Hard time holding onto a woman

[GoodMan32]

I've mentioned on this forum before that most of the free sex I've had came from Craigslist (and other than the married woman I had the monthlong affair with from Craigslist, every Craigslist escapade was a one night stand). It's been suggested on this forum that even though a non-Chad might get lucky occassionally with short-term fun on Craigslist, a non-Chad really isn't able to expect to find a long-term partner on Craigslist.

Which would suggest perhaps the key is to meet broads from methods other than Craigslist.

After thinking on it, however, I've unfortunately run into a similar predicament with women I've gotten involved with through other methods (whether it be other tech methods or meeting organically in person).

The women I've gotten involved with through other methods tend to fall into 1 of 2 categories:

-They lose interest in me relatively quickly

Or

-They have strong interest in me, yet I quickly lose interest in her (Let's put it this way: If a woman is willing to tolerate an autist like me long-term, chances are there's something severely wrong with her...to the point where she's so unbearable to be around, I'm unable to tolerate staying with her long-term)

One notable exception is the broad I had the 8 month relationship with shortly after college (compared to all my other broads, 8 months is long-term). But even though she wasn't necessarily unbearable to be around, I wasn't attracted to her. I only stayed with her as long as I did (and yeah, the breakup was my decision) because she was all I could get. At my current age, I'm no longer willing to be with a woman I'm not attracted to, even if she's enjoyable to be around.

In a nutshell, no matter how I meet a woman, it would appear (based on past experience) holding onto her long-term will be a struggle.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Hi @GoodMan32,

Wasn't all the necessary information for building longer relationships already covered in your "More Than a One-Night Stand" topic?

More than a one night stand

There's an active thread on here about how all it takes is one slip for a woman to "next" a man. The thread I'm starting right now is similar, only geared specifically to my circumstances. My problem with "nexting" is how often (and how quickly) it happens. Of the 9 free sex partners I've had...

www.sosuave.net

Best regards,

Clockwerk50

 

[The Duke]

What traits/characteristics do you have that would interest a woman? Why should a woman want to stay with you? What makes you different than the rest? What does she get out of the deal? What is it you are looking for in a woman?...Regular sex? lol You constantly referring to women as broads tells me you have a negative view towards them. Its quite likely all you want them for is sex.

I sure wouldn't go looking for girls on Craigslist hoping to find something that was more than sex.

What have you done in the past 2 months to actively increase your chances with women? Posting on SS doesn't count. Have you socialized with any groups of people other than your family members? Have you met anyone new?

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I sure wouldn't go looking for girls on Craigslist hoping to find something that was more than sex.

Unless you prowl the second hand goods for vintage items.

Wasn't all the necessary information for building longer relationships already covered in your "More Than a One-Night Stand" topic?

Of course, but you might have skipped that thread, so here it is again.

 

[BPH]

I agree with what @Clockwerk50 said.

I believe, at this point, you like talking about your problems more than you like doing anything about them. Between "More than a one night stand", "Getting with older women", and whatever thread you started about when to reveal your fetishes, it's clear you don't have any interest in actually solving any of your problems.

It looks like you've posted on here 62 times in the last week, almost 10 times per day.

I think you just like having a conversation. Because why else would you keep posting the same question? You already know what to do - we've told you multiple times.

Any advice offered to you is falling on deaf ears.

 

[GoodMan32]

Hi @GoodMan32,

Wasn't all the necessary information for building longer relationships already covered in your "More Than a One-Night Stand" topic?

More than a one night stand

There's an active thread on here about how all it takes is one slip for a woman to "next" a man. The thread I'm starting right now is similar, only geared specifically to my circumstances. My problem with "nexting" is how often (and how quickly) it happens. Of the 9 free sex partners I've had...

www.sosuave.net

Best regards,

Clockwerk50

That linked thread certainly has a lot of overlap with the topic of this thread.

This thread though is focused more on specific methods. Perhaps there's a method I'm not thinking of that would yield better results.

This thread also delves into the fact there have been broads who wanted to be with me for longer; I just didn't want to be with her.

 

[The Duke]

I agree with what @Clockwerk50 said.

I believe, at this point, you like talking about your problems more than you like doing anything about them. Between "More than a one night stand", "Getting with older women", and whatever thread you started about when to reveal your fetishes, it's clear you don't have any interest in actually solving any of your problems.

It looks like you've posted on here 62 times in the last week, almost 10 times per day.

I think you just like having a conversation. Because why else would you keep posting the same question? You already know what to do - we've told you multiple times.

Any advice offered to you is falling on deaf ears.

Him and Corrector are twin brothers. Both extremely talented in finding reasons not to improve their situation.

 

[GoodMan32]

What traits/characteristics do you have that would interest a woman? Why should a woman want to stay with you? What makes you different than the rest? What does she get out of the deal? What is it you are looking for in a woman?...Regular sex? lol You constantly referring to women as broads tells me you have a negative view towards them. Its quite likely all you want them for is sex.

I sure wouldn't go looking for girls on Craigslist hoping to find something that was more than sex.

