word quickly went around he was a weird creep

Once you get a label like that slapped on you in somewhere like the gym it really is game over..... time to find a new gym
Nah I get it mainly a quick in and out. And I;m not going to be in this gym for too long, maybe few months more.
 

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I get it mainly a quick in and out. And I;m not going to be in this gym for too long, maybe few months more.
A lot of gyms experience a good deal of turnover in their membership. People change gyms all the time.

Due to membership churn, there's never any guarantee that you'll see anyone again. That's why I believe in making moves immediately in the gym. When moves are made immediately in the gym, it does increase the chance of an uncomfortable social interaction in the near future. It can be uncomfortable for some period of time at the gym under the following situations...

1. You approach her at the gym, she rejects you, and you still have to see her when working out for some time until one or both of you change gyms. This is something that tends to happen more at gyms/fitness classes than happens at a mall, grocery store, or nightlife venue. When a woman rejects your first date offer off of an initial approach at those venues, you will never see her again if you live in a bigger city.

2. You approach her at the gym and have something like 1-2 sexless dates before things fizzle out. You might still see her at that gym until one or both of you change gyms. Not fun.

3. The initial approach is a success, sex is had, and it leads to some medium term relationship (a few months to a few years). The relationship fails. Once the relationship fails, one person in that failed couple will need to change gyms. This scenario is a little easier than previous 2.

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Approaching in a gym is somewhat dependent upon how much you like your current gym and how willing you are to change gyms.

I've kept the same primary gym for over 10 years. I like that gym. I have done approaches there. At this primary gym, I've tended to do more approaches in the fitness classes they offer as compared to doing the approaches on the general gym floor. I don't see that much overlap between class attendees and the general gym floor but it happens. Approaches after a fitness class are somewhat easier than the general gym floor because classes eliminate the earbud problem.

Most men tend to do more approaching on the general gym floor than in fitness class formats. There are advantages and disadvantages to both tactical plans.

I will do something at time that will reduce uncomfortable social situations and also expand my exposure to different women. I will go to secondary facilities (usually standalone fitness class brands -- Title Boxing and SoulCycle are examples of these kinds of brands) and buy a short term class package of 5-10 classes or so. I use up the 5-10 classes and see if I get any dates during those short term 5-10 class periods. That way, I am free to escalate fast on women in approaches and face no consequences for doing so.
 

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I treat my gym the same way I treat work.

Don’t sh*t where you eat.

No one wants to feel uncomfortable at their work or gym because of a DJ move that didn’t work out.
 

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I treat my gym the same way I treat work.

Don’t sh*t where you eat.

No one wants to feel uncomfortable at their work or gym because of a DJ move that didn’t work out.
If you are making a woman feel uncomfortable by asking her out you need to work on your social skills.
 
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