What have you done in the past 2 months to actively increase your chances with women? Posting on SS doesn't count. Have you socialized with any groups of people other than your family members? Have you met anyone new?

To address your first few questions (which ultimately lead up to the question of what makes me different from the rest), unless a man is top tier, he isn't going to stand out from the rest.

Put another way: If you get overly analytical, you can make it sound like most of the male population doesn't really have much going for him (as far as piquing a woman's interest). Yet plenty of average men manage to hold onto a woman long-term.

I'd like regular sex, yeah. That's not all I want though. I like the sounds of what @Lean Baby Face described as his ideal arrangement: An older woman he has regular sex with, has a deeper connection with as well, yet has no boyfriend/girlfriend (or husband/wife) level of commitment.

To address your last paragraph, I've been to 2 speed dating events in the past 2 months.

 

[GoodMan32]

I agree with what @Clockwerk50 said.

I believe, at this point, you like talking about your problems more than you like doing anything about them. Between "More than a one night stand", "Getting with older women", and whatever thread you started about when to reveal your fetishes, it's clear you don't have any interest in actually solving any of your problems.

It looks like you've posted on here 62 times in the last week, almost 10 times per day.

I think you just like having a conversation. Because why else would you keep posting the same question? You already know what to do - we've told you multiple times.

Any advice offered to you is falling on deaf ears.

Amazing, you're implying it's somehow a problem that I prefer an older woman (and have a dealbreaker fetish)

 

[BPH]

Amazing, you're implying it's somehow a problem that I prefer an older woman (and have a dealbreaker fetish)

It is a problem when you make multiple posts about it and nothing's changed. You just like talking more than doing.

EDIT: I'm not replying after this, I'm sure this will become another 5-10 page of useless filler, as has been the case with most of your threads.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Him and Corrector are twin brothers. Both extremely talented in finding reasons not to improve their situation.

I'd say that describes most SoSuavers, and most humans in general.

 

[Clockwerk50]

That linked thread certainly has a lot of overlap with the topic of this thread.

This thread though is focused more on specific methods. Perhaps there's a method I'm not thinking of that would yield better results.

This thread also delves into the fact there have been broads who wanted to be with me for longer; I just didn't want to be with her.

Hi @GoodMan32

I see what you're saying, but I feel like the majority of the methods in this thread were already covered in your "More Than a One-Night Stand" topic. These two threads seem to overlap by about 95%, especially since we've already discussed the dynamics of women losing interest quickly. Even the final sentence in your original post is essentially reiterating what was covered earlier—"no matter how I meet a woman, it would appear (based on past experience) holding onto her long-term will be a struggle." That’s still in line with the advice you received in the previous thread and it doesn’t change the broader principles that were already addressed.

That being said, if you’re still looking for new methods, maybe consider signing up for @AsianPlayboy course. I’ve heard from people like MatureDJ who signed up, and rumor has it he’s having much better success with women now.

 

[GoodMan32]

It is a problem when you make multiple posts about it and nothing's changed. You just like talking more than doing.

EDIT: I'm not replying after this, I'm sure this will become another 5-10 page of useless filler, as has been the case with most of your threads.

It's been suggested to me that the "solution" to my preference for older broads is to start preferring younger broads.

That's like telling a gay man to go straight. I can't help what I prefer.

So yeah, if the "fix" is to change my age preference, I'm not going to do the fix.

Same goes for the fetish thing; I can't help what my fetish is.

 

[GoodMan32]

I'd say that describes most SoSuavers, and most humans in general.

One problem is the fact posters on here (as well as folks in the outside word) are prone to giving others unsolicited advice. For example, I recall @BPH was given unwanted financial advice he never asked for.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Him and Corrector are twin brothers. Both extremely talented in finding reasons not to improve their situation.

Actually, they're both like women on swipe apps who want to chat but not go on a date, they're only here for validation.

 

[GoodMan32]

Actually, they're both like women on swipe apps who want to chat but not go on a date, they're only here for validation.

If what you're saying about me were true, I wouldn't have gone to 2 recent speed dating events.

The fact I attended 2 speed dating events lately shows I'm serious about turning over a new leaf.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

If what you're saying about me were true, I wouldn't have gone to 2 recent speed dating events.

No, because you only went to them in order to post ten threads on how you went on two disastrous single events.

 

[GoodMan32]

No, because you only went to them in order to post ten threads on how you went on two disastrous single events.

The fact I attempted to share contact information with a broad at the first event, and handed out my card to probably 10 broads at the 2nd event, proves I was genuinely looking for a connection.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

The fact I attempted to share contact information with a broad at the first event, and handed out my card to probably 10 broads at the 2nd event, proves I was genuinely looking for a connection.

Not if you're setting yourself up for failure from the beginning.

 

[GoodMan32]

Not if you're setting yourself up for failure from the beginning.

Setting myself up for failure?

I learned from the first event...and came better-prepared to the 2nd one (with cards)

That's what I've been told to do all along on this forum: Learn from failure.